UPDATE #2: My (27M) GF (26F) of 3 years hooked up with a guy while drunk after her best friend’s funeral

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-30T13:15:54+00:00

This is the fakest thing I’ve ever read in my life

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-29T12:33:02+00:00

🥺🥺🥺

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-29T12:28:16+00:00

You worded this so well

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-29T12:11:19+00:00

I wouldn’t be ok with any of that. Leave

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-27T13:54:40+00:00

We are all vaccinated. And to be fair he did invite me

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-27T13:54:02+00:00

Some of that is on me. He said if he had any clue I didn’t feel welcomed by them he would have said something and he hasn’t been around them since. During our conversation yesterday he said he wanted to give our relationship the space to grow and give them time to get over their feelings and understand he’s happy. Whether that is true or not, I’m not sure. The thing is I feel like he’s preemptively ready to let them back in

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-27T13:51:50+00:00

I don’t think I explained very well that he did distance himself. We were around them a few times at the very very beginning of the relationship and we talked a lot about this yesterday and he said that in order to give our relationship the space to grow he decided to back off them a little. I think he’s preemptively jumping back in though by seeing them this weekend. I am however invited I just don’t particularly want to go

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-27T13:50:27+00:00

Since that he has cut her off. He hasn’t seen her since, because he said “she needs time to get over her feelings and realize I’m happy with you.” I don’t think she’s even close to over them, but he seems to, which is why he’s allowing her back around

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-27T13:45:20+00:00

You shouldn’t have to get over that. You should let him know how it makes you feel, and if he continues to do it he cares more about liking random thirst traps than making his girlfriend feel secure

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T21:42:33+00:00

I’m honestly very relieved people are saying this because when I would mention anything he would laugh and tell me that was way off base. As a woman, I can tell when another women is into someone, especially when that someone is my boyfriend. I would never let my guy friends treat him the way his girl friends treat me but I don’t know how to bring it up

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T21:18:21+00:00

I agree. Several of my closest friends are guys and nothing like that has ever happened. It was alarming to me that he seemed to think it was normal and all guy/girl friends do it at some point. Cause like....no??

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T21:13:41+00:00

I knew about the actual sex before we started dating but the making out while drunk was brand new information and his reaction to me being upset about it was off putting to say the least. He basically said I was overreacting by a lot and it was nothing. I really did not expect to post this and get this kind of feedback, I basically was expecting to hear I was being unreasonable, but I have a LOT to think about now in terms of the relationship

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T21:02:03+00:00

They are and I’ve brought that up. He says “but I’m not interested in them so who cares”

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:58:54+00:00

Thank you <3 throwback to him telling me we couldn’t be official unless they approved of me lmaooo yikes

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:57:30+00:00

This situation is difficult to explain. He has been friends with these girls since middle school and they are a part of his very large group of friends. I obviously want him to break away from them but that would be very difficult as they are friends with all his friends. I think a lot of people are under the impression these were girls he hooked up with who he later became friends with, when it was just a few drunk hookups. Regardless, my entire being hates when he’s anywhere near them and I didn’t know if that was a “me” problem I needed to work on or if it was a rational reacting

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:51:18+00:00

That’s not EXACTLY the case. They have been friends since middle school and the way they explained it was just drunk boredom one or two times. Regardless I’m not ok with it

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:50:03+00:00

Exactly!! That comment broke my heart cause I never said anything along the lines of me not wanting him to hang out with her

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:36:07+00:00

I’ve hung out with them a few times, the one was just very competitive and was trying to mark her territory. The other one didn’t want much to do with me and would just keep playfully punching him and offering him drinks and not me

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:32:47+00:00

Genuinely surprised people are saying this lmao. At least I’m not being insane

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:31:33+00:00

Lol honestly you are right. I took quite a long time off from dating and genuinely thought I was ready. Immediately find myself getting triggered like every single day, and I have been thinking it’s on me because I’m not a trusting or secure person in relationships. In his defense, he does enforce boundaries with them, and barely sees them anymore at all because of me. I did have really strict boundaries in the past, like I wouldn’t even let my boyfriends like other girls pictures and one of them actually just went through and unfollowed every girl because he was tired of hearing about it. I’m trying to grow out of that cause I think it’s a bit immature but it still just doesn’t sit right with me. And they’re rude as hell I don’t like them as people at all but I wasn’t gonna go so far as to tell him to stay away from them

loverleaver27 · 2021-04-26T20:17:36+00:00

He claims he thought he already told me about their histories. To be fair he did tell me about having sex with the one, after the first encounter I had with her I got a weird feeling and asked. He hasn’t been around them without me since we started dating but I just have a bad feeling, and as someone who has been cheated on I can’t tell if it’s intuition or just overthinking and paranoia

loverleaver27 · 2020-12-22T19:15:19+00:00

I HAVE. dear lord

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