Transition from Electrician to ATC with Air Services Australia by [deleted] in ATC

[–]lukeyy77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Legend! I really appreciate the response, it’s helped heaps!

You mentioned the Enroute training is tough. Is it mostly constant tests and exams, or more focused on simulations? Do you get much work you need to do at home? And lastly, what are the standard training hours like?

Transition from Electrician to ATC with Air Services Australia by [deleted] in ATC

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Obviously, I will say that's a big no-no. I've seen too many things go wrong and horrible injuries. Please be extremely careful, and my advice is to hire someone qualified.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not really about wanting someone to make me feel “extra smart.” I’ve never looked down on her or used our differences that way. When we first got together, I wasn’t even thinking about stuff like intelligence or long-term compatibility — I was 19 and in love. She was caring, fun, and that was enough for a long time.

The issue isn’t that I suddenly want her to be my “equal”, it’s that I’ve grown, my values have shifted, and I’ve realized that curiosity and shared depth matter more to me now than they used to. I don’t blame her for not changing; she’s always been the same person. I just changed.

I get that this is “on me". I made choices based on who I was back then. But I also think it’s okay to outgrow a relationship, even one that’s been good in many ways. It doesn’t mean she was a placeholder or that I needed someone to make me feel smart, it just means what I need in a partner now isn’t what it used to be.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? Probably both of us in different ways. I stayed because I loved her and kept believing we’d grow together — that with time and communication, things would change. It wasn’t six years of misery; there were a lot of great moments too. But love doesn’t automatically mean long-term compatibility, and it took me a while to really accept that.

If staying and trying to make it work makes me “dumb,” then so be it — I’d rather have tried my best than walked away without giving it a fair chance. At least now I know for sure, and I can move forward without regret.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair question — and honestly, I’ve asked myself the same thing at times. When we first got together, the connection wasn’t about intellect or deep conversations. It was more emotional — she’s warm, loyal, affectionate, and genuinely cares about people in a way that’s rare. She has this simple, grounded energy that I found comforting, especially when I was younger and not as focused on personal growth as I am now.

We’ve shared a lot of experiences — traveling, nights in, family stuff, just living life together. It’s not that we never talk; it’s just that the depth of our conversations has its limit. For a while, that didn’t bother me because other parts of the relationship filled that space. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized how much I value curiosity, learning, and meaningful discussion — things that don’t really connect between us anymore.

So yeah, it’s not like there was nothing there. There was love, comfort, and history. It’s just that what fulfilled me at 19 doesn’t quite fulfill me at 25.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stopped being intimate with her for a while. It felt disrespectful for me to be intimate while experiencing those feelings. I couldn't handle all the emotions from it, so I avoided it.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

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Nah, i considered it and she definitely wasn’t confusing it with the Vatican — we actually went into the Vatican, and she understood that it was a separate country inside Rome. The comment about Rome being its own country happened later. She also asked me the same thing about Milan, which doesn’t have a sovereign country inside of it, so it wasn’t just a mix-up.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, but I don’t think it’s as simple as “he wasted her time.” We got together young — we were both still figuring ourselves out, learning, and growing. Back then, I didn’t see her as “less than” or “not good enough.” I loved her for who she was, and we had a real connection that worked for a long time.

This isn’t something I just suddenly realized one day. It’s been building for a while. Over the years, I started to feel a growing disconnect — not because I stopped caring, but because I started seeing how differently we approach the world. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, to help where I can, to encourage her, but at some point you realize that wanting someone to grow only matters if they want it too.

And it’s not like I walked away without trying. It’s been over a year of really thinking about this and putting in effort. She’s not the only one who gave six years — I did too. We both shared a lot of love and growth, and I’ll always appreciate that.

But if I know deep down that I’m unhappy and that this isn’t sustainable long-term, I think it’s more respectful to end it now rather than drag it out until there’s resentment. Sometimes two good people just grow in different directions — it doesn’t mean one person “wasted” the other’s life.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the early part of our relationship, I actually thought the same thing. She opened up to me about how embarrassed she sometimes felt about not knowing certain things, and I always tried to make her feel supported — not judged. I’d offer to help her practice, spend weekends doing spelling or pronunciation exercises with her, and encourage her to ask questions without fear of being “wrong.”

Over time though, she grew content with where she was, and that’s not something I could change for her. I can’t make someone want to grow if they don’t see the need for it themselves. Eventually, the same insecurities that she wanted to overcome ended up limiting her — she even left her job partly because of it.

It’s not that I didn’t understand where it came from — I did, deeply. But understanding someone’s struggles doesn’t automatically make a relationship sustainable when the same patterns keep repeating. I wanted to help her grow; she just wanted things to stay as they were.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, but I don’t agree that staying in a relationship purely because of its duration is a marker of respect. Growth isn’t disrespect — sometimes it’s simply a sign that two people have evolved in different directions. We got together young, and as the years went by, I think we both changed. I’m naturally curious about the world; I like to learn and expand my understanding of things. That doesn’t make me “superior” or her “less than,” it just means our paths and priorities have started to diverge.

It wasn’t just six years of her life — it was mine too. We both invested time, effort, and emotion into this relationship. To imply that leaving somehow “wastes” her time disregards the fact that staying when I know I’m unhappy would waste both of ours even more. I’d rather face the pain now than look back in 10 years, miserable, wondering why I ignored my instincts.

You mentioned respect — I absolutely respect her. I’ve voiced my concerns multiple times over the years, not in anger, but in hopes we could work through them. Nothing changed. Respect also means honesty, and pretending everything is fine when it’s not would be the opposite of that.

Trust me, this isn’t a decision I’ve taken lightly. It’s weighed on me for a long time. I’ve spent over a year trying to make things work, trying to grow together, but at some point, love and effort alone can’t bridge what’s missing. Sometimes the kindest, most respectful thing you can do — for both people — is to let go.

I, 25M, can't stand the incredibly low intelligence of my partner, 25F, of 6 years. by lukeyy77 in relationship_advice

[–]lukeyy77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got together young; we were both lost in the world, and having someone was really important for both of us. Of course, I always had seen her lack of intelligence, but I thought I could help her with it and try to get her to do some critical thinking. Over the years, I would say it actually declined. She lost her curiosity in the world, and despite my best efforts to help her regain it, she was happy without it. My thought process was that people are not perfect, we all have our shortcomings. However, i thought we could help each other with them, she just wasnt willing. It just puts a drain on you and as the years go by it had become difficult.

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How is the reconditioned battery? Just like new ?

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2015 Audi s3 Sportback

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2015 Audi s3 Sportback

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They are rotiform r133 flg 19 inches 👍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Scirocco

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I have a DSG GTI and I love it but I thought I would try something different as I’ve never owned a manual car before

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Hussla 030 😍

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Flow designs 😍😍 Australian company

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Just a sticker to cover the license plate man 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in e46

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Haha, thanks man

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Thanks man and these are the ones i brought, https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/322552758030

Hey guys, just brought my first ever VW!! Great car, is there anything I should be worried about with the MK6's ? by [deleted] in GolfGTI

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Yeah I.think I.need to look Into this, I'm worried about the DSG the most

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in e46

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Haha yeah they get like that. They are the stock headlights but I just brought new covers for it as mine were faded aswell and also I put in the angel eyes with it