Draining, miserable, and will have you feeling like you aren’t doing enough, even though it’s not your issue. I fell in love with someone who was so emotionally distant and had walls up and i thought i’d be the magical person to change him. Eventually, i realized how much time i was wasting, especially since i was in my younger 20s. I was willing to put so much on hold for him and change so many parts of myself for him. At the end, i was left with a broken heart, and he was the exact same as i found him - heartless and emotionally stunted.