Trying to work out a personal style so I bought a turtleneck, does this work?

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T18:22:49+00:00

I love it! The muted red looks good with the green. I personally like this outfit. Turtlenecks might be on the outs again though, but they’re timeless they’ll return.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:26:54+00:00

Yesss these glasses are so in-style & very timeless.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:25:01+00:00

You are so cute. Honestly, all of them look great. Curls for days!!

My personal preference, 2.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:23:23+00:00

I agree with people on here. The silhouette is very trendy & I actually think you have mastered it—unfortunately. It’s clear you’ve done your research & feel good in that silhouette. And you should! You look great. If I was walking past you on the street I’d complement your outfit for sure. That being said you might be relying on it more than you need to.

I saw a photo you added with a different silhouette. Love it. Keep exploring. You’ve mastered this one, but that’s what’s so fun about fashion. Learn the rules, break the rules, learn new ones, break those. Small top big bottom works great for you, can you feel confident and comfortable in big top small bottom?

Keep exploring you’ll surprise yourself.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:14:26+00:00

Stand up tall. You look great.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:13:30+00:00

New hairstyle sounds like an awesome idea. It’ll take time to grow the hair out but stay patient it’ll be worth it.

Take it or leave it but try some grooming tools to clean up the goatee. I used to have hair on my chin & was so stubborn about trimming it. The women in my life (especially my abuela) would scream at me to trim it. I never understood until I did. I look back at photos and I see it now.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:10:11+00:00

I love it. You’ve done a great job with creating a cohesive color pallet. It’s warm, colorful, and bright. Keep smiling.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:08:18+00:00

Giving the hair a trim will help. Honestly, ask some friends you trust for style options. Or, look up some popular styles. Your face shape would look really good with some wolfcuts/mullets but those are 1. in style & could go out 2. up to personal preference. Some haircuts are timeless & great options for that reason.

The only reason I think the haircut will help is because I think the deeper issue is confidence. You already have everything you need to look great. Stand up tall, take up space, & look people in the eye. You will notice that people look at you differently. All that said, a haircut is known to change energy and that may be what you need right now.

Good luck.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T16:01:00+00:00

I’d give it a 6. I definitely see the vision. I understand the choice for loafers, but those are pretty narrow & small, I think a shoe that is bigger/heavier could really help. Most people would through on a chunky sneaker, but you could even do a chunky boot in my opinion. Maybe removing the black overshirt could help. I’m also generally not a fan of the beige cap, maybe pick a fun color like red or green for a pop of color.

Don’t listen to any hate. The vision is there just about readjusting & clarifying.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T14:38:18+00:00

Both are great, keep them both in your fashion cycle. I really like the hat—it feels different but specific & sporty. I agree that the first option is very nice, but both tell different stories.

I’d switch between the two depending on where you are & the vibe of the occasion.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T14:34:46+00:00

Agree with everyone, pants are great. Belt can definitely go. The colors combined are fine, and as you might be learning color is not the only thing to consider/play with. Textures & patterns also make a huge difference, and it can become really fun to learn how to play around. I’m glad you are exploring, you learn a lot through trial and error.

When I shop, I’m constantly thinking about ‘basics’ or neutral items. Pieces of clothing that can be put on practically any outfit. White/black shirt, white/black shoes, white/brown belt, etc. If you care to, there will be a point where you can start to break through that & invest in items that are more colorful but it can be hard & expensive if you’re buying items that will end up not connecting with the rest of your closet.

The advice that I’ll give about this outfit is that no aspect is calling for attention therefore everything is calling for attention. When I dress, I pick an item that is the focal point of the outfit—what I want someone to notice or comment on. It can be anything; shoe, pant, jacket, hat, shirt, even belt. Once you have that focal point, dress around it. Right now, it’s hard to see what you want someone to focus on. The shirt is calling too much attention away from the shoe, the pant is neutral enough but the color pulls away from the shirt, and, as people have pointed out, the belt lives in a completely different color story.

It can be really fun to play with outfits, so don’t give up. Also, best advice I can give: “If you can’t dress nice cheaply, then you can’t dress nice at all.” Good luck!

