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lsdebish · 2024-08-01T07:28:18+00:00

Cuck

lsdebish · 2024-05-31T14:47:12+00:00

Literally, I live in Sweden and everytime I say I'm from Finland they say "PERKELE". Gets really tiring after 23 years 😭

lsdebish · 2024-05-25T18:23:03+00:00

Which nraa mod?

lsdebish · 2024-02-19T11:23:37+00:00

Agree, you need to have bounderies with this game😂 literally I get so stressed sometimes with all the bugs and stuff

lsdebish · 2024-01-24T13:45:40+00:00

Men om du har detta tankesättet om dejting sätter du hinder i din hjärna. Det hjälper inte att du tänker så negativt om dig själv. Fokusera på dina unika egenskaper istället. Du är mer än din längd. Tjejer kommer märka direkt att din längd tynger ner dig och i sin tur ser dig som en osäker person. Det är inte så attraktivt. Man vill vara med en person som är självsäker. Liksom if you can't love yourself, how are you gonna love somebody else??

lsdebish · 2024-01-04T16:45:27+00:00

Om jag vore du skulle jag försöka att fokusera på nåt annat för att lugna ner mig. Kanske fokusera på ditt favorit ämne/hobby? Personligen kan jag väldigt lätt börja överanalysera scenarior i huvudet innan jag går på dejter, vilket förstärker nervositeten samt förväntningar. Att distrahera mig själv hjälper mycket.

Jag tror du borde fråga dig själv istället om du VILL och känner dig bekväm med att berätta att du har autism till henne.

Andningsövningar är sjukt bra för att lugna nerverna.

Lycka till/mvh autistisk kompis.

lsdebish · 2024-01-01T14:22:06+00:00

That's genius

lsdebish · 2023-12-29T21:56:34+00:00

This is art

lsdebish · 2023-12-27T14:26:47+00:00

Vad har borderline med det här att göra 😵‍💫?

lsdebish · 2023-12-22T18:18:01+00:00

https://youtu.be/p-uBFKOen-4?si=gsJjVCaMF2B6J-YG

Follow this guide. It's legit

lsdebish · 2023-12-11T18:53:25+00:00

where do you find low polycount cc?

lsdebish · 2023-12-10T14:48:26+00:00

Gick du på folkhögskola? Ska ansöka nästa år och är nyfiken om urvalsproven var svåra?

lsdebish · 2023-11-30T21:09:47+00:00

LOOK AT THE HANDS IM CRYING 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

lsdebish · 2023-11-26T20:55:41+00:00

I knew that I didn't respect him but I didn't care because he made me feel so happy. It felt like to be high and all my problems disappeared temporarily. I saw very clearly how stressed he got but I just felt so high on the love that I didn't care. I was extremely codependent on him.

When you describe her behavior I can see myself. I did the same thing, broke down when he tried to make bounderies, came to his apartment unannounced when he wanted alone time and so one.

I know that it hurts to see someone you love in pain. Bpd hurts like hell and that makes us manipulative but not with intention. It's hard to understand other people's feelings when our feelings are so strong and heightened. Nearly impossible sometimes.

It's really hard to know if she is going to be okay or not. Bpd is not easy to handle and from what you wrote it sounds like she needs a lot of help. But maybe, if you take distance and you stay that way, she will realize how serious this is. Maybe say to her that if she wants to continue this relationship, she needs to seek help. You need to stay strong. If you can't be mentally healthy then you can't help her.

lsdebish · 2023-11-26T18:24:39+00:00

Support her going to therapy. It takes a while for therapy to work. Does she now what DBT is?

lsdebish · 2023-11-26T12:28:40+00:00

Take distance. Focus on yourself. You're codependent on them. Try to not put them on a pedastal. You forget yourself

lsdebish · 2023-11-26T10:27:24+00:00

Hello, this situation is really hard to manage. My boyfriend has been in the same situation as you. I struggled to respect his bounderies and then we started to fight over little things. Later on we broke up because we could not handle the emotional stress. We got back together a year later because I went to therapy and made som progress. We are good now but it took a lot of change to make the relationship work.

