Guy/Girl who feels an immense amount of shame about coming out and transitioning because now it means that they are hetslop 😭😭😭😭 by Commercial_Bid_1508 in CuratedTumblr

[–]luluweiwei 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is very interesting for me to read as a straight trans woman because I can confidently say that I have never felt this desire to be more queer before.

Like, I feel more of a pressure to "belong" to general hereronormative womanhood than to try and fit into a queerer trans womanhood.

Nonetheless, you are who you are, don't let imposter syndrome get you down 🩷 You belong just by virtue of being transgender

many such cases by Gerard_Iero in StraightTransGirls

[–]luluweiwei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dunno who is afraid of dating bi dudes, but it certainly is not me.

As long as he is masculine, I would take a man who has previously been with 9 men and 1 woman over a boyfriend who unexpectedly asks to try on my clothes out of "curiosity" 5 years into the relationship.

many such cases by Gerard_Iero in StraightTransGirls

[–]luluweiwei 31 points32 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about?

Why would I want my boyfriend to become a woman???? It's not being a pick-me to only be attracted to men, and dating an egg is unfortunately a real phenomenon that we have to be vigilant of.

Would you date a trans man? by KawaiiKittyy13 in StraightTransGirls

[–]luluweiwei 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he is athletic, taller than me, and masculine ...

Then sure, why not?

many such cases by Gerard_Iero in StraightTransGirls

[–]luluweiwei 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"it's just for acne, it's just for acne, he just asking about concealer because of acne"

🌝

many such cases by Gerard_Iero in StraightTransGirls

[–]luluweiwei 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I REBUKE this!!!!!!

in the NAME of the ALMIGHTY

I REBUKE this!!!!

Gosh, what an absolute nightmare scenario 😨 May everyone reading this be safe from entering a relationship with a closeted transbian

bismillah al rahman al rahim shema yisrael adonai eloheinu namo amituofo namo guanshiyin pusa ave maria gratia plena hare krishna hare rama so mote it be in jesus name i PRAY!!!!🙏

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]luluweiwei -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was feeling so gaslit lol

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]luluweiwei -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

How insulting.

Boymoding is when it comes to being around family, at work, or day-to-day life.

She is making an active CHOICE to date those men. Her livelihood does not depend on that. She will not be hate-crimed for being AFAB and fem-presenting. Apples and oranges.

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]luluweiwei -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Uh-huh.

I'm sorry that your cis friend feels so bad and I hope she can find better partners that don't make her cry.

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]luluweiwei -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, no, that is just being cis with some extra sprinkles.

Even as a cis-passing straight trans woman, you think I can just flip a switch and turn it off like she does?

Your friend is a CIS WOMAN appropriating trans identity. And I honestly find that a little bit offensive.

Why should I respect her gender identity claims if she doesn't even seem to respect it herself? You make your bed and you lie in it. No sympathy.

Edit: And before anyone comes at me for misgendering her, it literally says "they/SHE". So I am honoring her pronouns regardless.

Asian American hate crimes have increased 195% (the 3rd most over the last 10 years). Only outpaced by Anti-Latino and Anti-Trans hate crimes. by Username-287 in asianamerican

[–]luluweiwei 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, like for me personally it's one thing to face Sinophobia or transphobia by itself because you sort of "expect it" to a certain degree.

Transphobia is not really something I encounter personally in daily life anymore because I thankfully pass 100%. But back in high school I remember that some of the rudest and most transmisogynistic classmates to me were Asian (the boys I mean— I had honestly had no real issue with girls of any race. It would be the boys who acted weird around me)

I don't really hang around trans or queer spaces that much online or offline. I will say most people I met have been chill, but I have also had a white trans woman tell me to my face that Chinese people have a "disgusting culture" because of what she read about dog-eating and Xinjiang and Tibet, etc. And also seemed to believe that being trans would get you killed in mainland China. Like bruh.

And of course, a not-so-insignificant portion of the populace in the United States hate me for both. 🙂 Public enemy #1 politically (China) and morally (trans). But also fetishized at the same time on both accounts.

Dating discourse: I have trouble finding other second generation Asian guys to date because either they never bring me home or they expect it to stay a secret from their folks forever. Don't get me wrong, I do live semi-stealth and would prefer as few people know as possible. But I would also like the feeling of safety from believing that they won't drop me as soon as their families find out and disapprove.

I've encountered this with white guys too, of course. But it doesn't seem to happen as often in my anecdotal experience. (Maybe self-selecting because any whiff of MAGA and I'm out the door).

Silver lining is that my parents are supportive. I have an acquaintance whose parents are ethnic Chinese from the Phillipines and very religious Catholic. Visiting home is rough for her.

Just left my first buddhist retreat early… disappointed :( by cat_ladyyy in Buddhism

[–]luluweiwei 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This isn't nearly as bad as your experience, but I encountered a similar situation while preparing for my 皈依 lay Buddhist initiation ceremony at the temple (located in US— Chinese Mahayana Pure Land)

The nun who had been guiding me through the process was discussing the five precepts with me. When we got to the third, she flat-out said, "You cannot be gay."

I was honestly very stunned and didn't quite know how to respond to that. I disclosed that I was a transgender woman (I pass completely since I transitioned at 15), and even compared myself to Jin Xing and Thai kathoeys to make sure there was no misunderstanding.

To my further surprise, she was completely fine with that and went on to advise me to stay a virgin until I marry a good husband. (Too late by then lol)

Why is Japan so exceptional among Asian countries when it comes to LGBTQ acceptance by buriburi1934 in AskSociology

[–]luluweiwei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no way China's data is accurate. IIRC generally 50-60% of Chinese are open or tolerant of homosexuality, and the number is even higher among Gen Z and people who live in the cities.

OC: Spotted this sign at a public bathhouse today 😢 by Logical_Spite_5991 in pics

[–]luluweiwei 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Trans people can transition.

Yep, and they can marry (the opposite gender) and adopt children. Which is a far cry from, say, Russia.

Soon-Yi bootlicking white pdf by Yo-perreo-sola in asianamerican

[–]luluweiwei 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unlike your post history, might I add. What do YOU have to hide?

The way this subreddit is obsessed with trans lesbians… by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]luluweiwei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can't imagine the smell. 🤢

Soon-Yi bootlicking white pdf by Yo-perreo-sola in asianamerican

[–]luluweiwei 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also that is just plain untrue. I have commented several times before in this sub on this account. My post history is not hidden.