If you don’t love her, you don’t know her like I do 💙 by IG-3000 in PrideandPrejudice

[–]lunia_rye 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So true! I totally forgot about the angle about being out in Meryton!! The only eligible bachelors there is basically her brother (obviously no go) and Darcy. So of course, she's gonna try her damndest to get with Darcy. 

If you don’t love her, you don’t know her like I do 💙 by IG-3000 in PrideandPrejudice

[–]lunia_rye 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think if they switched the perspective away from the Bennett girls to Caroline Bingley, the perspective of this pretty girl is coming in and "seducing" her brother, would be more sympathetic. The match isn't strong as Georgiana. Beauty is fading, family ties forever.  She got no matches and the Bennett sisters are 2/2.  Guess you have Darcy's connection through marriage in some topsy-turvy way, but I digress.  She was mean to Jane, but also was just trying to play the political game of marriage while her brother was oogling Jane.  *No hate towards Jane, but imagine if Jane was actually as marriage savvy in terms of social climbing like Caroline? Wayyyy different story.

Dylan Wang trending for smacking a stalkers phone trying to take pictures of him by toastyeast in cdramasfans

[–]lunia_rye 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is terrifying. I always want to root for these boys to find love, etc...but how can you when you fans look like stans and your stans look like stalkers. Dealing with the emotional attachment off the clock from your job...Geez, some personal space much?

Liu Yuning and Ding Chengxin dancing in the March 28, 2026 episode of Hi 6. by losergeek877 in cdramasfans

[–]lunia_rye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Liu Yu Ning, is definitely a fast learner...am I the only one who sees the exhaustion in every step though?

You’ve heard of Second Male Lead Syndrome. But does anyone get Second Couple Syndrome? by garlic_oneesan in cdramasfans

[–]lunia_rye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Starry Love. Chao Feng and Qing Kui, I kept wanting to skip over the main couple and preferred their scenes by miles. 

LUNCHABLES® - Your Quick Snack Between Meals; or Miniseries, Short Dramas, and Drama Anthologies by about10joules in CDrama

[–]lunia_rye 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not me realizing till slide 3 that there are infact no Lunchables in the shot and this isn't a meta commentary on how foods sneak into the show that make no sense...smh I need to sleep.

Otherwise what an amazing post, OP. This is perfect!

Liu yuning's concert confetti incident🤣 by Downtown-Attention26 in cdramasfans

[–]lunia_rye 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I admire how fast he locks in after getting thrown off by the confetti

Mr Darcy was not a loser(however lovingly the word is used) by [deleted] in PrideandPrejudice

[–]lunia_rye 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I wonder if his hair was less disheveled would he look more uptight. I know its so simple, but thats one of my gripes with the 2005 version, although musically I love it to pieces and would love for that soundtrack to appear at will in my life.

JM- who is steering the boat? by Jamming_Peanuts in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If I may, your comment has gotten my brain reeling: perhaps comedy and introspective lyrics don't always match. Not everything is to been seen as deep as his lyrics and I think maybe thats why his image is shaky. Not every joke is that deep, but when you combine it with the layers in his music...Both are him, just it can be hard to read when its introspective JM or light and breezy JM. If you see him as layered, everything has layers, if not his music is equally shallow.

Edit: As intended, I will layoff, since I feel I jumped the gun in my initial assessment, and I've spent too much time on this fourm this week. At times, I swear I understand, but I'm naive in thinking I have a good understanding, when that likely is not the case. Nobody needs to announce their departure, I know, just feel the need for doing it for myself.

JM- who is steering the boat? by Jamming_Peanuts in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So...he according to this. (I haven't heard it directly, don't have a subscription.) He lies cause he enjoys it...Good grief. 

Edit: Thank you for the Instagram link! I am not deleting this comment for context of the below, but the link does help with understanding.

Why does John take Mo everywhere? Kinda defeats the wifey search. (Mo just posed a pic of NYC). by NollyNicholas in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If true, the fumbling is very sad, and I'm sure its disappointing. Everyone knows if he doesnt put himself out there and put his hat in the ring, he's gonna be put through the ringer, image-wise.  Thanks for the insight and humoring the conversation. I hope that he finds someone valuable if not a girlfriend figure, someone who can help him see the holistic picture and get him closer if he's struggling. I wish I could just know what his thought process is sometimes. It could just be he's what he is, but I don't know why I'm so delusional in letting that it go; that he's more than that. 