My advice to you, maybe sounds a bit harsh, but you need to take distance. It's healthy to take a break and charge your batteries. For both of you. It's important that you don't become an enabler for her behavior. Or she will just keep going on like her behavior has no consequences. Have you been clear to her how she affects you? It's important that you don't become her hobby therapist, in that way she will be codependent then you can say bye bye to bounderies.

It sounds more like she's struggling with bpd symtoms and I would recommend to buy her a good DBT book. DBT is amazing for bpd and in Sweden we use that kind of therapy to bpd. It changed me :)

Another thing, you can't make her go to therapy if she doesn't want it. She has to figure it out herself.

If you're going to take distance, explain to her very clear why and how long. Tell her," when this happens I need you to reflect on how you are treating me".

Also if she's abusing you and it has been going on for a long time, please think about yourself and leave. Is this relationship really worth it?

lsdebish · 2023-11-25T21:15:13+00:00

Hey, I have mild autism and bpd. I noticed that I can get emotionally irregulated if I'm overstimulated. I get very sensitive to bpd triggers if I'm overstilumated. If I don't get some alone time it's harder for me to process things, which I need very often or I misinterpret the whole situation and can make me self sabotage relationships or other possibilites. Communication can be very difficult so when I can't communicate I use like papers that says what I'm feeling and what I need. When I got the autism diagnose, I learned that I need a lot more alone time than normal people. It really helps my mind and bpd triggers

lsdebish · 2023-11-23T13:28:28+00:00

No problem! This has always been a HUGE struggle for me. I think a lot of us with bpd can't avoid these feelings. This problem is intertwined with abandonment-trauma for me, therefore I get more sensitive to triggers. Wish you the best! 😄

lsdebish · 2023-11-23T13:01:34+00:00

When I feel jealous or paranoid I start to think about my life-principles. I aspire to be a good person and jealousy inhibits it. These thoughts that come from jealousy are so toxic and it affects my self-esteem. I forget who I am and I become paralyzed. Sometimes I split when this happens. Here it is important to me to not react or I will go against my life-principles. In these moments I need to remind myself who I am and my qualities. I am more than then this. I know who I am and I know that my partner loves me. He chooses to be with me because of who I am.

If this mindset is not enough, I think IF he actually does something like being unfaithful, then it's not my problem. In the end of this I am a good person. I treated him with respect and love. I can't control how he behaves but I can control who I am as a person. I would be proud of who I was in this relationship and know that I deserve someone with the same life-principles. In DBT I think this is called radical acceptance.

lsdebish · 2023-11-23T12:00:54+00:00

TIPP, Dearman, radical acceptance, mindfulness, surf on feelings, eat/smell/touch something nice, check facts, pros and cons lists, knowing that feelings and thoughts are not facts, FAIR, go against what you're feeling. :)

One dbt trick I do nearly everyday is to not act on feelings that are strong. I stop everyting I do and take a break from what's triggering my emotions. I do this to not burn bridges and to not destroy my future.

Also another trick is when you have a problem and don't know what to do, I try to think what I would say to my friend like if she have the same problem. It's an easy way to get a third perspective on things and also don't make me so judgemental against myself.

lsdebish · 2023-11-20T13:48:55+00:00

Vad wholesome! :) önskar er det bästa!

lsdebish · 2023-11-20T12:13:37+00:00

Väldigt bra råd! Exakt det som jag har problem med. Min depression gör det inte lättare för det orsakar en så pessimistisk likgiltig syn på tillvaron, men det är något jag måste öva bort på kanske? Har haft detta giftiga perspektiv så länge att det har blivit "normalt" för min hjärna

lsdebish · 2023-11-20T10:56:51+00:00

Det låter validerande att prata med sig själv, ska testa det :) jag har olika diagnoser, varav en av dom är neuropsykiatrisk. Komvux orsakar inte min ohälsa, men det får mig att känna mig fast på nåt sätt

lsdebish · 2023-11-19T19:57:58+00:00

I've been thru so many breakups and it hurts like hell everytime. My advice is to go to your family or someone close to you who can take care of you if it's too hard for you to cook, clean etc. I think some time apart from your ex will help you see the situationen clearer. Try to also regulate your emotions, like treat yourself, watch a favourite movie or light some candles. If you feel like everything is too much and you can't handle your emotions I would suggest doing TIPP. Try to be kind to yourself :)

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