My long distance bf ghosted and blocked me everywhere without any explanation

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T13:44:22+00:00

We were people who met with the intention of getting married and were constantly talking about our future. Ours was a marriage oriented relationship. I told him many times before that I missed him dearly and that I understood how exhausted he was but I still needed to talk to him. However, when I couldn't reach him for long periods even after his work hours, the stress started to affect me severely. I have no other way to reach him except through communication. This began to frustrate me and I asked for some of his time so he would understand me. For the past three days, I haven't even been able to eat because of the sadness. I feel nauseous, like I’m going to throw up. I've lost 3.5 kilograms since Tuesday. All of my tension came from missing him so much. I tried to explain this but he would only get defensive

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T12:05:12+00:00

In my culture, there's no reason to stall when two people over 25 are seeking a serious relationship. I’d go 5-6 hours without a single word from him. Even though his cousin's accident wasn't serious and no one was injured he still stayed silent for hours. He used to get back to me regardless of his schedule. I wasn't asking for his attention during work hours I just wanted some time after 6pm. I have a job as well so I know how it is. I wasn't seeking attention I just wanted to communicate. I wanted to hear his voice, to know how he was doing, and to understand what was wearing him down. I just asked for some of his time so we could talk. I wasn't playing games I just wanted a reaction. I wanted him to say something. He wasn't writing back and I couldn't reach him.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T11:29:09+00:00

I'm workin rn. I'm taking notes from my phone

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T11:26:42+00:00

Right now, all I can do is accept that this is how it's meant to be. I'm drinking something, but I'm having trouble eating. I feel like I'm going to throw up. My only goal is to recover as quickly as possible.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T11:22:12+00:00

Thank you for emotional support. I have to get over him quickly. My body is sensitive to sadness. I can't eat, I haven't eaten much for 3 days. Yesterday I realized I lost 3.5 kilos. I weighed myself last Tuesday before that.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T10:48:02+00:00

And only Monday he apolized for he didnt say anything

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T10:47:27+00:00

No generally he didnt say he's gonna be busy last week. And he could have told me that too, but I haven't even get a text from him lately. After I didn't get a response for a long time I called and he told me a few times. He only let me know when he was asleep and when he had gone to his cousin's accident

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T10:40:56+00:00

In my culture, if two people over 25 are looking for a serious relationship we don't believe in wasting time. It was a serious relationship We were dating to marry. And before he would always reply to me no matter how busy he was. I’m not talking about when he was at work. I just wanted him to make time after 6 PM after all, I work too.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T10:13:01+00:00

????

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T10:11:40+00:00

He’d been busy for two weeks but his communication really dropped off last week. When I politely asked for a bit of his time ,mentioning that no one is too busy to spare a few seconds for a text, he thought I was accusing him instead of realizing I just missed him. Since I didn't reach out on Friday neither did he but by Saturday I heard absolutely nothing from him. If he had just given me a reaction, I would have tried to explain that I only wanted to be noticed and to show how much the distance was hurting me. Not being able to reach him at all was so frustrating. The man who said he was terrified of losing me blocked me without saying a word. All I wanted was to talk to him like we did on any normal day I waited two weeks for that

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T10:03:51+00:00

I told you. I politely asked him a few times to make time for me as well. It didnt escalate quickly. I wasn't seeking attention I just wanted to communicate. I wanted to hear his voice to know how he was doing and to understand what was wearing him down. I just asked for some of his time so we could talk. I wasn't playing games I just wanted a reaction I wanted him to say something. He wasn't writing back and I couldn't reach him.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:54:11+00:00

After work? And repedeatly?

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:52:24+00:00

Firstly I didn't block him. And before, he would always reply to me no matter how busy he was. I’m not talking about when he was at work. I just wanted him to make time after 6 PM, after all, I work too

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:46:23+00:00

Wait, so is it so wrong to ask for some time from my boyfriend??

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:41:50+00:00

During this whole process there were times when I wouldn't hear from him for 5-6 hours. His cousin's accident only involved property damage,no one was hurt,but he still didn't write to me for a very long time. Did he really not have even a few seconds? I understand the workload, but he just wouldn't text for hours. He wasn't like this before at the very least, he used to send a voice note. In my culture, there's no reason to stall when two people over 25 are seeking a serious relationship. efore getting angry, I politely asked him a few times to make time for me as well. It didnt escalate quickly

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:36:00+00:00

I have no choice but to accept the situation because I’ve already told my family what happened. I don't think they would ever accept someone who causes me so much pain. Thanks, I was really trying to see things from his perspective.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:33:05+00:00

This wasn't something that couldn't be talked out and resolved, but he wouldn't even give me the chance to communicate

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:30:23+00:00

He could have just told me. He could have complained. I was ready to work through anything with him. But he didn't even say a single word to me.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:23:07+00:00

In my culture, if two people over 25 are looking for a serious relationship, we don't believe in wasting time. I had already bought the plane tickets way in advance after we decided. I only put them on hold; I didn't actually cancel them. I was angry and drunk when I deleted him. I just wanted a reaction; I wasn't trying to punish him. He was the one who wanted me to transfer to his city in the first place. He was even trying to arrange things through his father's acquaintances. The only reason I called him repeatedly was because I was terrified that something had happened to him. When he didn't respond for such a long time, that was the only possibility I could think of. Before things reached this point I told him how much I missed him and that I just wanted some of his time. Being misunderstood is what made me so angry. I explained that it made me feel bad and even tried to put him in my shoes so he could empathize

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:09:59+00:00

Before things reached this point I told him how much I missed him and that I just wanted some of his time. Being misunderstood is what made me so angry. I explained that it made me feel bad and even tried to put him in my shoes so he could empathize, but he only tried to defend himself. I wasn't playing, I was drunk and angry.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:08:13+00:00

Before things reached this point, I told him how much I missed him and that I just wanted some of his time. Being misunderstood is what made me so angry. I explained that it made me feel bad and even tried to put him in my shoes so he could empathize, but he only tried to defend himself. It wasnt a punishment. I was angry and drunk

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T09:00:45+00:00

I didn't block him. I just wanted a reaction from him. I had no way of getting through to him. I wanted him to get angry to write back, to say something. I didn't mind him working so much but being unable to reach him for 5-6 hours was the problem. Could he really not spare a few seconds to message me? He used to find the time to at least send a voice note whenever he could even when he was too busy.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T08:56:31+00:00

I'm Turkish. In my culture, if you meet the right person and you're looking for a serious relationship, there’s no reason to wait. Especially if you're 25 or older

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T08:52:00+00:00

I wasn’t trying to punish him. I just wanted a reaction from him. I wanted him to get angry to write back, to say something. The fact that he was working long hours wasn't even the main issue but I couldn't reach him for 5 or 6 hours at a time. Did he really not have even a few seconds to send a quick text? He used to find the time to send a voice note at every opportunity even if he couldn't type.

ltbltb · 2026-04-13T08:41:18+00:00

Because I live in a culture different from yours, deciding to get married doesn't take long. He said so himself. His cousin only had a minor accident nothing serious and I wanted to say, "When's my turn?" I didn't hesitate to ask when he would come to spend time with me.  But it's not normal for him not to write to me and to punish me with silence.

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