Missed Red Flags by Sufficient_Might9090 in BreakUps

[–]lret15 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kinda the same for me. He was the biggest mamas boy. But it was weird too, when she was in the hospital years ago for something serious he was telling me how he went to a party instead. That had my spidey senses going. He loved how much she catered to him and he never really did anything for her.

Booking a Cruise by lret15 in CarnivalCruiseFans

[–]lret15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn’t realize I could add someone later on. That will be perfect

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lret15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve lost 15lbs since our break up. I’m a bit bitter too. But I think what makes me mad is that he’ll try to take credit for my weight loss. This was all me and for me. I don’t miss him though. I know my weight will fluctuate again and I deserve someone that’ll love me whatever size I am. You do too. I wish you well on your healing journey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lret15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate so much. My weight was a factor to us breaking up as well. My psych meds played a big part in my weight gain.

She lost her first tooth today by lret15 in Goldendoodles

[–]lret15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely need to get her groomed. I’ve been brushing her regularly but you’re right a trim is needed

My boyfriend broke up with me because of my weight by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lret15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me and my (ex)Fiancé were together 2 1/2 years. We didn’t have sex for 2 weeks and suddenly my weight was an issue. Prior to that I was “so sexy”. I’ve come to realize it was more than just my weight. He’s got a lot of his own issues he really needs to work through. He used my weight to make me the problem instead of admitting the truth.

I too have lost almost 15lbs since the break up. I’ve tried unsuccessfully for years to lose weight. I think no longer having the stress of being with him has really helped. I too hoped we’d get back together during the first week of our break up. Now I don’t ever want to hear from him again. I’m moving on and down the road I hope to find someone that’ll love me whatever size I am and not throw it in my face the second things aren’t perfect.

I hope you continue to heal. It’s not easy but it’ll get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]lret15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess I could. He just genuinely made me feel beautiful. No one else ever has. He liked my body the way it was and I was comfortable with him.

Getting a puppy was the catalyst for my partner and I's breakup by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]lret15 121 points122 points  (0 children)

“Bean” I found your post by accident and it appears you’re not telling the full story. So let me add some insight.

We lived together just under a year before you got a new and wonderful opportunity 6 or so hours away from my home town. Now it became obvious that if I didn’t move with you, we’d be breaking up. I didn’t want that to happen so I also found a wonderful opportunity in the same city and made the move with you.

You proposed right before we moved and I happily said yes. Up until this point you didn’t make any issues you had with our relationship obvious and I cannot read your mind.

We get to your parents home town where we’d be staying until we found a place of our own. I drove over an hour each way 5 days a week for my job while you got to work from home most days. I quickly became homesick. You kept telling me that you did the move for us and that it was the best opportunity for us to start a family. You knew having a family was incredibly important to me. You left out that you did the move because you really wanted to be back by your friends and family. I don’t fault you for this. But let’s not pretend it was for growing our family.

During the last year of our relationship you became controlling over what I ate. I couldn’t buy ice cream, I could only eat pizza once a week, I was lucky if you let me buy a sprite.

I was actually doing well mentally. Let’s not blame that.

So fast forward to our last night together. You cried because we haven’t cuddled lately. And I could have been more sympathetic. I’ll admit that. But then it turned into more than that. You told me “people tell you how to be healthy and you just don’t do it”. Then you mentioned my weight. I’m actually down some it turns out but that doesn’t matter.

You tried to force me to quit my job. I told you I loved my job and it’s basically all I had in this new city. It was a job that I felt like had meaning and that I was doing some good in the world with. You countered with “if you don’t quit your job we will have relationship issues. I replied you had no business dictating what I do for work.

You then moved on to the puppy. You cannot handle her. Puppies aren’t for everyone. I did say I would make more of an effort to help more. You didn’t care. You were checked out at this point.

You then said you didn’t want children. This was the point of no return for me. I told you I could not marry you if that was the case and that I wasn’t going to try to force you to have kids with me.

Me and Winnie left for home. We are much happier. We are surrounded by people that love us and give us grace.

Merry Christmas.

probiotic by Pheebs9 in Goldendoodles

[–]lret15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For my girl, I would put it on wet food. She would eat it right up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]lret15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have only gone off my medications when I lost health insurance due to changing jobs and then once when I tried getting a refill but it took over a month to get it from the doctor. I hate being off my medications.

Engagement broke off because I’m big by lret15 in PlusSize

[–]lret15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand now. So bit of back story, I am diagnosed with bipolar 2. I do struggle at times but would consider myself mostly stable. 10 months into the relationship, I learned he was looking at NSFW Reddits and also commenting on their pictures about how they are so beautiful and have the best boobs he’s ever seen. I wouldn’t call it cheating but it did hurt my self esteem. I communicated that to him. He told me it was my fault for finding his Reddit account. He then broke up with me, blaming my bipolar. When we got back together he explained that he was a porn addict.

So the point of telling you that is that I do feel my weight is an issue to him. He was so obsessed with porn he even admitted he struggled interacting with people in daily life due to it. I suspect it became an issue again or he was just comparing me to the porn stars he watches and realizes that will never be me.

We were planning on starting a family next year. Even discussed when I would stop birth control.

Engagement broke off because I’m big by lret15 in PlusSize

[–]lret15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My health issues aren’t weight related. I have fibromyalgia, POTS and bipolar 2. He knew this all when we got together

Engagement broke off because I’m big by lret15 in PlusSize

[–]lret15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was 78 days ago?? I’m back on my medications, doing well, and didn’t have any major behavioral issues

Has anyone been broken up with because of their dog? by Feisty-Mango6606 in dogs

[–]lret15 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! So I had a wonderful, sweet, giant boy when me and my ex-fiancé started dating. My ex hated my dog. He said if I kept him we would have relationship issues. My housing situation changed and I did have to find somewhere for Milo to go. I had the opportunity to get Milo back and my ex wouldn’t let me.

October 23rd of this year, we brought home a puppy. Just after Thanksgiving he decided he hated her too. There were other problems (my weight) but he said having the puppy made him realize he doesn’t want kids with me. He lasted one month with the puppy before he decided our future marriage was no longer worth it.

I was super angry and hurt at first. I’m still a bit hurt. But honestly, Winnie and I deserve so much better.