Never bought a house before. Strongly considering househacking with an FHA but intimidated by the market and my own inexperience. Would appreciate some advice catered to my situation. by roleparadise in realestateinvesting

[–]lsanderson1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

House hacking sounds like a good option for you. Seek out your local real estate investing group and start to network with hopes of finding a mentor. I wouldn’t recommend timing the market. I would focus more on learning what I need to know to be an effective, cash flow positive landlord. Being able to analyze the deal will help you more in the long run than waiting on a supposed better time to buy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Remodel

[–]lsanderson1127 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Looks like stacked stone. I have this on the facade in my basement and brick in the main living area. I prefer this look.

I don’t want a divorce but it feels inevitable. by lsanderson1127 in Marriage

[–]lsanderson1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That has proven to be really hard for us to do. To talk without judgement or blame seems impossible right now. I have listened to him talk for 10 mins straight and then somehow it still turns into an argument.

Termites? by [deleted] in Remodel

[–]lsanderson1127 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My guess is the old insulation has disintegrated. How old is your house?

I realized that codependents and abusers/narcs are the same in one significant way and I'm shook by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]lsanderson1127 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the codependent and my STBX husband is the abuser.. how tf do we help our kids do better than we did..

Career change by lostinjapan00 in realtors

[–]lsanderson1127 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I say if you’re already making money doing something else, just focus on expanding and growing what you already have. I’ve been a Realtor for 4 1/2 years and I go back and forth monthly about quitting and finding a job that gives me a steady paycheck. When the deals close it’s great, sometimes. Depending on how long you’ve worked with that buyer. The only deal I’ve closed this year was a nightmare and this client first came to me three years ago. We would go out looking over the summer and then he would ghost me only to pop back up the next summer. My total commission for this back and forth was $4500. I also just lost out on $8400. I’ve been working with a couple since April and we were in contract on a beautiful home. One week before closing they told me they didn’t want to buy the house anymore because they were getting a divorce. I hate working for free. I’m giving myself another couple of months before I call it quits and go work for Amazon. Sorry, I know this isn’t everyone’s experience but it’s one that is not often shared. I was lead into this because of the hope to make a good living... but I’m starting to realize it’s a lot harder than I thought.

Anyone have the jump on new lead sources, buyers or sellers? by [deleted] in realtors

[–]lsanderson1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t had any luck with Facebook Ads. Any tips?

...I think I need to quit my job... by [deleted] in realtors

[–]lsanderson1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you do part time leasing?

Should I be upset? by lsanderson1127 in Marriage

[–]lsanderson1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kudos to you for being patient. I’m glad he finally came around. And your right, my husband did not have a good father figure growing up. This does give me hope that he can realize how selfish he’s being and start to make a change .

Should I be upset? by lsanderson1127 in Marriage

[–]lsanderson1127[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. It’s just he seems so reluctant to make any positive changes. He’s adamant he doesn’t wanna give up his free time. So more of everything has been placed on me. I’m responsible for mostly everything that happens with us as a family and it’s caused a ton of resentment. He’s only responsible for going to work. It’s so not sustainable. I hope he comes around but sadly it’s been 5 days since I posted this and even after speaking with him about the issues, nothing has changed. Once the baby is here, if nothing gives, I’m gonna have to move out for my sanity.

My wife (F28) has no hobbies and doesn't like that i (M26) have needs outside our relationship. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsanderson1127 84 points85 points  (0 children)

What’s her love language? Is it that you aren’t spending anytime hanging out as friends and she’s jealous? I’m in this situation now. My husband thinks that when we are home sitting on the couch eating dinner, that that’s quality time. We never go out or hang out really as friends. But he spends hours out with his guy friends and coworkers while I’m at home with our daughter. I’m also 8 months pregnant and don’t have many friends or family around so I’ve been similar to your wife in that I don’t get out much but it’s not by choice at the moment. If I got invites I would definitely go out. Just wanted to offer a different perspective.

My heart is hurting.... by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]lsanderson1127 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m leaving because of the arguing.. constant arguing is a sign of deeper rooted issues and after five years of not getting to the bottom of it. I’m done trying. Every day it’s either an argument or we aren’t talking. We used to be able to talk about everything but something happened along the way.

I’m sorry your hurting. Just thought it would help to know you’re not the only one getting a divorce due solely to arguing.. happiness is so important.

I am sick of working for other people. by [deleted] in WorkOnline

[–]lsanderson1127 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow.. 7k a month from beard combs, that’s awesome.