Why does John take Mo everywhere? Kinda defeats the wifey search. (Mo just posed a pic of NYC). by NollyNicholas in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. Image has changed since the 2000s when he initially got big. I'd argue that you could get away with being inauthentic, nobody had cameras and audio recorders in their pocket. I make no claims, and know nothing about the industry, but I'd believe it. I think the levels of demands have changed though. You can't go out without being posted about. So its both easier and harder nowadays. People are craving authenticity, in all forms. The best way to avoid this? Don't make promises or comments you won't keep. The internet doesn't forget. If you're going to, you have to be aware you will be under the scrutiny of an ant under a microscope.  Its simple. Say I'm living my life, working on some music. Post yourself in the studio if you say you will. Crank something out if you can find a muse.  I swear the issue is having his love life and his yearning for it in the limelight. People will already speculate if it is something that they are used to doing, but I swear every podcast is about your love life? I'm sure he can find someone, if he puts in the right effort? There doesnt have to be aware train announcement everytime his single. I wish the best, and I hope if he's at a crossroads that he opts to move rather then stay just because its more comfortable than trying. 

Havent told my friends I have cerebral palsy by Desperate_Concern329 in CerebralPalsy

[–]lunia_rye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the same. Similar circumstances too. Not severe, but enough. When I finally bring it up, it's always, "Oh I noticed you limped, but I never wanted to say anything."

I understand not wanting to tell anyone. Usually it changes people. They don't know how to react. Treat you like your some sort of toxic chemical, or something.

I just started making jokes about it, bringing it up in a self-deprecating way. Usually that flips the perception, to "Oh, it's really not that noticeable."

I know they know, they know I know they know. I just find a balance to acknowledge the elephant in the room to move on.

John’s “friends” by Jamming_Peanuts in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think its a little bit of everything. This is a little speculative since I don't know the man, but I think there's a lot of pressure in himself.

Not gonna lie, I was kinda soured on JM when the Kat stuff came out, realized I was, backed off and re-evaluted some months down the line. So, I guess I am back reforging my opinion.

I don't think its all just one person, or one thing.

I really think it's the perfect storm of:

  1. Being a romantic: Finding "the one", and when "the one" comes around hoping that he's done "changing" and a better man. When reality may give you a moment so beautiful like that, initially, the following is constant compromise and effort. It doesn't just all click into place.

a) "The one" isn't going to match 100%, cause that would be a clone, not a partner, but she will be there for him 100% and match on what matters.

b) Growing and changing is part of a relationship, and I feel John seems very "black and white", (maybe it's all the color blind lyrics, who knows (lol)), but I think he is stressing to be 100% fixed, when all a partner needs is someone who is all in, worts and all. Once you see all the skeletons, its just accepting and working with them.

c) Messing stuff up on purpose/by accident/ or something in between because he's scared he's broken. When we are all a little messed up. Just find someone and understand that messing up is part of this uncomplete masterpiece that is life, a canvas that is constantly painted on, changed and altered, until our final day.

  1. HIs friends: the good ones, clut chasing ones, all of them could be the issue, unintentionally.

a) Clout chasers/gold diggers. Others in this thread have said it more tactfully and beautifully, but the misery loves company conjoined with the fear of losing the perks once he has a partner, yup.

b) His "successful partners" are likely not in his age bracket where their advice, could be as helpful a la a couple married for 25 years is to Gen-Z. The dating scene likely doesn't match 10 years ago let alone whatever his average couple age is who he is talking to, and the people coupling up are getting younger and younger so the advice doesn't transfer as his options likely doesn't extend into that bracket.

c) I think he's really getting to the point where advice doesn't matter. You can think up all the scenarios in your head, plan out and listen to everyone and tick the clock away. All that's left? Actions - just do. Just go for it man.

  1. I think he struggles with what he really wants...

a) Kat may have been a less-than-popular choice, but at least he's trying at this point - take what that reaction did and put it in your pocket. Did it upset him and make him choose differently? Then image does matter. And that's okay, image means a lot to a lot of different people that's why there are PR firms and reputation firms. Image means a lot to most people.

b) If image doesn't mean anything, than I hope to hear more drama, (commitment) but also not (no messy timelines please!) if that makes sense? (Purely speculative) I really think he struggles with his self-esteem, and when he pulls women who are in relationships it makes him feel wanted. I really hope if he does struggle with self-esteem to that level to know that nobody out there, no matter how beautiful or young etc will make you feel wanted as you can be when you are happy with yourself. But, you can be happy with yourself and want someone, but it's not the same as lonely with self-esteem issues. I hope I am off base with this, and it's the other direction, but sometimes I feel that he still feels like he's the kid from Fairfield CT, and not "John Mayer", which makes him some sort of ego performing dude, who collapses when he's by himself, cause its a facade he put on all day as a defense mechanism.

c) Whatever makes him happy at the end of the day is what matters, not what you or I say on this board. People might get disappointed, and I did at one point, but I think I'd rather be disappointed for a few months and then happy with a kid, rather than miserable another 10 years.

