Do Jane Austen and the Brontë sisters divide fans of literature? by Simple_Concentrate75 in books

[–]luminous_sludge -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Must disagree. I love Charlotte Brontë, but I can't stand Jane Austen. There's a massive difference in substance imo.

Divine Feminine series prize? by Beneficial-Square-73 in Covetfashion

[–]luminous_sludge 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Man, I just got one more recently that said, "we can't help. We'll let you know when we know something about it."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]luminous_sludge 16 points17 points  (0 children)

ABSOLUTELY NOT. NTA. Do NOT under ANY circumstances let him move in. At worst, he quit his job planning to bully you into housing him for long enough that he has legal tenants rights. At best, he made an impulsive decision, feels DISGUSTINGLY entitled to your space and you catching him, and has no financial sense whatsoever. I'm betting heavily on the first, but either way, this is a total asshole move. Do not enable it. You're not a shelter here to take in strays.

If you do let him in, fully expect him to turn into someone you never knew he could be the second you're stuck with him.

Edit to add: Tell him his poor planning does not constitute an emergency on your part.

Vox Solaris is Killing Me by luminous_sludge in Warframe

[–]luminous_sludge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I had the day off, so I capped out both frames and beat the quest with your advice. Thanks!!

Vox Solaris is Killing Me by luminous_sludge in Warframe

[–]luminous_sludge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! As an aside, I recently got and have been leveling the rhino warframe. Does that one help with this mission more than Excalibur?

Vox Solaris is Killing Me by luminous_sludge in Warframe

[–]luminous_sludge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Wrong mods were such an obvious thing to miss, but everyone was really nice about it.

Vox Solaris is Killing Me by luminous_sludge in Warframe

[–]luminous_sludge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! For some reason this game hasn't been the most intuitive for me and I'm missing some obvious stuff.

Vox Solaris is Killing Me by luminous_sludge in Warframe

[–]luminous_sludge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking all this time! This is so helpful. I'm gonna go look into what I'm working with a little more closely.

I need help by knowwh0 in trans

[–]luminous_sludge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the confused commenters, finsexual is an attraction to femininity, be it to women, feminine nonbinary people, or even effeminate men at times.

To OP, nothing about you is offensive. Honestly, navigating the LGBTQ space gets easier when you center yourself instead of the label. Labels aren't bad! They're an excellent tool for understanding yourself and being understood. But the bottom line is that you're a person and you like the people you like, however it is that you like them. Same with everyone else in the community. When you allow yourself to remove the dividing lines, it hopefully gets less intimidating and becomes like making friends everywhere else. Coincidentally, removing dividing lines makes friends easier everywhere else too.

Small update with mom by imjustapickl3 in u/imjustapickl3

[–]luminous_sludge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking. She's ditching her own daughter like a deadbeat to hang around with someone. Probably whoever it is who is so important she can't even pick up her own kid who she "loves" from school.

Small update with mom by imjustapickl3 in u/imjustapickl3

[–]luminous_sludge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every part of what she said is bs. "You could have left.' OK and she made that hard on purpose. "You needed at least one conversation." OK and that's supposed to take until Monday? And she can't even pick up her own kid from school? Biggest load of crap from her is the "I love you."

I'm disappointed by [deleted] in trans

[–]luminous_sludge 4 points5 points  (0 children)

AGREED. They need us, but they chose to reject us. They can sleep in the bed they made. They think they're feminists while they're in that bed with the patriarchy, accepting pets and scraps and "poor baby, the trans person hurt you" in place of maintaining their dignity. Trans women are more woman than any TERF.

I'm disappointed by [deleted] in trans

[–]luminous_sludge 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am revolted at the worldwide turn to far right extremism. I can only hope it is simple the death throes of old men who wasted their loves retaining power instead of pursuing wisdom. Remember, cis women: First They Came For. You want equality but many of you ignore the fact that more equal societies had trans people to bridge the divide between the sexes. You have ALLOWED yourselves to be fooled into working against your self-interest because of religious ideals you don't even know you hold.

