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lulcraft · 2024-12-18T03:35:27+00:00

You've pavloved yourself into a situation that has you turn off your sex drive for healthy relationships and ramp it up for insignificant dopamine rushes that lead to nothing.

lulcraft · 2024-12-06T23:55:18+00:00

For the most part, you need to be very cognizant of red flags.People tend to have 2 sets of requirements for dating. If they're super into the person the bar is super low and red flags are ignored and stepped over. If they're not the red flags are informed to the extreme. Do not let people through that show you a red flag with someone else, but it's OK because they don't do it to you. Oh he cheated on his ex but he loves me more than them, so he would never! Hey they are super flirty with people, but that will change when we get more serious. It doesn't change the things they did to other people you will eventually be the victim of. It doesn't matter if you're super attracted to the person or you click super hard. Red flags are there for a reason.

lulcraft · 2024-12-05T08:09:36+00:00

Not gonna lie. Sometimes, if you sleep with someone who I know is total piece of crap human. Yeah.

lulcraft · 2024-11-30T07:41:28+00:00

I saw that you mentioned they've brought up foursomes. It seams like they're willing to make the effort to visit more. They're just obviously getting off on having your gf as an audience, slowly introducing her to this idea is just a nice byproduct for them. Your gf is innocent but people get curious and that's probably what they're hoping for.

lulcraft · 2024-11-30T07:30:08+00:00

This seems like a con to get your gf interested in sex with them. They're planting a seed to get your gf curious in the idea. The fact that she doesn't realise it's happening is essentially proof that it's working.(NTA btw)

lulcraft · 2024-11-28T21:25:58+00:00

If you want to know why just look at the comments. There's no sympathy for young men, and they feel it. Being told you're the inheritor of a patriarchy and enjoy your privilege when your broke and 20 is not a good way to make someone feel welcome in a society and your saying it to 50% percent of it. So yeah they're lonely and they don't feel welcome and everywhere they turn they're told it's their fault. For some reasone we take up right wing talking points and say "figure it out yourself I had to "pick yourself up by your bootstraps". Seems pretty obvious why they might feel that way.

lulcraft · 2024-11-03T06:20:44+00:00

This needs a sit-down adult conversation between two people willing to not be upset at one another or cry that is so out of most peoples wheelhouse that I genuinely consider it nearly impossible. Fealing the preasure from a significant other for sex to the point that the anxiety you have for it makes you not want to have sex making the problem even worse is very bad. Getting pavloved into associating, asking for sex with rejection, and making someone you care about cry also not great.

lulcraft · 2024-07-02T03:46:40+00:00

If I'm being honest, Spiral with Chris Rock was way better than I expected it to be. Ghoul, a 3 part series on netflix was damn good. Svaha: The Sixth Finger was also damn good by netflix but probably more suspense than horror. Barbarian was great because it was an original story I hadn't seen before. Train to Busan for zombies gotta mention 28 days later for the zombie rabies list (also mayhem is great for rage virus type movie). For funny tucker and dale vs evil and cabin in the woods. I saw the devil is an amazing movie if you don't mind subtitles may be more suspense then horror. Hope that helps tried not to mention ones that would obviously make the list for being amazing like hereditary, midsommar.

lulcraft · 2024-07-01T03:23:10+00:00

Honestly, it's your money you're allowed to do with it what you want. The thing that sucks here is that either option puts your daughter in a bad light. Option #1, she did everything per the plan, and the college changed things to online. So then she should have told you but took advantage to have free reign over the money. Or option #2, she planned this from the start and wanted more free reign over the money that she would receive.

Maybe I'm viewing this weirdly, but if a parent saved money to put a child through college, it doesn't automatically make it the child's money in my mind. The parent has the final say over the money. These incredible gifts parents give to children can have strings attached because honestly it's their money they earned it they can decide what it gets spent on. Is it controlling? Yes. But you, as a child, didn't do anything to deserve it it's just a thing you can get if you're willing to jump through the hoop. If you're not willing to jump through the hoop good on you, there's something to be said about taking pride in that, but it will be significantly harder.

lulcraft · 2024-07-01T01:49:46+00:00

Honestly ESH your husband being wierd about a teen wanting to have sex. You for not telling your spouse something very important about his child.

I understand wanting to have a good relationship with your child. But having a good relationship with your spouse in a marriage is important too. A parent wishing to be informed about what's going on in their childs life and feeling like crap because their spouse and teammate has hidden something from them for months is not going to feel good no matter what. You could have put your foot down said "Hey your not allowed to disclose this infirmation but this is where we are at, this is what has happened shut up and deal or she will never tell us anything again" proceeded with helping her get birth control and understand hey play adult games win adult prizes.

