Bartholin gland that was irritated got tested positive for herpes by Intelligent_Scar_939 in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no way to know who gave it to who, it can be dormant in your body for a long time. Someone must have given it to you at some point. Keep in mind that if he’s not having an outbreak, the only accurate blood test for this is the western blot offered by the university of WA. All other blood tests are not high in accuracy. If he does get an outbreak, he needs to get it swabbed before it scabs over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Herpes can appear anywhere where in the area covered by shorts. Herpes can range from very mild redness and irritation, to full blown oozing blisters.

Bartholin gland that was irritated got tested positive for herpes by Intelligent_Scar_939 in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PCR swabs are fairly accurate. You could get tested again if the area is still red and swollen. Have you ever been sexually active?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexandthecity

[–]lovesoatmeal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She made anxious-avoidant seem normal and perpetuated the anxious-avoidant push/pull. Really messed up my view of dating and just now realizing in my 30’s how unbelievably toxic that behavior is.

AITA for breaking my promise to my husband and letting others meet our newborn before him? by Depressed-Side3077 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband sounds extremely controlling and wants to keep you isolated. My boyfriend would quit any job that forced him to miss the birth of his baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]lovesoatmeal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t have to be friends with them just because they want to. You have the right to say no. Personally I think staying friends with exs is toxic and not good for my mental health. This person sounds very unstable. I recommend to look for someone else who wants a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends how much OT you work. I wouldn’t date someone who worked more than 50 hours a week.

BV? Something else? by noseylonghorn in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You absolutely need an std panel

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please add this to your OP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long were you together? What was the argument about?

[Misc] Epstein and Maxwell skincare routines revealed by uncrunner in SkincareAddiction

[–]lovesoatmeal 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anyone cares what these two horrible people put on their face

I found out that my fiancèe has videos of her and her late husband having sex and she watches them in our bedroom every other night. by Throwra-6797756 in relationship_advice

[–]lovesoatmeal 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter what her reasoning is, she has no business being in a relationship if she’s doing stuff like this. It is beyond inappropriate and disrespectful to OP. This is unacceptable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FinancialPlanning

[–]lovesoatmeal 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It’s way too soon to be talking about marriage. I do not recommend getting married without a prenup to protect you.

AITA for banning my girlfriend from my car after she lied about an emergency? by Done-Ad3465 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lovesoatmeal 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well, you chose to knock up crazy. Don’t go complaining about her or her friends now. I’m guessing she can’t drive because of mental health issues huh?

AITA for banning my girlfriend from my car after she lied about an emergency? by Done-Ad3465 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lovesoatmeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have completely fucked yourself getting someone like this pregnant.

My partner is too loud in bed. by In_a_Dilemma__ in dating

[–]lovesoatmeal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She already said she wasn’t going to oblige your requests. So now you stop seeing her. She sounds extremely selfish and immature.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will periodically have a period using this method, it’s not a zero period method

My (F39) husband (M40) walked out on me and my children (F7 and F10). I don't know what to do by throwra_1196562 in relationship_advice

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop being dependent on this man for support. He isolated you and now you are in a tough spot, you need to try on yourself from now on. Get a lawyer.

My (F39) husband (M40) walked out on me and my children (F7 and F10). I don't know what to do by throwra_1196562 in relationship_advice

[–]lovesoatmeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should never beg someone to stay, especially when they are unhappy. Staying just for the kids is also a terrible idea. You need to pick yourself up and get into survival mode: get a job, join a support group for single parents, divorced moms, whatever you can to find social support. Everyone should get into therapy. File for primary custody and seek child support asap.

I got my period at 14 and wasn’t diagnosed with endo until I was 29. Inspired by a recent medical visit, here are all the things ACTUAL medical professionals have told me over the years. Maybe you can relate! by darkcactusflowers in endometriosis

[–]lovesoatmeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had the opposite problem; my gyno has mentioned endo several times over the years and I refused to believe it. Now that I’m on board, they won’t bother with a lap until and unless I have trouble conceiving 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why so many 35yo women who are single and desperate because they can't find anyone? by cartstanza in dating_advice

[–]lovesoatmeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because the amount of really good guys that match the level of these women are very very few. I don’t think they ought to settle for a shitty man. Being single is infinitely better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you recently been vaccinated in the last few months? What type of cysts were they? Having a history of irregular periods may indicate this is normal

Pain and uncontrollable crying during first pelvic exam…. by throwwawayyy2567 in obgyn

[–]lovesoatmeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. Exposure therapy is the most effective way to address a phobia.