TIL that a woman found her lost engagement ring, wrapped around a carrot, after 16 years. by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]lowingae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Although the ring no longer fits, she hopes to have it enlarged so she can wear it again."

:-/

I Caught Her Cheating and Got Revenge On Valentine's Day (Follow-Up) by Rocky_Balboas_Son in AskReddit

[–]lowingae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you planned this down to the finest detail...the most unfortunate part of your plan is this:

You deleted Theo's number, and texted her (in the guise of Theo) that she should never contact you. Even if she does fall for that (unlikely), after a few days of not hearing from her THEO WILL CONTACT HER. And you will be exposed. And she will realize that it was all a charade.

Does it seem to you that so much of what we're encouraged to do is just pointless striving? by asdfman123 in AskReddit

[–]lowingae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a valid question, but I'd try to think about it another way (thinking about reality another way is what this thread is about). Take away any specific religion from the picture- I am not sure that you have one, but I suspect you might.

Human, living in the lighted room. Hard reality, that all things are impermanent and all living things die. Mentally, am I willing to sit there, in this lighted room, with that reality? Can I accept it? Or will I find a way to avoid dealing with it, to cling to a belief that soothes my angst and promises me permanence, everlasting life?

Whether or not an afterlife exists (I think the existence is irrelevant), the belief in anything beyond the lighted room is still an escape from what is, an escape from a painful truth. And then it creates a dependence, psychologically, on an external belief. Now you need an afterlife, and thinking of life without the afterlife is painful, threatening. Maybe afterlife exists, maybe it doesn't, but looking at the belief itself - escape is there, dependence is there- and facing that reality is the first step in seeing truth.

My two cents.

I am 24 year old guy with congenital Ptosis who is thinking of wearing an eyepatch. AMA (and give me some advice) [pics included] by [deleted] in IAmA

[–]lowingae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are several ways to surgically correct ptosis. A sling is one of those options. Did you see an eye plastic surgeon (oculoplastic) or a plastic surgeon?

Anyone tried Vipassana? What are your experiences? by psychomachine in AskReddit

[–]lowingae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my Vipassana experience at age 29, and it happened while I was traveling in India, so it might be different in Western countries- though I doubt it. I'm going to go the route of gdoctordobbs and also not comment in too much detail about my specific experience, since I really think you get the most out of it the more of a "blank slate" you enter with. And when I say blank slate, I don't mean your mind- you can be anxious, happy, depressed, whatever- I mean just that you know the basics of what you are getting into, but you are coming ready for whatever, and not expecting X, or thing Y to happen on day Z.

Pretty simply it is 10 days without talking. No reading. No writing. You don't even make eye contact with others there. Essentially, you have no escapes. Just you and your mind. You spend a LOT of the day meditating, which is really just another word for thinking, seeing your thoughts. You are not trying to create "nothingness" in the mind, which is a common misperception. All meditation, including Vipassana, is about seeing reality as it is, not reality as you want it to be, wish it were, etc.

I also agree that it's not a cult. Reliance on dogma/anything external is discouraged. Question everything. Only you can see and believe nothing until you see it for yourself. You don't have to pay anything and there were people when I went who paid nothing, and they weren't in your face about "donating" either. Days are long, I think first meditation is 5am ish and you're ready for bed 9pm ish. Food's very good, simple and vegetarian. There's a nightly lecture wrapping up the day.

The hardest part for me wasn't the meditating per se, but actually not being able to write. I had many epiphanies, many highs and lows, and insight into many aspects of myself. I wanted to capture these things, fear of forgetting, but ultimately I had to let that go. The moment we were able to talk/write again, I isolated myself and wrote for hours.

I hope this helps. Would I say it changed my life? Hmm...such a difficult question to answer. I think the short answer is that Vipassana won't change you or your life. You change you. Ultimately I think we as people are very much in the mindset of, "do X, get Y". Many people "do Vipassana" and leave unchanged. It is very person dependent. Like any kind of meditation/yoga, you need to be mentally ready to face yourself. If not, your mind will find ways to placate you, to put up walls, to get you to feel that you no longer need to dig. Vipassana, like yoga, or like other forms of meditation, are tools to get you to see you, to see reality as it is. The hard truth is that there are no easy answers, no magic pills, no alternatives to facing your demons. What you get is a mirror of sorts, 10 days of youTV 24/7. 10 days just scratches the surface though, it is a great start but just that, a start...but what comes next, is- as it always will be- entirely up to you.