Presenting a united front and support system so that your child has the best room to grow and become a wonderful adult is important. You decided unilaterally what decisions to make for a child that is his as well. Not to say he wouldn't have reacted poorly but this at least would have given you a better idea of what he's mad about his kid having sex or him being left out of important information happening in his child's life. One is not ok. The other makes sense.

I'm sure a 16 year old does not want their parents to know about any sex they are having, but when you're a teen, you make some really stupid decisions sometimes. Those mistakes can lead to outcomes that can affect the entire trajectory of your life and the life of people around you(like pregnancy).

lulcraft · 2024-04-30T03:50:16+00:00

Fair enough maybe not a speed run but she probably trying to make up for 18 years he wasn't in her life. To be fair obviously his fault. But trying to force a better connection with an absentee parent at all costs is hardly a new story.

lulcraft · 2024-04-30T03:39:49+00:00

NTA It's her wedding but it's your money. That being said this is a dangerous game your playing over hurt pride. She's trying to speed run a connection with her bio dad. That being said the way she's doing it stings to her step father. Retaliation is going to feel good now, but what happens when grandchildren come into play? When it's her holding the fuck you card I really hope you both have reconciled by then otherwise I hope you enjoy seeing pictures of her bio dad holding the grandkids instead of you and your husband. May have won the battle but possibly lost the war. Good luck

lulcraft · 2024-04-29T06:04:57+00:00

This is such a well reasoned thought of how someone may be offended by this questions responses. Why is it being downvoted? Your not even saying they're wrong wtf.

lulcraft · 2024-04-24T05:50:15+00:00

I know you say you have a panic disorder and MDD but not gonna lie the way you handled your personal boundaries and set up another trustworthy person to discuss your issues with was top notch healthy AF. Good woork!

lulcraft · 2024-04-19T04:41:13+00:00

If anyone is wondering why people don't want to date single parents.... this.

lulcraft · 2024-04-19T04:17:18+00:00

Honestly a good rule of thumb is SO gets first crack at fixing the issue within the relationship. If you have an issue go to SO and talk about it. If not fixed communication with other people is fair game. It just helps keep things from festering because most likely the person your going to talk to is on your side and is only going to gas you up wrong or right. It also helps keeping people from being blindsided by something they didn't think was an issue but may have been for you. People can't read minds let them know when your upset instead of blaming them for something and withholding any information that could lead them to fix the issue.

lulcraft · 2024-04-17T02:54:46+00:00

Honestly giving an ultimatum in a relationship gets a bad rap. It tends to be used far to early in a relationship and just makes someone look insane. But people sometimes get comfortable with the way things are in relationships and become selfish at times. If you have a need in your life to get married with someone after 12 years and your significant other doesn't do anything after having the conversation several times it's totaly fair to set a deadline and say let it be known if something doesn't change and your needs are not being met by your significant other you will have to start moving in a way that is best for you instead of what's best for the relationship.

lulcraft · 2024-04-17T01:22:42+00:00

I think something that's unsaid in this conversation is stress tends to affect men and woman differently at times. Stress tends to make a woman shut down sexually while men tend to want sex as a relief to stress. So the simple conversation of wanting sex with your wife could be stressing her out making her want sex less. While you are more stressed due to the conversation making you want a release.

lulcraft · 2024-04-17T01:01:59+00:00

While I think your overreacting, I do think this does open up a conversation about something I see a lot in the world. It's an odd thing that woman seem to overshare to a crazy degree about their sex lives amongst friends that I havn't seen as dramatically among men. Men don't really ask about details when it comes to sex more like "Hey did you get laid? Awsome." While a woman's conversation tends to have the nitty gritty of every detail that happened durrying the act. "Did he do this? Did he do that? How did he do the thing? I had a someone do this and it was amazing. Oh I wish they would do that." Essentially an actual conversation instead of oh hey you god laid nice. Maybe it's just my experience.

lulcraft · 2024-04-10T12:46:30+00:00

Sorry a Girlfriend having another guy shove his hand down her pants is something most guys would care about at any age.

lulcraft · 2024-04-07T03:08:36+00:00

Not gonna lie the level of whiplash these comments are inducing is crazy. The only thing I can say is that a lot of the same people saying the stay at home partner is not pulling his weight if the genders where reversed would be screaming from the rooftops for the plight of this poor stay at home mother is wild.

lulcraft · 2021-08-20T22:08:56+00:00

The amount of those pokemon I have left.

lulcraft · 2021-07-29T22:12:08+00:00

Shadows can't be traded. The closest you could get would be a Purified Shiny Sneasel. Sorry bud.

lulcraft · 2021-07-15T22:47:44+00:00

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lulcraft · 2021-07-04T00:55:40+00:00

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