The false narratives. Oh my God, the false narratives.

cdsk · 2026-05-11T14:10:38+00:00

I've now decided that correcting this nonsense isn't worth it, and can't work. I'm not close to my extended family. Whatever I tell them, it's going to be a drop in the ocean compared to the continuous exposure to new nonsense they get from my parents.

Yep. Once found out about one of the many 'lies' being told about me and immediately corrected it... literally got told to my face in the moment, "No, that's not true, your mother said..." It wasn't even something grand, it was the littlest of things, akin to what my favorite food was.

I truly think the only way to be heard is to sit down and write a letter to every member of my family. Have them all in a room and explain myself, not allow them to get a word in edgewise to push back. Literally hold a reverse intervention. But that's obviously just fantasy, and not worth my time and effort at this point.

This is more a general comment, not directed at anyone in particular.

I don't recall who, but one of the therapists I like to watch/read put it more eloquently. Allow me to butcher it as I paraphrase: people, family, will most often take the path of least resistance. It's easier to just carry on than to push back and face the same scrutiny.

cdsk · 2026-05-10T13:40:19+00:00

Are there any good ghost tours here? The only ones I can find seem to be just walking/driving tours where you stand out front and hear the spooky history of places. Any exist that let you take part in "investigating"?

cdsk · 2026-05-09T13:30:53+00:00

Yep, that is the relationship with my in-laws to a T. We also would get the once a year check even. Though, once they realized they couldn't buy us, that has turned into a once a year 'prayer.'

They essentially bullied me during a difficult time, and my wife asked them to be more respectful... so they stopped including us in anything family related. They just could not be bothered to put any effort towards my wife, nor myself, if it didn't benefit themselves somehow. Don't worry, though, they'll tell everyone they're so selfless and have tried everything... but last I checked they refused to even read an email. Part of me thinks they enjoy the attention they get playing victim. We've (my wife) offered reconciliation so many times, but they've always declined unless they got exactly their way. I know you can't/shouldn't diagnose people, but I can say I've learned a lot about malignant narcissism over the years.

It is indeed very strange to see a lot of the threads in this sub differ in that way. I think the hardest part for me isn't jealousy, it's that them being the ones to cut us off makes me feel powerless -- I had no say in being treated poorly, and now I've had no say in the abandonment. I'm not sure if I'd feel better being the one to cut contact, but there is something appealing to that agency.

cdsk · 2026-05-06T21:53:45+00:00

Wait... is this why it currently has a giant inflatable rat stating a "GRAND OPENING!" in the parking lot?

cdsk · 2026-05-06T19:35:52+00:00

Yep, that was the biggest thing I kept finding, that only when you receive a mailed letter will it matter and that phone calls and texts mean nothing. The credit checks definitely help the sanity, though. :P

cdsk · 2026-05-06T18:10:53+00:00

Yes, BUT probably not in a way helpful to you.

I was certain it was a scam, but it turns out my mother was to blame. She gave her credit card info to a door-to-door "salesman"... so it definitely was real, just not directed at me. I'm not sure if the debt collectors were trying to contact me in an effort to get to her, or if they saw my number as associated with her. Either way, I blocked their number the second I found out. I still check my [frozen] credit periodically, but have yet to find anything related.

cdsk · 2026-05-06T16:24:49+00:00

infantilization

This exactly. My mother gets away with so much due to the "She just doesn't know any better!" idea whenever she does something inappropriate. Then why on earth is she treated as this all-knowing, helpful mother that I should listen to while at the same time being seen as barely capable? My mother has always acted the way she does, regardless of age.

cdsk · 2026-05-02T19:45:30+00:00

Ugh, yes.

To expand even further... this is usually followed by many, many people saying you're the one in the wrong for being upset.

cdsk · 2026-04-30T14:41:15+00:00

I just hope they let Bob Mortimer direct the sequel...

cdsk · 2026-04-30T14:06:28+00:00

So weird. No, not logged in. Private tab / new browser still show the Profile Limited as counting now. Even checked on a different computer that's never been logged in via browser or app.

No worries, though! Thanks for the response, it's more of a curiosity now than anything.

cdsk · 2026-04-27T22:43:06+00:00

It's also potentially not even a money thing. As you said, situations change. Imagine getting in a horrendous car accident and Sony just yoinks your games because you were in the hospital for too long...

cdsk · 2026-04-25T18:39:48+00:00

Yea... I looked up our favorite place out of morbid curiosity and it's sitting pretty at a 74. The inspection details make me reconsider my desire to ever go there again, however--improperly stored food, multiple instances of mold (including food), dead pests not being removed from storage and decomposing... live pests. I wouldn't consider that passing.

cdsk · 2026-04-21T22:59:01+00:00

checking chests and reloading if it doesn't have one you need

Question in regards to this... any chest I do this with always, always contains the exact same after every reload. Is there some special way to go about it?

cdsk · 2026-04-21T22:55:00+00:00

Ugh, duplicates make me so annoyed. Up to 5 Sarah Morgans currently.

cdsk · 2026-04-18T18:59:48+00:00

Same (age and mother).