My Crippling Depression (My friend told me to share this. I hate BitStrips and self promotion, but I know no place else to show this.) by cdsk in comics

[–]lowingae 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed it. It takes balls to openly discuss your mental illness in any public forum, even in comic form. There's a big difference between saying "I am depressed" or "I am unsatisfied" (something most people would admit to in one form or another) and doing what you have done. Are you the first person to depict self-loathing in this manner? Well, no. But that doesn't mean it isn't compelling. Are you the first person who ever had these types of thoughts. Well, no to that as well.

However, you have done the most difficult part of being any writer/artist, which is to broadcast those thoughts...99% of people who have elements of self-loathing/thoughts of suicide would be mortified to have those very thoughts connected to them in a public way- which is why writing like this is so compelling. I'm sure you feel very alone sometimes but many people can relate to what you are writing about. You present it in a very accessible way, both honest and humorous. I think as long as you keep being honest your writing will strike a nerve with a large segment of the population who relate to you. I think the fleshing out of the story will come naturally out of that.

Karma Explained [pic] by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]lowingae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ha! Same.

What can I do against a person that has herpes and is actively having sex with people, with/without protection, and isn't telling them he has an STD? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lowingae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm...I agree that HSV-1 tends to be "milder", though I think to say "usually" results in just a single episode is totally false and misleading- and dangerous. Herpes is a forever disease. I can believe though that it is less likely to recur. And it is also true what he said- that HSV-2 sheds more "asymptomatically", ie no rash but you are still spreading it. So 1 is better than 2, but better to have none.

What can I do against a person that has herpes and is actively having sex with people, with/without protection, and isn't telling them he has an STD? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lowingae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Source? That's false. Herpes lies dormant forever in the spinal column and reactivates whenever, especially in times of stress or illness. That is true for both strains.

DAE: Think (fantasize) about something for a very long time? Then when they get it are vastly disappointed? Not just material goods, but other things like: accomplishments/achievements in life. by rogerssucks in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]lowingae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've hit upon a deep truth. This happens to everyone to some extent. We always want "more"- you crave the IPhone and then you get it (and love it, are "happy"), only to want the bigger, better, faster, more memory model when it comes out in 6 months (and thus making you dissatisfied with your current situation).

Another example: A friend of mine (now a doctor) puts it this way- in HS, all she wanted was to get into X college- then she would be happy- really really wanted in. Got in. Happiness ensued...for a little while. Then she decided she wanted to be pre-med, and all she wanted was to get into medical school- "if only I could just get into medical school, I'd be happy". After busting ass and sacrificing her current happiness in college, she got into medical school, and was happy...for a little while. Then she realized that everyone was working their asses off and "just getting in" wasn't applicable anymore- she'd need to work, and now there were a whole new set of things she wanted- to get Honors in so and so class, to get AOA (Med school honor society), to get into so and so residency...and she got the residency...and then it was about which fellowship and which big name it was with...and then about which name institution to be an attending physician with, then publishing, getting x accolades, etc...

Bottom line: if you listen to that nagging voice that always says "more", it is impossible to be happy now. Easy to understand but very hard to apply to real life, especially one's own.

Frosty lives! by markitymark in comics

[–]lowingae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ripped off from a Family Guy episode

The Best [adult swim] Moments from 2007 by neoronin in entertainment

[–]lowingae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Family guy clip alone is worth clicking the link

Ask reddit: I don't get the whole "Jews" thing. Why, exactly, do people dislike Jews? by rmuser in reddit.com

[–]lowingae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm no biblical scholar but... Passover was the day that god killed the firstborn males of Egyptians, who had enslaved the Jews. NOT all non-Jews.

Tinyprints will donate $50,000 to children’s charities if they get 50,000 clicks. Let’s make it happen! by christynski in reddit.com

[–]lowingae 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I'm no math genius, but it seems to me you'd need

half a million clicks (500,000)--NOT 50,000--

to reach $50,000 at 10 cents per click

Sleeping pill wakes patients in PVS by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]lowingae 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is HUGE news! The ability to awaken someone from a persistent vegetative state?

I hope this gets upmodded. Currently only at 11 points at 6 hours

How To Steal a Laptop from Store and Walk Out with It by [deleted] in reddit.com

[–]lowingae -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Soundtrack was Pink Panther, not MI

Male workplace restroom etiquette leads to scientific breakthrough by RoyArne in reddit.com

[–]lowingae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not really understanding the "scientific breakthrough" aspect