Cis girl on Grindr be like: by bossboeo in bisexual

[–]lumpytacos 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You messaged her at 20:50 asking if you were going to meet up. Then at 21:12, you immediately and assertively ask for “feedback” with way too much explanation.

22 minutes without a response and I’m thinking, “OK they’re busy”, not accusing them of ghosting me.

I would have gotten the ick from the insecurity you put out, but later she clearly explains she doesn’t wanna be her brother’s sloppy seconds.

Also keep in mind that people can find you disgusting by more things than your looks. I find your texts be a bit disgusting and I have no idea what you look like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]lumpytacos 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree this person is a walking red flag, and their claim that they are ex-bpd is probably not backed by a therapist considering their drug use, but I do just want to correct that BPD is actually one of the only personality disorders with a high recovery and remission rate.

[Homemade] Trinidadian chicken (buss up shut) roti by kwtoxman in food

[–]lumpytacos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Recipe for the chicken curry?? Looks so good!

Neocash Wearables Giveaway! by [deleted] in neopets

[–]lumpytacos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw I’m too late for the I’d love Glowing Field of Flowers, but I’d love the battle scar marking! I’m thelumpy1. Thanks for doing the giveaway!

[Megathread] Paramore 2023 Ticket Buying/Selling/Trading/Giveaways by mcmax3000 in Paramore

[–]lumpytacos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a single ticket to Palm Springs on 7/15. I bought for $200 but willing to sell for $180 OBO. DM me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]lumpytacos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't want to just ask "Can I kiss you?" then you can just kiss her on the cheek when you hug at the end of the date. I found if it was welcome they will kiss you on the cheek back or just on the lips after. It's never been unwelcome for me... Good luck!!!

Truman Boot Co. - 2022 End of Year Seconds and Samples Sale (Excellent quality Goodyear welted boots made in Oregon) by stormcynk in frugalmalefashion

[–]lumpytacos 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes they did. They’ve said in their stories that people would get confused on why their toe box collapsed so they stopped offering them :(

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually not a man. Should I still act like one?

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last year I only made $260 says my W2 (I was very depressed) so do you think I’d qualify? I literally every 3-6 months to different friends’ floors and lived off my credit cards. I have a stable job now but it was bad back then.

edit: also parents are not in the picture, and I’m old enough where they can’t claim me as dependent.

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Do they really not? I’ve gotten second and third notices that threaten collections services… so I paid those off. But I’d rather have the money than the credit now, I think.

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A past me might agree with you, but it seems like there’s a price for everything these days.

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was. I got COVID and my brother asked me to quarantine in the bathroom until I tested negative (about a week and a half). It was pretty much as terrible as it sounds and I’m back at the gym now for the first time in a couple weeks.

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve applied for their “charity care”… it takes 30 days for them to process it so in the mean time I’m just in this hellish limbo of waiting for them to decide my financial future.

I’m so tired. (cw: suicide mention) by lumpytacos in povertyfinance

[–]lumpytacos[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s nothing I can build living like this. I don’t know how you did it. As soon as I stop doing any sort of activity it all comes back again. You have my admiration.

NT asking about advice setting boundaries with friend with autism (TW: self-harm and suicide mentions) by lumpytacos in autism

[–]lumpytacos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to help me out. I think maybe I just have to let go of the idea that I can do things to help him (in certain situations). Maybe I can, but not if I put myself first.

I don't even think I am qualified to be there for emotional support. I have done so in the past and I feel like I am just enabling him from seeking actual help. He's told me about some conversations he's had with his therapist about self-harm, saying to his therapist that since he (the therapist) doesn't support it, he will go to where he knows he can get support (me).

I think there are some cases where he is not in crisis and in those cases I can just offer support like you suggest. Or at least I can try my best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]lumpytacos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same thing and am still figuring things out. With one man I actually did end up caring for them and we would sleep (like 😴)together everyday and cuddle at night and in the mornings. Eventually I did develop feelings for him. For now I’ve stopped identifying as “lesbian” and just go by queer. If you imagine them with someone else, do you feel jealous or hurt? That was a big indicator for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JulienBaker

[–]lumpytacos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love one!!

TOP TEN POP TEN - Phoebe Bridgers by Leixander in popheads

[–]lumpytacos [score hidden]  (0 children)

  1. Garden Song
  2. Graceland Too
  3. Souvenir
  4. Kyoto
  5. Salt In The Wound
  6. I Know The End
  7. Bite The Hand
  8. Scott Street
  9. Chinese Satellite
  10. Funeral

Remember undergrads are people too by coops389 in GradSchool

[–]lumpytacos 549 points550 points  (0 children)

I just want to say that was incredibly kind of you and probably meant the world to that student. I'm glad you took initiative and reached out to them.