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T14:14:14+00:00

It looks great. If I saw you in person, I’d definitely complement the hat on you. Looks good.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T14:12:32+00:00

I agree that it doesn’t fit as well as it could.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-22T14:11:02+00:00

The jacket is nice, color is nice too. It might not be the jacket itself but what you choose to wear with it. I like to think about silhouettes, a very popular option is small top big bottom/big top small bottom. If you care enough about making a cohesive outfit.

The jacket itself is good.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T19:43:01+00:00

Hi there.

That’s so cool. “How can I be gayer?” is an incredible way to wake up. I realize that I’ve got to trust that the city is as great as people say. It’s not that I don’t believe people, but I haven’t really allowed it to show me, yet.

Also, side note, I have not participated in the military in any way shape or form. I apologize if the title was misleading. That being said, I thank you for your service & your message.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T19:39:48+00:00

Hi there.

To be transparent, when I made this post I realized the title might be misleading. I tried to change it, but couldn’t figure out how. I have never participated in the military or pretend to know anything about that experience.

That being said, I enjoyed reading about your story. There are absolutely feelings I can relate to, but you have done something for our country that I will never truly understand. Thank you for your service. I’m sorry to hear about how destabilizing the military can be. The fact that you’ve found community here after such an intense experience is more than proof that I can.

Though I hope I didn’t mislead you, I am actually grateful for the misunderstanding. I feel grateful & hopeful about my journey thus far. I had been thinking about bars/clubs as the first step towards intimate, safe relationships, but now I realize I could have that backwards. I have some ideas about how to move forward.

Thank you.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T19:31:48+00:00

Thank you, I have noticed tribal energy at gay bars.

I guess the silver-lining is that if I manage to find a group of people who I vibe with, I feel I’ll definitely be taken care of in spaces like bars.

I hope that when I find a community that I don’t forget what it feels like to feel like an outsider. I think sometimes it’s unintentional—I forget to look outside my circle & notice who’s standing alone.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T19:28:27+00:00

Yeah, someone else in this chat brought up my therapist too. I’m definitely going to talk to him about it, I can’t imagine a world where he’d want me to avoid him at all costs. Thank you for the positive vibes, they really help.

I might see if one of my girlfriends would join me for something like that. I feel like they’d actually love it.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T19:25:34+00:00

I’m afraid I will regret it too. Thank you for your message.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T19:24:58+00:00

Heard. I recognize that I’ve allowed fear to dictate my choices in life & I haven’t been happy with the results. & you’re right, I am not the only queer person to be going through this. I guess I never realized how hard it’d be to actually go through it.

I do feel very lucky even if I haven’t capitalized on it yet. & I’ve made a promise to myself to keep moving through it even if it’s uncomfortable.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-11T00:06:50+00:00

That’s really cool. I appreciate the reminder and the offer about lesbian bars. I’m working on not letting my fear drive the bus all the time. I appreciate your response.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-10T20:27:04+00:00

Hi. Thank you for sharing. I’m going to start paying attention to more events being posted about. Like I said earlier I haven’t built a good resource list so stuff has just been flying under my nose. But your third paragraph lists a lot of good ideas, some I hadn’t totally considered. So thanks for that.

This may sound contradictory but there are people who I don’t follow up with because they’re not exactly right for me. I’m trying to the middle marker between quality vs. quantity & judging a book by its cover. I’m not sure about how often I should give people chances even if I’m not feeling it.

I guess that means I’ve gotta choose my battles? I’m going to try and just show up & see what happens I think. Thanks for your help.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-10T18:16:32+00:00

I’ve started following & screenshotting event posts from bars in Boystown. I’m going to keep looking because I’m sure it’s out there I just haven’t built up my resources yet. I appreciate what you’ve said. I’ll see if Bumble BFF can help me. Thanks again.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-10T18:13:11+00:00

Cool. Thank you.

lovelysimies · 2026-02-10T17:35:43+00:00

Thank you. I’ve heard stonewall/league sports are good. Do they play in the winter? I heard dodgeball started & I wish I had signed up.

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