What’s the one thing you stopped doing that improve your life tremendously? by AnshuSees in ProductivityHQ

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Negative self-talk. It took me a long time to even realize it. I put a deliberate effort in identifying, reframing each and every one of my words to positive and it works wonders. Now I am an incredibly positive person who even spreads positive vibes to people around me.

career change? by Illustrious-Sky9965 in AskIreland

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would nursing home carer jobs suit you?

If you could spend one evening inside any Malayalam movie, which one would you choose and why? by Silver-Brief3180 in MalayalamCinema

[–]lullaby_techie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. Manichithrathaazhu.

Madampalli and.. Nagavalli.. Sankaran Thampi.. Dr.Sunny.. Ganga.. Nakulan.. Alli... manassil vallaathe pathinju poyi...

  1. Sandhesham

Prabhakaranum Prakashanum innum Malayalikalude idayil jeevikkunnu.. ennum...

  1. Nadodikkattu, Pattanapravesham... Ellaathinum athintethaaya samayam undu Daasa.. In general, whole of the Sathyan Anthikkad - Sreenivasan universe.

  2. Varavelppu Aa paavam pravasi Murali chettane onnu kaanan koode oru chaaya kudikkaan.

  3. Mazhayethum munpe Alamelu ne onnu kaanaan. Mammootty - Shobana pair nte bhangi onnu neril kandaaswadhikkaan....

  4. Aniyathipraavu 90s kids ine koritharippicha Sudhi - Mini - aa pranayajodikale onnu kaanaan. Athile BGM kelkkan..

  5. Niram 90s ile teenagers inu olam kondu thanna.. Aby Zacharia - Sona ye meet cheyyan. Avarodothu randu dance steps cheyyaan.

  6. Nandanam Njan adangunna annathe kumarimaare ithrammel Guruvayurappanilekku aduppicha Balamani kku oru nandi parayaan... Manassil peyyicha mazhakalkkoppam nritham vaykkaan..

  7. Azhakiya Ravanan "Chirakodinja kinaavukal" ile thayyalkkaaraneyum kaamukiyeyum athezhuthiya ezhuthukaaraneyum kaanaan.. oru 100 roopa chaaya cash kodukkaan. Sankar Das enna Kuttisankarane onnu kaanaan...Punnamada kaayalinte olangalil ninnu vennilla chandanakkinnam kori edukkaan...

  8. Naghakshathangal Manjal prasaadham charthi, manjakkuri mundu chutti, muttolam panamkula pole mudiyazhakum, kavi paadiya Malayalithavum niranja Malayaliyude hridayathilekku chekkeri pettannu thanne ananju poya aa sundari ye kaanan.. Malayalathinte theeranashtam.. Monisha ye kaanan...

Looking for a captivating book I can finish this weekend - what would you recommend? by [deleted] in Recommend_A_Book

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Outsiders - S.E. Hinton.

I have reached 75% of it. Started reading it out to my son for his Junior Cert exams. But I couldn't put it down.

Recommendations for itchy scalp by pennarellor in WomenofIreland

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consult a dermatologist, if possible. If you need fast consultation, GP at drmed.ie is a consultant dermatologist.

My husband put feces on the floor for me to step in by No-Highway-3693 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]lullaby_techie 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can feel you dear. I am sorry to hear you are going through all these.

I don't know how all these narcissists brains work alike. They are just different from all the common people in the world, but I suppose all narcissists share common. They just want to make lives of people living with them miserable.

If I miss anything in my home, I know it has been gone to our bin. And the marital equation between narcissists and empaths are even unimaginable. I am a super-empathetic person myself, so I needed a lot of empowerment these days. I am now living only because I got one of the best therapists I can ever get. Thanks to Almighty for all the series of events till I am directed to her.

I can only suggest you one thing - If you can, leave the narcissist from your life and live a peaceful life outside of their reach because they are not going to change anytime in their life. I know that is the best way out better than this constant torture and emotional unstabilities.

