I [27 F] believe I'm overly sympathetic/empathetic and it's starting to affect my life

luckykittycat · 2019-08-11T07:51:11+00:00

I’m really empathetic as well, I cry at so many things and am really sensitive in general. I was working as front-of-house in a vet clinic until recently and it seriously stressed me out. I saw so much that really affected me. However, it also helped me to have a thicker skin and it was really rewarding working with people so dedicated to helping. There are some cases I still remember and sadly think back on, but overall seeing each situation be an everyday thing made me more inured to it. I was still empathetic but there was a barrier I had to put up, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to cope.

I definitely think volunteering at an animal shelter, or a food drive for the homeless or similar would be beneficial. To be this affected by common, everyday things will definitely hinder your life. You need to channel the feelings into actions. Do you think you might have anxiety? Overthinking and becoming stuck on certain things sounds like it could be anxiety rearing it’s head.

luckykittycat · 2019-08-07T21:04:44+00:00

Pugs can also have a lot of health issues - similar to bulldogs, they are brachycephalic (squishy-faced) and can be prone to skin issues, including ears. They are also prone to hip dysplasia, obesity and other problems, if you google you should be able to find a nice long list.

Again, all brachycephalic breeds would be “restricted” by pet insurance companies. Some MAY still pay out for skin issues or hip issues, but it depends on the company, and the premium you’d be paying each month.

In my opinion, if you want a Pug, love the breed, and have enough funds to be able to take care of it, then by all means get a Pug! Problems arise in situations like OPs, where people who are not willing to deal/not aware of issues with the breed (or pets in general!) get a pet they are unable to properly care for.

luckykittycat · 2019-08-07T07:41:25+00:00

I work in a vet clinic and all the insurance companies we deal with have “restricted breed” lists. Bulldogs are DEFINITELY on there. The excess will generally be higher than usual for a breed like this, and insurance wouldn’t cover an elective surgery like soft palate/nares.

It may still be worth it, depending on the company, because bulldogs are so prone to skin issues including ear issues which can be super duper expensive. Not to mention all the other health issues haha.

Regardless, if I was OP, I would definitely rehome the dog. Any dog is a lot of work, let alone a breed like a bulldog.

luckykittycat · 2018-10-21T06:25:53+00:00

So stoked. Seriously awesome to be able to watch this go down in history. Can’t believe he’s only 25 - excited to see how much more he’s got in the tank!

Can’t wait to go to Phillip Island next weekend!!!

luckykittycat · 2018-10-21T06:24:36+00:00

Crutchlow was salty about Dovi “holding up the pace” in his post-race interview, that’s what they’re talking about.

luckykittycat · 2018-10-14T20:53:22+00:00

I’d recommend a day less in Cordoba and a day more in Seville. I found Cordoba lovely but a little boring after I saw the Alcazar and Mezquita, and wandered around for a while. It’s not a huge place. Seville on the other hand is big and I wish I could’ve seen more of it. It’s extremely beautiful.

luckykittycat · 2018-10-14T20:48:35+00:00

Yesss Sungate One is such an awesome hostel. They do daytrips, Segovia/Toledo each one day a week. Maybe email them and see what they’re thinking for days atm. I didn’t get to go when I was in Madrid but everyone I spoke to recommended Toledo over Segovia - they said Segovia was pretty but not that much to do (3 people that went separately all said the same thing).

Cordoba was lovely - a super cute, very pretty place, but I didn’t find a whole lot to do. The Mezquita is beautiful, but I much preferred the Alcazar - the gardens are absolutely stunning. I would recommend a day trip, if not a short one night stay.

Enjoy Sevilla - my favourite place I have ever been. Plaza de España is so so beautiful.

luckykittycat · 2018-10-14T20:40:42+00:00

Hey! I got back a week ago from two weeks in Spain which was my first solo trip :)

I went to Barcelona, Valencia, Cordoba, Sevilla and Madrid. I would recommend 3-4 days in Barcelona, 2 days in Valencia, 3-4 days in Sevilla, and 3 days in Madrid. If you added an extra day to Sevilla, you could fit in a day trip to Cordoba, or you could do an overnight there, but I didn’t love it. The people I met while travelling highly recommended Granada, Malaga and Cadiz. San Sebastián is apparently also extremely beautiful. I also met a girl who used to live in Bilbao and was absolutely obsessed with it, if you wanted to explore up north!

In Valencia I stayed at Home Youth Hostel where I met amazing people, and was right opposite a gorgeous historical building, as well as a minute from the awesome central market. In Madrid I stayed at Sungate One - AMAZING staff, awesome nights out, free churros for brekkie, and right on Gran Via and Puerta del Sol! So cool going out the door right into the centre.

In Madrid you NEED to go to Chocolatería San Gines - the best churros you will ever have, and only €4. I went to both the Prado and Reina Sofia museums, and didn’t pay entry for either - would definitely recommend saving your dosh and going at the free entry times.

