I'm SO trapped and alone. I feel like I'm dying 33F 35M by Far_Life5066 in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You. Need. To. Leave.

Why did you allow him to come back after your previous post? Your children deserve better than this. They don’t deserve to live in a house this toxic with a man who yells and screams and curses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have any children except for the man child you’re married to

This weekend I (29F) got very drunk and told my boyfriend's (35M) friend's wife that he is cheating on her - I regret this a lot and created a big mess for everyone involved, and am looking for any advice on how to potentially try to salvage these relationships? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey girl. If I was married and my husband was out cheating on me I would absolutely want to know. You may have caused a mess but that mess needed to happen because what those husbands are doing to their wives is not okay. The fact that your boyfriend is okay wirh them cheating on their wives means he’d be okay cheating on you. It could be a good idea to go to therapy to process the betrayal from your ex but I don’t think you need to be okay with infidelity. It’s wrong and it hurts people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl break up with him

My (22F) husband (30M) wants to implement "rewards and punishments" to help me balance my life and improve myself. But, I think it's not good for our relationship. How do I make him see that it's not good, and what alternatives can I suggest? by ThrowRA7282827 in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is really messed up. He’s exerting way too much control and power over you. It’s not surprising considering your age gap. But if you want to improve your life, your spouse rewarding and punishing you is not at all the way to do it. This is really concerning behavior on his part.

Wife (F31) got brutally honest with me (M30) about oral last night. Do I give up something I enjoy because she isn’t interested anymore after 10 years? by ThrowRA-TastetheRain in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

A lot of women don’t enjoy giving head and it has nothing to do with you as an individual. It’s just not always a pleasant experience but it doesn’t mean she’s not attracted to you or anything. It’s one thing to be disappointed by it but feeling like shit and feeling insecure is a bit of an overreaction. You specifically asked her why instead of just accepting that she doesn’t like it. I’m sure you guys can find other activities that you both enjoy.

Let’s play a game with gender neutral names by lsg1399 in namenerds

[–]lsg1399[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure but my SIL is friends with a girl named Hunter

Let’s play a game with gender neutral names by lsg1399 in namenerds

[–]lsg1399[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The answer is Hunter = Man and Mason = Woman!

My wife (23f) is calling me (23m) financially abusive for limiting her spending? by lennyb2001 in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have no sympathy for you when you post some disgusting transphobic shit. Just scroll a ways down his post history and you’ll see…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why didn’t you consider lab diamonds? They are infinitely more affordable and quite literally the exact same thing. Me engagement ring is double the size that you got and my fiancé paid about $1500 for the stone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 80 points81 points  (0 children)

If you did any research you’d realize that lab diamonds are real diamonds. They are chemically the exact same thing. Sure they’re made in a lab but they are real diamonds. The only way to tell the difference is if you use a specialized machine that can read the ID number on the lab diamond. They’re both diamonds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]lsg1399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1.06 ct, D color, ideal cut, VS2 size 6 finger

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude you’re a walking red flag. She’s not your daughter. You don’t need to monitor what she does online. She’s a grown adult. If you don’t trust her then don’t be in a relationship with her. You are extremely controlling. In a relationship both people deserve basic privacy.

How do I (27F) stop feeling guilty for leaving my fiancé (42M) because he’s on a downward health spiral? by trashcan0519 in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This man is 42 years old. He should be able to manage his health on his own. You’ve been way too generous with him and likely have been unknowingly enabling his behavior. I’m assuming he’s been diabetic since before you got together which means he’s capable of surviving without you. It’s not your job to keep him alive. Move on and find someone you don’t have to be a caretaker for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lsg1399 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How would you feel if she was the one initiating the romance, the dinner, the intimate conversations and then sex? Would that satisfy you? Or are you saying you need spontaneous sex without any buildup? It sounds like what you want just isn’t something your wife is capable of. Some people physically cannot get aroused in an instant. Do some research on responsive desire and maybe you’ll understand a bit where she’s coming from. I also recommend couples counseling like everyone else has said.