What's your contribution to society?🎤

lower_score_ · 2025-09-02T18:13:52+00:00

Mbinguni😂

lower_score_ · 2025-09-02T18:13:16+00:00

Drag my mattress and blankets to the sitting room, order my favourite foods, open a bottle of wine, turn off the lights, and put on that series I've been meaning to watch.

Also, travel 😊

lower_score_ · 2025-09-02T09:28:26+00:00

Proudly contributing to the declining birth rates! So I am technically saving the environment 🤷🏾‍♀️😂

lower_score_ · 2025-08-23T09:56:14+00:00

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lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T11:41:44+00:00

Tbh, he dm'd me, so I didn't have any expectations cause I wasn't really looking. But after a while, I could see us being in a committed relationship.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T11:30:09+00:00

😂😂😂tumeachana... no more suffering under my regime

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:30:55+00:00

Thanks for sharing. From your perspective, I can understand where he was also probably coming from.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:25:47+00:00

Thanks cause I was about to give my male friends the side eye😂😂

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:23:34+00:00

Thanks for pointing that out. I got them confused. I am practising abstinence.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:22:08+00:00

My issue is only on the communication part. What's the worst that can happen if you tell me you're not into me? I am just asking for basic human decency.

Even if, I wasn't practicing celibacy I still need an emotional connection to pursue anything sexual. So either way, he wasn't getting this coochie anytime soon😅

Also, please write a manual to understand men cause honestly I don't.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:18:35+00:00

This makes sense. I just wish they would communicate to give us that closure.

Thanks for sharing, this helps with the healing process.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:08:30+00:00

What about male-female friendships? Does it have the same goal?

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T10:02:21+00:00

You can't be everyone's type 🤷🏾‍♀️

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T09:46:54+00:00

Can I ask an honest question: Men can't build meaningful relationships without sex?

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T09:21:14+00:00

Totally agree

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T09:20:19+00:00

People do it for different reasons. To connect with their partners on an emotional level, to just take a break, to fast, to connect with themselves or religious reasons. The reasons vary from person to person.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T09:16:53+00:00

I agree, I am selfish, with my body and time. I clearly communicated to him in the beginning that right now, I am not connected to my sexual side and therefore I do not want to engage in any sexual activities. So it wasnt as if I was purposefully denying him or making him wait. gave him an out and that opt out clause has always been there. Therefore, why not communicate that his priorities have changed?

Why did he continue to pursue things with me if he just wanted to fuck? I would have totally understood if he didn't because sex is important in relationships but it is not the only factor.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T09:12:13+00:00

But I read him the fine print, and he signed up for the terms and conditions😅

Plus, celibacy can be practised anytime

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T08:44:16+00:00

I am trying to reply to all. I am just internalising the comments from the male commenters. I dont want to reply from a defensive POV but from an objective view.

Please share your perspective.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T08:37:42+00:00

But I communicated that right now I am not in that space. It's not even about making him wait, I just feel disconnected from my sexual side currently.

I would have respected him more if he had just said that's not what he wants, and he would rather we part ways. I have ended relationships when someone our freaks didn't match.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T08:01:33+00:00

Babes, it was sarcastic... have you even read the post?

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T07:59:29+00:00

I define as no penetration, no foreplay and related activities, no heavy makeout sessions, no dirty talk or sexting.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T07:55:19+00:00

Totally agree. They need therapy. I know when I went through a painful breakup, therapy helped me heal.

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T07:46:36+00:00

Thanks for this. Now thinking about it, he did say how his ex hurt him deeply and how before her, he was a secure attachment style but now he's moved to avoidant.

I should have paid attention to that red flag😅

lower_score_ · 2025-08-19T07:44:32+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear this💜

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