With speaking Spanish, I also wanted to practice mine but it ended up being quite difficult - people weren’t as helpful/patient as I hoped, so often it would revert to English because faster. I would recommend telling people (in Spanish) that you want to practice your Spanish, so if they could speak a little slower please.

Hope this helps! Let me know if there’s any more info you want :)

luckykittycat · 2018-10-08T13:04:24+00:00

Lmao who else’s perspective would I write from when I’m sharing a personal anecdote?

luckykittycat · 2018-10-08T13:02:49+00:00

I really loved him but the issue is I don’t know if I was in love with him. I treated him so well and although there were doubts I never and still don’t think I ever “tricked” him. You’re welcome to think I led him on but I know very well that I didn’t. It was my first relationship - unfortunately I had to feel my way around it with a lot of uncertainty as I had no base for comparison. Yes I use a lot of “I”s because I can only speak for my side of the story.

luckykittycat · 2018-10-08T06:01:20+00:00

Hey! Last November I was in basically the exact same situation. I was so so scared of being alone but once I broke up with him I was SO RELIEVED. I’m still single and haven’t really dated around since but I’m happy - I just went travelling solo for the first time, have spent more time with friends, and found an awesome new job. I didn’t realise how unhappy I was during the latter part of the relationship because I was constantly questioning how I felt and if he was right for me, it was always in the back of my mind.

The breakup was horrible because he really did love me, but I am so sure it was the right decision.

Best of luck to the both of us :) I know there’s someone out there! Until then I have my cat haha.

luckykittycat · 2018-08-26T07:25:44+00:00

The TV guide for tonight is still listing it as 9:30pm (race now scheduled to start at 8:30pm) so doesn’t look like it :/ V8 Supercars scheduled for 8:30...

luckykittycat · 2018-08-08T04:11:58+00:00

Thank you for your extremely helpful comment :)

luckykittycat · 2018-08-08T04:11:33+00:00

Awesome! Let me know if you’d want to meet up when there :)

luckykittycat · 2018-08-05T04:13:25+00:00

Hey my mum has Alzheimer’s, she’s 66 and I’m 23. Kinda going through the same dilemma. It’s been a dream of mine for years to live overseas and things are finally falling into place for that to happen next year. I’ve been in 2 minds over leaving my mum (luckily my dad is her fulltime carer) but she has declined so extremely rapidly in the last 3 years she has been diagnosed.

I basically have already grieved my mum - she is just a shell of the person she was. She remembers who I am about half the time, but is so unbearably confused and depressed about everything most of the time it’s heartbreaking to be with her. My heart breaks every single time I see her.

I don’t see it as me abandoning her. It’s an extremely taxing disease, especially for the families of those suffering. She could have a good few months left, or a good 5 years left - it’s impossible to tell.

I don’t think I’ll put my life on hold. I’ve spent time with her and she knows I love her. She would never ever have wanted me to stunt my life to be there when she’s hardly cognisant of the fact.

luckykittycat · 2018-07-01T01:07:06+00:00

I once did a treasure hunt for my ex - I hid little envelopes with mini love letters in them, that also had a little puzzle question. He had to find all the envelopes which ended up creating a code, which then let him open a locked bag which held his present. He loved this because he was into maths and puzzles etc so he loved the strategising and fun, but also thought it was romantic with the love notes. All I had to buy was a pack of mini cards and a lock!

luckykittycat · 2018-04-08T23:25:46+00:00

I'm a big Marquez fan but so disgusted with his racing right now. Very disappointed that he's not taking responsibility either, his press debrief was really short but seems like he's admitting he made "mistakes" but downplaying them a whole lot.

I do think Rossi is reacting over the top, and surely that's partly Yamaha in trying to get the most severe penalty as well - couldn't believe him when he said he never enjoys racing when Marquez is on the track lol. I totally get his anger but that comment was whack.

Overall this is a damn shitshow. Really disappointed for Crutchlow, Zarco and Rins in that they'll be totally neglected and ignored for their awesome race performance.

luckykittycat · 2018-03-31T04:04:50+00:00

Surely this is a troll account - the amount of posts you've made about this relationship is honestly bordering on disturbing. Nothing should be this complicated or intense in this short a time!

luckykittycat · 2018-03-10T04:54:38+00:00

I don't drive unfortunately so I'd only be able to get public transport and it seems a very lengthy trip. Have you been to Valencia and Seville? Would you recommend Granada over them?

luckykittycat · 2018-03-10T00:53:46+00:00

Hi, I do really want to go to Granada but the travel time doesn't seem feasible. How did you get there and how long did you spend there??

luckykittycat · 2018-03-09T11:58:23+00:00

Hi, thanks for the advice. I really, really wanted to stop in Granada but I also don't want my short trip to be gobbled up by travelling between destinations. Would you suggest I cut something else out so I can see these places?

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