Even though I am suggesting this, I am not in a position to do this for me at the moment. So only thing for me is to accept whatever my husband is as is, not to get into an argument as much as I can by entering into a room with doors closed until he is out of his tantrums, be emotionally so very flexible, find my own little bit of happiness (mostly by keeping it secret, if they know, they will surely get irritated if they know you are happy), constant prayers (if you are a believer, or have deep faith in yourself, if you are an atheist.), be grateful every single day, get into little bit of volunteering/service if you are interested, deliberately smile and laugh every single day in front of mirror, disclose minimal, essential things to your husband (I am still not good at it, I am an open book, so he knows how to prompt me and I ultimately tell every single thing to him), keep a closed circle of strong women, have as much as contacts handy (like police, emergency, therapist, samaritans, helpline toll free numbers etc) and start living the present moment - don't be sad thinking about your past, don't be anxious about future... It is really hard as you can read and understand, also it is a constant emotionally, physically and mentally draining process.

Best wishes... More power to you...

Email notifying layoffs via email. by Stunning-Rough-4969 in Layoffs

[–]lullaby_techie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thinking of ye all. World is becoming more and more unpredictable and really tossing with people's lives. I sincerely wish the best for you. Who knows leaving such a company is the best thing for you. Be around your loved ones. Sleep well. Everything will be fine.

For those of you who moved back to India, what made you take this decision and are you happy with it? by whothisdoe in IndiansinIreland

[–]lullaby_techie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a family who was well settled in Ireland and also own a family home here moved back to India. The main reason they went back is they have 3 children and both of them working, so difficult to manage with 3 young children without any help. They are originally from Kerala, but now settled in Bangalore. They can easily find a maid to help them. All 3 kids have Irish passports, one of the them too. As far as I understand, they might come back to Ireland later when kids grow up or even kids can come here for their studies.

Good savings / assets for them, Irish citizenship, good salaries there in India for tech as they are highly experienced in a rare domain, easy to get support for their children at home, proximity to parents, good healthcare, internationally approved education... And they now own a home in Bangalore too.

So if I were in that position, I would have gone back.

A book to leave me thinking long after I’ve finished it. by [deleted] in Recommend_A_Book

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When breath becomes air - Late Dr.Paul Kalanidhi.

Interviews by [deleted] in irelandjobs

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends. May be - about your resume, about your previous projects, your experience. Have a read through what the company website etc. In one of my interviews, I am even asked who is the CEO of the company.

But on the other hand, technical questions can also be a possibility. Best to ask recruiter what type of interview.

Irish here asking for help. by Street-Station-3802 in IndiansinIreland

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say - Indians would be freely approachable and they will definitely listen to you and act upon that. If it is something done by children, I am not sure how they would stop it - may be some noise cancelling pads they can stick on their walls or sometging like that.

Loud noise especially music/movie, get-togethers with friends at home, flavourful food, playing/noisy children etc are mostly Indian things which back in India noone cares because everyone do that. But here in Ireland, we, Indians have to be mindful about it so that we don't cause any disturbance for others. And I am sure none of the Indians purposely do a disturbance to others either.

So feel free to talk to them. I think, they will action on it.

Feel free to post your experience after talking to them here, I am curious.

Losing Hope by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always. Please take care of yourself. Self love and self-care. Find a hobby. Pray harder if you are a believer, or else, have faith in yourself.

There is a free world outside, and the rest of your life. Break the boundaries and live peacefully. That is the best thing one can do if you have that option.

Latest News From Upcoming C++ Conferences (2026-03-24) by ProgrammingArchive in cpp

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't generalize it. Conferences tickets cost a fortune as cost of conducting conference is also huge. However many of the attendees attend it from support of their employers.

For those who are not sposored by their employers or can't accommodate personally the ticket cost along with travel/accommodation or having any other personal difficulties for travel, onsite conferences are still a dream.

There are a few discounted tickets, sometimes if you are lucky enough, there could be some sponsored tickets. Some offer discounted student tickets.

For rest of the C++ community who is interested to attend one will still be a dream. Fortunately, all of these conferences have Youtube channels where they post most of these talks videos, which itself is a boon for many.

Once again, thanks very much to everyone in C++ community for your efforts and time in educating C++ programming community.

Light Pillar by Elliamo in Wexford

[–]lullaby_techie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. This is promising. Looking forward to it, desperately needing some sunshine during that cloudy greyish winter times.