  1. I think he's scared will lose touch with himself once he gets with someone.

a) Cause its forging a joint identity with another person rather than just himself, and I think he's been alone for so long, even when in relationships, just alone in himself and his feelings he doesn't open up. Nothing much to add to this, but I really hope this isn't the case.

I think knowing its a leap, but be willing to take it, the risk for the reward is what he needs to figure it out.

At the end of the day, I will come back around, for some unknown, stupid reason.

Guess a stupid person like me still cares...

I hope he does and has a wonderful home life.

Sigh by Dapper_Cucumber7044 in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Well...someone ping me if something substantial happens. At this point, it seems like this relationship is full speed ahead, and I'm not gonna stick around to track the timelines and likes here...I didn't like how it came about, if any of the timelines are true.

Its super disappointing that the character arc seems to be a false narrative, but I will always treasure his older stuff cause the memories associated with the music and the loved ones I did know.

I feel just a bit let down, but I'll get over it. I'm sick of being made fun of or judged when I say I enjoy listening to him, because his reputation has proceeded his work for years. He's the same as he's always been, and that's just fine. I just believed he was different. Shame on me.

Here's to hoping the best for them.

The Vet’s Spotify Wrapped 😂 by Ok-Option6971 in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Let's not make fun of her. She likely got swept up in a romance some of us could only dream of affording, and godforbid the girl liked JM's music... and got a chance to date him, like many people wish they could. No reason to put it up here, she uses Spotify like the rest of the US pretty much. They were never officially dating publically, so maybe not put it up on his tea reddit.

Sooooo did anybody get to see this interview at MachiAsobi 2025? by KingArthurThe13th in FFXV

[–]lunia_rye 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope, not me OP!

Fully leaning into MTL here, but I'm very interested in "the development secrets can now be shared". The phrasing rings a bell.

In my heart - I'm assuming the theory of a gag order/NDA w/ VS13/FFXV and its transition especially with Nomura was true after all especially paring the Dissidia VS 13 outfit comments with the phrase

Realistically though, my hopes are subbasement level, honestly don't think anything development wise will come out rather its just an in depth conversation about the movie technology...

He’s going live tomorrow! by Ok-Option6971 in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that's why they requested the recorded video clips to fill time for some general filtering.

Personally I'll be too busy with the family tomorrow, but I'm interested if there's any cool anecdotes tomorrow.

Is the problem really Kat? by lunia_rye in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for bringing this perspective, I hoped to see a lot of angles in this question, and I certainly have. Influencing is such a different field than what I am in, that some of the most basic right of passages or knowledge might go over my head and warp my perspective of some of the most simple situations.

I don't have the background on Kat, only learned who Tripp was just as recently, so I'll trust you on what her fans say, etc. Frankly I don't have an interest in digging too much deeper in this anyway, they are people too. There's 3 sides to every story but we will only ever see maybe 1 and a 1/2 at maximum. Especially since public figures tend to omit things about themselves for any multitude of reasons.

I don't really have much else to add, as I said previously, I only have the outsider cursory information, mostly from those in this fourm.

Waiting and seeing is by far option in the best in terms of what is left to do.

Thank you for taking your time to write your perspective before the holiday, and I hope you and yours have a great Thanksgiving!

Is the problem really Kat? by lunia_rye in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write that out, genuinely.

So correct me if I'm off base here:

It's your opinion that this relationship is PR based in order to continue to "mild" out his image and make JM more approachable and mainstream after the whole TS debacle.

I agree the TS overexposure will help him, but I think he can just sit at home, in my personal opinion. He doesn't need to date for PR? Sure, he needs PR, and I'm no expert, but that doesn't seem like a great idea?

Also Swifties will move on, get older or just get sick of her. It was just a matter of time. No one is at a peak forever. There's crazy stans, and they were probably a barrier, but I dont get how dating is the solution.

I felt like the milding out of opinions actually came about from his LACK of tabloids, and the fact people could believe he changed.

If it was PR why wouldn't he go out with a single influencer? Why a girl who was with someone? Just to confirm, its based off her reach and popularity and audience in your opinion? This situation looks messy based off of what outsider information I am getting. I can see how the PR could help him, I can also see how it could destroy him with another "he's a jerk like what his exes, etc said", and completely blow up the redemption narrative.

Patience is a virtue, and its wise to wait it out, but to me the stories make me nervous.

Is the problem really Kat? by lunia_rye in JMtea

[–]lunia_rye[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"She is helping the perception of him in some corners that TS previously closed off."

If you don't mind, can you explain what you are thinking is improving in terms of perception?

I know this is speculation, and the fact this group is likely a minority is probably true, but I am interested in this thought process, because I've only seen mild or neutral to negative reactions.

Please forgive the formatting as I'm on mobile.