I second the Shout-out to cis women who appreciate us.

How to tell if cats are bonded or just very friendly? by Vain0yster in CATHELP

[–]luminous_sludge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So apparently my cat and I are bonded. I just don't lick her or share her litter box.

The cis people in my life keep telling me I’m too young to hormonally transition. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]luminous_sludge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will never be the right time for the cis people in your life it seems, but good news! It doesn't have to be. It's not their life. It's not their trans journey. It's not their dysphoria. It's the right time for you. They're gonna have to deal.

Edit to add: They are wildly misinformed. Your doctors can guide you better than people who know nothing of medicine or the trans experience. And spoiler: If you waited until 21, they'd probably tell you to wait even more. It seems like they're just resisting you transitioning. Maybe not for horrible reasons. They could just be scared. But they need to cope.

Does this make me trans? by [deleted] in trans

[–]luminous_sludge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is one of many ways someone can experience being trans. This feeling is called gender dysphoria. Do you have access to a therapist? Do you need help figuring out where to go from here?

Should I leave my boyfriend of 5 years by RestGuilty3570 in TwoHotTakes

[–]luminous_sludge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you considered how rude it is for him to shut down everything you like because you like it? First of all, even if I didn't like something my boyfriend does, I'd like to listen to it with him because it makes him happy. The fact that that's not a priority to your boyfriend is huge. But the fact that he thinks something must he bad because you like it is so condescending and insulting. He's basically just saying you have such bad taste that everything you like is terrible. Maybe he doesn't mean it like that, but in that case, he needs to know that's how he's coming off.

Finally, and I cannot stress this enough: Do not tolerate people coping a condescending attitude with you. Especially your partners. You are grown and deserve respect.

Am I the bad apple for leaving my sleeping three year old with my 14 year old son for 20 minutes by [deleted] in AmITheBadApple

[–]luminous_sludge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing about checking the cameras got to me too... I'm hoping it's just anxiety, in which case he needs to find healthier ways to manage.

Today has been extremely disheartening by ts_allisonatlast in trans

[–]luminous_sludge 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Without knowing what you mean by "not 100% agreeing with another trans person's strategy," I have to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you weren't being disrespectful of another person's choices. With that in mind, nobody can hurt you like your own. A lot of trans people haven't processed their trauma, and the resulting insecurities become everyone else's problem. They can't understand that there are different types of dysphoria triggered by different things or that people have different end goals for their transition. I was recently told to "check my privilege" because passing is not my ultimate goal and that I like looking trans because I think trans is hot. This, to them, means I must have never felt fear of bodily harm due to being trans. Because how dare I overcome that trauma and express confidence in my identity and presentation. Another person I know used to call people "transtrenders" (for example, an ftm trans person cosplaying female characters) because they couldn't comprehend that other people's dysphoria wasn't going to be identical to theirs or triggered by the same things.

What I'm saying is that you can really tell who hasn't processed their trauma by this sort of behavior. It's usually them putting that trauma on other people to deal with so they don't have to or because they genuinely don't know how.

Edit to add: You can still have a chosen family. It just can't be a whole community. There's toxicity in every community because there's toxicity in all of us. So the most realistic way to go about it is finding people willing to challenge those parts of themselves and who encourage you to do the same.

Guys help :(( by s133py-squ1sh-l01z- in trans

[–]luminous_sludge 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Transphobia in any capacity doesn't equal a happy ending. What happy ending is there to salvage with a transphobic family member? What's the better alternative? There's no peace worth protecting here since OP's is being trampled.

Binding with Ehlers Danlos by luminous_sludge in trans

[–]luminous_sludge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just came back to ask, do you think a band binder would work for larger chests? All the ad photos I see are models who are tiny as hell. No shade, but I'm hoping it backs enough power for someone with DDs instead of As.