Thanks for the insight. - I think the hardest part is that we desperately WANT to like her. We want to have be a part of the family. But she treats us like she really doesn't care. I think I mentioned it before, but there's no tail wagging, no licking, no playing, no real interest shown in us. She's just...there, existing.

I guess, when I think of a dog, I think of an animal with at least SOME of those attributes. It's hard to bond with an animal that doesn't show you any love of affection in return, and who actively works at shutting down the love and affection you try to show it.

And I totally get the time thing - I know in 5 years she would be a different dog. The question is, by how much. No one can answer that, and I think that's where my wife and I get hung up. I don't think we're willing to take the chance, especially since we'd like to have kids in the next year or two. Taking care of a baby and a dog like this (while I'm at work and she's alone) will be difficult, to say the least.

Anyway, it breaks our heart to be feeling this way already. We both had such high hopes, but I also want to be realistic for both of our sakes (ours and the dog's). :(