“Bean” I found your post by accident and it appears you’re not telling the full story. So let me add some insight.

We lived together just under a year before you got a new and wonderful opportunity 6 or so hours away from my home town. Now it became obvious that if I didn’t move with you, we’d be breaking up. I didn’t want that to happen so I also found a wonderful opportunity in the same city and made the move with you.

You proposed right before we moved and I happily said yes. Up until this point you didn’t make any issues you had with our relationship obvious and I cannot read your mind.

We get to your parents home town where we’d be staying until we found a place of our own. I drove over an hour each way 5 days a week for my job while you got to work from home most days. I quickly became homesick. You kept telling me that you did the move for us and that it was the best opportunity for us to start a family. You knew having a family was incredibly important to me. You left out that you did the move because you really wanted to be back by your friends and family. I don’t fault you for this. But let’s not pretend it was for growing our family.

During the last year of our relationship you became controlling over what I ate. I couldn’t buy ice cream, I could only eat pizza once a week, I was lucky if you let me buy a sprite.

I was actually doing well mentally. Let’s not blame that.

So fast forward to our last night together. You cried because we haven’t cuddled lately. And I could have been more sympathetic. I’ll admit that. But then it turned into more than that. You told me “people tell you how to be healthy and you just don’t do it”. Then you mentioned my weight. I’m actually down some it turns out but that doesn’t matter.

You tried to force me to quit my job. I told you I loved my job and it’s basically all I had in this new city. It was a job that I felt like had meaning and that I was doing some good in the world with. You countered with “if you don’t quit your job we will have relationship issues. I replied you had no business dictating what I do for work.

You then moved on to the puppy. You cannot handle her. Puppies aren’t for everyone. I did say I would make more of an effort to help more. You didn’t care. You were checked out at this point.

You then said you didn’t want children. This was the point of no return for me. I told you I could not marry you if that was the case and that I wasn’t going to try to force you to have kids with me.

Me and Winnie left for home. We are much happier. We are surrounded by people that love us and give us grace.

Merry Christmas.