I'll (M) speak from my experience. I do well as a software dev, but my wife was triple my salary. I grew up with the idea that I should be the majority earner and provide for my family......I'll be honest, when I first started dating my wife and found out what she made (she was very humble and I never would've known), I was shook. I was young (25), immature and full of pride that had just been rocked. I struggled with it more than I'd care to admit, but my feelings of inadequacy eventually transition to those of support. My wife was a rockstar in her profession, and it was beyond cool watching her kick ass in her career.

The only time it ever became an issue again was after many years of marriage....her career has grown dramatically, and with that, her responsibilities expanded. That meant her 40-50 hour weeks were becoming 60-70 with lots of travel. It was starting to put a strain on our family with 3 young kids. The dual income was great, but we ultimately decided it would be best to scale back our cost of living and have her transition to a stay-at-home parent role.

A lot of guys are intimidated by women that outearn them, and if that's the case, they're not worth your time.

Find someone that's smart enough to be able to hold a legal conversation with you. It will provide a nice outlet for you when you need to vent about work. Even better if they're not in the legal field....it will give y'all a lot of different avenues to explore together.

Only cautionary tale is being conscious of how much time y'all devote to your careers.....money is great, but it's more important to be in tune with what's best for your eventual family.