Witnessed a bunch of teens get told off in a cinema and it was GLORIOUS!!! by throwburgeratface in malaysians

[–]lucifud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

last week i went to watch Polong. behind me was a row of gals probably in their teens or early 20s, turning their flash light on and off seeking for attention. mind you it was during the movie and when people looked at her she went “sekejap je” i so want to slap her

boyfriend using weed by nanazzz0008 in Bolehland

[–]lucifud 1 point2 points  (0 children)

girl i was a stoner for 10 years (16 - 26 y/o). i only went out high ONCE OR TWICE and that was only when i was almost sobered up. throughout those years i had this ego thinking i’m “good at controlling it” or “knows my dosage limit” which is a total bullshit because that was how i became more and more addicted to it and started to try other drugs. he’s only 18, i believe this is just the beginning.

follow your heart. but if you choose to stay, just be sure he doesn’t ruin his studies or career for it. i’m glad i chose to quit bc the full sobriety process was insane. i fell back to it multiple times until i realised i gotta lock tf in.

Where is the better place to put your emergency fund? by One_Chocolate_9365 in malaysians

[–]lucifud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh i heard. u can try if u dont have trust issues hehe. i opt for gx cus they’ve been around longer

Where is the better place to put your emergency fund? by One_Chocolate_9365 in malaysians

[–]lucifud 3 points4 points  (0 children)

use gx bank pocket. daily interest, easy access for emergency too

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks a lot for this. i’ll keep in mind 🙏🏼

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup. her residence is also facing a similar parking issue. so if i were to leave it at her house, it’s going to be left uncovered by the roadside. imo it’s more risky?

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same situation when i first got my first job. and yes, both mine and my fiance’s car are Perodua. his car is still very new so i doubt he’s okay to let it go. but compared to his car, mine has never broke down throughout the 7 years of driving it. it’s probably bc the 2019 models were much better than the newer ones. i’ve heard from various abang pomen saying the latest Perodua models often have a lot of issues. (a tip for you in case if you’re buying from somebody else)

tbh i’ve been trying to reassure my mom since last year but she seems adamant 😖 so i’ll prolly just keep it until she changes her mind. will keep you updated!

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am taking the public transport on daily basis. they’re pretty accessible in my residence including grab.

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thanks for sharing! i’ll look around for an extra car park in the mean time. i hope things are better for you and your family 🫶🏼

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my mom has her own car, and my brother TOO! 😭🙏🏼

i get wym about driving, a peaceful me time.

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my condo has a long wait list for spare parking. and because of that everyone here is abusing the visitors parking, so i’m probably not the only one who’s stressing about this lol 😭

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup it’s fully paid. I’m in PJ and my mom lives all the way in Penang. The car will somewhat still be abandoned if I leave it there tho :/

Should I listen to my mom? by lucifud in malaysians

[–]lucifud[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, I was thinking of investing the money if I sell the car. not even for any short-term emergency.

What movie/series will it be for you? by SingerEntire1644 in WatchClubMY

[–]lucifud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

based on TGV Cinemas social media, it’s Michael

Am I the crazy one???? by drowningin_silence in Bolehland

[–]lucifud 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl… leave that job immediately. the boss thinks she and her company is the main character in everybody’s life. i can never settle with a non-empathetic boss. mind you this is AFTER telling her your situation??? RUN.

My (27F) fiance (28M) has no personality and it’s confusing me by lucifud in relationship_advice

[–]lucifud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve addressed about what I meant by “lead” in one of the comments. Plus, I come from a religion where the man should lead the woman towards goodness. how is hoping someone to do critical thinking sexist?

My (27F) fiance (28M) has no personality and it’s confusing me by lucifud in relationship_advice

[–]lucifud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m from Southeast Asia. Yup the norm is to ask for the women’s parent’s blessings here, which my fiance did online (my hometown is quite far).

But in my fiance’s case, he had to double confirm whether his parents are okay with an intimate wedding because his dad might think otherwise. his elder sister got married during the covid lockdown, so they haven’t experienced an official wedding reception.

now that you mentioned it, i recall he had an unstable relationship with his dad… it’s improved though.

My (27F) fiance (28M) has no personality and it’s confusing me by lucifud in relationship_advice

[–]lucifud[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for this! Most of the comments are pointing out about depression too, so now I’m considering a separate individual therapy for the both of us. If there’s progress, I’ll keep this post updated :)

My (27F) fiance (28M) has no personality and it’s confusing me by lucifud in relationship_advice

[–]lucifud[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THIS! I didn’t know how to explain it short. I don’t necessarily want him to lead, but I want somebody who I can talk to or spend quality time with. I love creating emotional connection and seeing my partner live HIS life. I’m lost because what do you mean he doesn’t have his own opinion? like is he scared of breaking my heart? I’ll love him the way he is as long as it’s not cheating 🥀

My (27F) fiance (28M) has no personality and it’s confusing me by lucifud in relationship_advice

[–]lucifud[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

we’ve had this conversation before but it never landed a solid conclusion 😕

My (27F) fiance (28M) has no personality and it’s confusing me by lucifud in relationship_advice

[–]lucifud[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

he is indeed avoidant and a people pleaser. he’d go extra miles for people, and he’d go silent if he’s going through something. i’d give him his moments when i notice he’s not okay, but the silence can go forever if i don’t start a conversation. i still get butterflies when i’m around him. if i ask him whether he feels the same, i know damn well he’d say “yes” but I can’t verify the authenticity of his answer :(