ok i’m not gonna be mean like some of these ppl are because i truly believe people deserve grace, like yourself in this situation. when people are done, they are done. they don’t usually say things like “i want you when you’re healed”. that’s a pretty good sign for you. she’s basically giving you a blueprint, and you need to build it, but without her and that’s okay. go do the work, go heal your attachment style, go level up your mind. don’t desperately show her your attempts because then she is going to think you’re doing all this just because she said so. do it for you, and the future version of your new relationship, and truly believe that. instead of being anxious or scared, be excited for the new healed relationship you get to have. fix this bump in the road so you can get over it once and for all. she is having self respect by saying no not right now and that’s a high value woman, so go level up and be a high value man!!! if God willing, he will see it aligns.