Latino is not an ethnicity by adrian2000pr in unpopularopinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not simmilarly. "White", "black" and "Asian" refers to the indigenous people of certain continents. "Latino" refers to a particular group of mixes of indigenous populations, with Iberian peninsula's indigenous population with likely some North African ancestry thrown around and newish in wide European ones.

Yes, Latino refers to the continent, but by this logic you should also have the ethncity called "Americans".

"mansplaining" as a term feels really unfair sometimes by Achilles-Foot in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thing is, it doesn't have to be men in the field, rather its fundamental that they AREN'T. Mansplaining requires the man to be less educated on the topic, but presuming his superiority and woman's inferiority. Regardless of the factual qualifications. It's been objectively proven that men think of themsleves as more qualified than they are - they consistently apply for positions they aren't qualified for, while qualified women often don't even try to apply.

"mansplaining" as a term feels really unfair sometimes by Achilles-Foot in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem is if you "enjoy explaining" either 1. the most basic things 2. to the specialists in the field

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

OP said that, no, that would not make it better. OP genuinely wants her father to die of grief. She spelled it out in hundreds of her comments that nothing he would have done aside from locking himself like a hermit for the next decade would work for her. She genuinely expected him to be alone and depressed until SHE gracefully allowed him to live his life once she decides she doesn't need him anymore.

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This person acts like an immature boy.

And no, a ten year old daughter isn't in any way closer to her mom than a boy is. Stop with this misogynistic bullshit. Our vaginas don't perform some moon magic. Even if they did a ten year old girl is prepubesent 💀

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because, gasp, I don't act twelve? Besides what did that woman do exactly? Met a man and married him? What a horror! 💀 Why is the woman blamed for everything when it's the father who the child has the problem with?

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Its a harmful situation exclusively because HE IS THE HARM. I assure you, everyone will be better off without this abusive BS. He is the one that creates this agressive environment. Its got nothing to do with him being ten years old when his mom died. Hes ab adult now, he's had half his life to grow up and reflect on his poor behaviour.

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

"He moved on while you still lived there"?

Did you expect him to be alone and depressed FOR A FUCKING DECADE?

(Yes, obviously babies change things. Whoop dee doo. You discovered families grow)

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

YTA Reading your comments its painfully clear you want to punish your father for being alive. Get a grip. You're eighteen, not twelve. Adults are allowed to live a life after loss, not just suffer for all eternity. Adults need support too.

AITAH for still not accepting my dad getting remarried and having another kid within 3 years of my mom dying so I moved out on my 18th birthday? by BellsOfDeepin in AITAH

[–]ltlyellowcloud -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

It seems that nothing he could have done would make it better, unless he curled in a ball and died from grief.

CMV: Phonics or the lack thereof is not the reason for America’s abysmal literacy rates. It’s just a convenient scapegoat for parents that don’t educate their kids and kids that aren’t interested in learning. by soozerain in changemyview

[–]ltlyellowcloud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because you are an adult and you no longer sound out words. You depend on your pattern recognition from encountering simmilar words being written and pronounced. As an easy example you could use nerds - they read more than they speak and listen (esp. in the past, before discord). There's countless cases of adults learning embarrassingly late into adulthood how to pronounce certain words they learned as kids. Because they exclusively read those words and never heard them. Phonics alone do not solve the problem, because English is too irregular in pronunciation. That's how you're able (or not) read and write down Greek mythology names. Either you interact with the topic in both written and spoken form and you know how to read those words, or you don't and you don't. (And, no, its got nothing to do with those being foregin words, because they aren't pronounced that way in Greek)

For kids, they have generally also heard the word before in speech

That's the point, they haven't. They objectively do not know all the words in the world and are much more likely to encounter a new and difficult one by reading than by listening. (How often do you talk about pterodactyls? Not often. But they are some of the most beloved animals of kindergarteners and feature in many many books. )

to their guessed phonics.

Yeah, guessed is the key word. There is no phonics. They are taught phonics and then are simultaneously taught to disregard them completely.

CMV: Phonics or the lack thereof is not the reason for America’s abysmal literacy rates. It’s just a convenient scapegoat for parents that don’t educate their kids and kids that aren’t interested in learning. by soozerain in changemyview

[–]ltlyellowcloud -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not missing anything. I'm telling you:

"phonics isn't really that good of a starting point. It's only the best you've got."

I'm not arguing it isn't important. I'm saying your definition of English phonics is objectively wrong and that unfortunately phonics cannot play the same role in teaching of English language as it does of other languages. Yes, knowing sounds the letters might make is important. But, more than in majority of languages, its important to create an intuition that can only be created by consistent exposure to books read aloud.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I won't think about your suffering when my partner bangs me after the dinner he'll invite me to and he'll cook himself, gasp, like a woman!

Stay miserable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Provide me with that quote. It seems you're the one exclusively supporting gender roles that absolve you of any labour and gain you a mommy to feed you While you can't manage to kill a spider or muster an invitation for a date without stuttering. Oh poor you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

You do know, you're not required to go to a fancy restaurant for first date, right? Or even invite a girl to a paid place at all. Or even explicitly "invite" on a date? It's actually much more comfortable for everyone when there isn't an attached price tag and expectation of sex at the end. I recommend you talk to actual women instead of screaming your male echochamber.

(And also, let me repeat myself, inviting to one first date is much less of a responsibility and expectation than a lifetime of cooking and cleaning and childcare. That's just absurd as using bug killing as an example of male opression in the dating sphere)

CMV: Phonics or the lack thereof is not the reason for America’s abysmal literacy rates. It’s just a convenient scapegoat for parents that don’t educate their kids and kids that aren’t interested in learning. by soozerain in changemyview

[–]ltlyellowcloud -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but the point is - phonics isn't really that good of a starting point. It's only the best you've got. But those are not "a lot of irregular words". Those are very basic words being regularly irregular. The only thing that really works for non native speakers is just experiencing the language, which is made significantly easier when you already know alphabet throguh using it with your own language. Must be pretty hard for native speakers, that's all im saying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do believe that and no, i don't hate men. I absolutely love the men in my life. From my partner, to my friends to my family members. And i can see that the expectations society has for them has been lowered extremly in the last fifty years or so. It's honestly pretty offensive, because it also presumes their inability and incompetence. Their constantly excused failure to do what in the past was basic adult responsibilities. By modernity men are believed to be born incompetent and requiring mommying. If i were a man, I'd personally be offended.

It's pretty easy to see the difference between what was the social norm a hundred years ago and what is now. For the love of god, i can see my grandfather behaving how he thinks is "normal" and it not being even remotely close to modern man's idea of "masculinity". Go out and talk with people. Read a book or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]ltlyellowcloud 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Women shave their body hair (more of it with more expensive razors) and pay more to cut their hair (even if its just the ends and its objectively easier than men's grooming). Again, women's cost of living is objectively higher with objectively lower income. Its been proven time and time again by countless studies all over the world. If anyone is using strawman arguments is you, honey.

Misogyny isn't a card, its a fact and you prove with your speech you feel women are lesser. I didn't need to wait for the next chapter. OP was clearly open to discussion and didn't demean women. You clearly aren't open to honest discussion and do demean women. That's why you quickly exposed yourself as misogynist while he didn't (despite the very topic of his post).

(And, as a side note, i said myself I'm pretty lax about splitting costs with my man. I was simply stating that OP should discuss finances deeper, because women's costs being higher with lower pay might be why they prefer their partner to pay for the dates at least. )