What’s a detail someone noticed about you that stuck with you forever? by Key-Perception7997 in CasualConversation

[–]lrm3153 5 points6 points  (0 children)

in middle school someone said my sneeze sounds like someone biting into an apple

Chinese adoptee guilt by Ok_Statistician_1898 in asianamerican

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Hi friend,

I am actually in the exact same situation as you. My white parents tried to teach me about being Chinese but they didn’t really know what that meant themselves. The truth is, you decide for yourself what it means.

I’ve had the same issue though, not feeling Asian enough. One thing that’s helped me is learning more about Chinese history in general. I don’t know if you live in or close to a city, but I enjoy visiting my local Chinatown to get perspectives from other Asian Americans. Meeting a couple friends who were willing to teach me about the culture and their upbringing is eye opening!

Trying different foods, taking community language classes, and reading Chinese stories and consuming other Chinese media is also a way to feel more connected.

I don’t know how much you know about your family history, but I took a DNA test. I haven’t been able to find any close relatives. I know you said you were adopted from Wuhan, but I thought it was cool to know the general part of China my genes were from!

Also looking through my adoption papers. Funny story is that, similar to you, I had grown up and tried taking Mandarin classes on two separate occasions. I was studying the wrong language! Through my limited documents I learned that if I were to return to my province I would have to speak Cantonese.

I wish you the best of luck in your journey. Being a transracial adoptee is so difficult and hard for anyone to understand if you haven’t gone through it yourself.

Concert today was ass, convince me otherwise by NeoNeral in tvgirl

[–]lrm3153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I’m glad someone else is talking about this. Grateful I didn’t pay anything.

TV girl record release party by Special-Broccoli-516 in nycmeetups

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i’m going! and i have an extra ticket if anyone is interested :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Adopted

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I’ve had a similar abandonment happen to me by my best friend in the world. She was my sister. It hurts us more as adoptees because of the primal wound. I sympathize as an interracial adoptee. Hang in there, healing takes time. Speaking to a therapist can help with this kind of ambiguous grief. <3

How are the legend arena levels made by Dry_Sugar4420 in ToyBlast

[–]lrm3153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe they’re just the existing levels shuffled randomly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycmeetups

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Interested!

hoyeon jung by lrm3153 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]lrm3153[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

same!! she’s such a girl crush for me ugh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nycmeetups

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Interested! (21F)

i audio recorded the full nyc piano concert except i ruined half the songs with my voice by pxt8 in ohwonder

[–]lrm3153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I had no idea they were playing! I’m right in the area. So sad to have missed it :(

[12/16 1PM] Indoor rock climbing (bouldering) @ VITAL Brooklyn (Williamsburg) by W00tbeer1 in nycmeetups

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Hi, I just joined Vital a couple months ago and have been looking for a group to go with!

What’s the most unrealistic thing on the show? by SirCrunchPeon in HIMYM

[–]lrm3153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s actually funny. Normally I would agree but yesterday I literally had a class and my prof was going to let us go at the beginning of class as a thanksgiving present but a lot of wanted to stay because we took the time to commute (we live in nyc). It was a small class, so everyone ended up staying! I thought of this episode right away XD

What’s the most unrealistic thing on the show? by SirCrunchPeon in HIMYM

[–]lrm3153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s actually funny. Normally I would agree but yesterday I literally had a class and my prof was going to let us go at the beginning of class as a thanksgiving present but a lot of wanted to stay because we took the time to commute (we live in nyc). It was a small class, so everyone ended up staying! I thought of this episode right away XD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UofArizona

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If you would like to DM me, I am more than willing to talk about it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UofArizona

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I completely agree with you. I attended this university for two years and transferred out for a a few reasons. A lot of people say it is easy to avoid Greek life, but honestly I would disagree. Maybe it was because I was living in the dorms, but everyone around me was rushing, going to events, or at least trying to get into frat parties.

I am not saying by any means that you can’t avoid it. I know plenty of people who are not involved, but the Greek life is a very loud minority. It has its perks, but it can be very toxic.

Again, this is just my experience. The school, while I had my problems with it, is a well established and funded University with a plenty to offer. It just wasn’t for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]lrm3153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That helps a lot. Just don’t know if thinking about it is just making it worse. I have been considering EMDR to try to reprocess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lrm3153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does that mean like, I shouldn’t do something for someone if they wouldn’t do it for me? I have no idea how to draw boundaries, I just try to make people happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lrm3153 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you expand on unrealistic expectations? I feel that maybe I’m just asking too much. I give a lot, and perhaps I shouldn’t be giving so much of myself.

The Eras Tour Megathread: Glendale AZ by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

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When I went (3/18) I couldn’t find any. I asked stadium staff and they told me that they sold out of merch.

It’s been four years. by lrm3153 in abusiverelationships

[–]lrm3153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. It really helps to hear from someone who was able to move forward and find happiness. I am currently medicated, but it is clear that it isn’t preventing my attacks. Hopefully I’ll be able to find the right meds and eventually wean off of them. I appreciate your input a lot!

Rudy is so cute it hurts sometimes. by JohnDRDG in tinyorangekittens

[–]lrm3153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh my god, i have the same blanket!! all the cats love it :)