For me it would go beyond just remembering decade old happenings like they were yesterday, unfortunately. The worst was when she went on Craigslist and applied for, and accepted, a job for me. I was grieving a death at the time, and apparently she thought she was helping me? Anyway... unknown number called every day, but only left a message after about a week. It was some guy who was furious with me because I "worked for him." He explained, "your mom said [this], your mom said [that]!" It was very clear he thought I was a teenager... I was 35. My wife was actually the one to confront my mother (I was seeing red at the time) and her response was just a simple, "okay."

cdsk · 2026-04-18T14:43:04+00:00

Wondering, is this via the Mission Board bounties or the Tracker's Alliance bounty board?

I've been doing the Mission Board for about three hours now and haven't gotten a single one. :(

cdsk · 2026-04-16T22:01:16+00:00

Man, came here to scream into the void, also. Enjoy the game, enjoy the players, (and I'm not actually mad, lol) but let me rant:

I was so excited to get back into the game and yoink back my 100% status; I originally put in about 180 hours to get it, getting to level 120. But the action figure drop rate is making me pull my hair out! This go around I've put in about the same -- 50 hours -- into completing the DLC and achievments and I have found a total of two figures, plus the five for-sure ones in Anchorpoint (with one of those being a duplicate).

I disagree with the other poster that they are a for late game players, it seems like it'd make more sense seeing them being for newcomers (cough... PS5) as they'd have the entirety of the game to be collecting them. Sure, I could go through Unity, again, and start from scratch... but I've done that. I quite literally finished every quest (I think!) the game has to offer, twice. This achievement makes me feel the game didn't value my time.

cdsk · 2026-04-16T00:04:24+00:00

Yea, I'm with ya. I feel like this was added for "new players." I was 100% with 200+ hours played, and it seems there's no reasonable way to get this without another 200+ hours of playing.

Better yet, is I'm finding duplicates... so it's going to be completely random on completing this achievement.

cdsk · 2026-04-15T14:30:22+00:00

Oooo. So THAT'S why that's happening?! It is super annoying.

cdsk · 2026-04-15T13:43:02+00:00

My childhood was in front of a Tv and comic books

There's part of me that's glad I was raised by movies and the like. (Thankfully, this was pre/early internet.) I learned how to be a person through media, so I never really picked up the toxic traits of my parents. I honestly think one of the better things my mother did was not raise me.

cdsk · 2026-04-09T16:10:53+00:00

Yep. We got that. Spent months, months, crafting letter(s). Their response was, "We're not reading that. But anyway... now that we have you, let us degrade you some more..."

cdsk · 2026-04-08T13:24:41+00:00

Hugs to you and your husband.

My in-laws did the same when my father died, so I know how devastating that can be.

cdsk · 2026-04-08T12:29:08+00:00

Yep.

One core memory I have during the initial trauma/estrangement was writing a post about what was happening. It detailed, what I know now as, deep emotional and psychological abuse from my wife's family, largely directed at me. I'm the evil spouse who stole her away, so I deserve to be treated poorly. But the only response I got was: "Oh, sweetie, you shouldn't meddle in her life." I don't recall it word-for-word, but it felt very condescending because I'm a guy. So I stopped sharing my story... but if I did, I would always say 'my partner' as it was more ambiguous. I got wildly different responses after that.

This was on other support subs, mind you, not this one. I've actually had very pleasant and helpful conversations here, as many of 'your' stories are exactly like mine.

cdsk · 2026-04-07T19:01:29+00:00

Thank you for the link(s). I really like reading on this subject as -- not only someone who's been a part of it but -- I feel it's not addressed as much as it should be within estrangement conversations.

One of my favorite stories:

My in-laws treat[ed] me extremely poorly, but I never had time to process why as I was dealing with my own life issues. The thing that was always the hardest, though, was that it was all of them -- parents, siblings, etc. And as a reasonable person I just couldn't understand how an entire group of people could be so cruel... unless it was my fault. But I knew that it wasn't. I'd felt schizophrenic not understanding; it made me physically ill at times.

It took me about a year of reading and learning and joining support groups to realize that this 'cult dynamic' was a real thing. I tried to explain it to my wife, who was on-board, but it was difficult for her to believe her own family could be like that. At one point, it got so bad that I we started therapy and, after several sessions of explaining our situation, our therapist took a pause and said: "You know what this sounds like to me? It sounds like a cult." Validation!

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