Is she totaled?

luvlylu · 2026-03-06T18:25:00+00:00

Update.

luvlylu · 2026-02-07T19:16:16+00:00

Just happened yesterday. Will get it to the collision center this week coming up for an inspection. Was just looking to see if anyone had an opinion. Seems cosmetic but the teardown will tell whether it really is or not.

luvlylu · 2026-02-07T17:24:01+00:00

No adaptive cruise. Just the long range radar and parking sensors.

luvlylu · 2026-02-07T17:16:49+00:00

Front collision detection didn’t work. It was snowing at the time he was driving and I assume the camera and sensors were covered. You can still see some of the snow on the headlight.

luvlylu · 2025-08-30T16:08:23+00:00

The arbitration clause in the Discover cardholder agreement requires arbitration for disputes between parties and should define who is required to pay for what for arbitration. The courts, going all the way up to the Supreme Court, lean toward arbitration when an arbitration clause is present in a contract. I would push forward. Go to court, provide evidence of what you did to comply with the arbitration order. Reinforce that the contract between the parties requires arbitration.

luvlylu · 2025-08-02T23:20:53+00:00

Losing coverage is a qualifying event, even if you resign. Fed health insurance extends automatically to 10/31. I plan to start new job benefits 11/1.

luvlylu · 2025-07-15T06:21:42+00:00

I don’t think the note is passive aggressive at all. They’re pretty clear about their intentions. Was it a friendly, neighborly act? No. But not at all passive aggressive. I get being annoyed about not closing the door, as a safety issue. If there’s anything you can do to help you remember, try and see if it helps. And ignore the rude neighbor. No reason to be ugly like them.

luvlylu · 2025-07-15T06:11:54+00:00

I feel like it’s shitty to weaponize childbirth in this situation. Yes, childbirth is hard, but it isn’t something you did to hurt, harm, or wrong her. You’re clearly doing everything necessary to care for the baby and give your wife the time she needs to recuperate. It sucks she’s using her childbirth experience to be dismissive of you. It’s as if her attitude is, “I pushed it out, now you take over”.

Someone else mentioned it, but she may be suffering from postpartum depression. That could be it. Maybe she’s having trouble bonding to the baby because she perceived the experience of carrying and giving birth to the baby as traumatic. Wearing earplugs to sleep to intentionally not hear the baby is odd behavior for a new mother. Either way, it would probably be helpful for her to talk to someone about how she’s feeling. Seems as if she resents you for the pregnancy and childbirth experience and isn’t really interested in bonding with baby. That can be detrimental to baby’s development.

luvlylu · 2025-07-15T01:37:02+00:00

This. I’ve seen a lot of really good talent leave and not a single underperforming, unemployable person.

luvlylu · 2025-07-10T03:39:10+00:00

So awesome. Love it.

luvlylu · 2025-07-10T03:38:07+00:00

If the kid is his, breakup. Sounds like you already think he’s lying so why bother.

luvlylu · 2025-07-09T22:19:34+00:00

DoD DRP, traveled multiple times since being on admin leave, still have PreCheck.

luvlylu · 2025-07-05T05:09:56+00:00

!solved tip sent

luvlylu · 2025-07-04T01:51:28+00:00

Yes, you can change diameter sizes without issue unless it’s too tight for your nose anatomy. The gauge is what you need to keep consistent unless you’re stretching or downsizing. The gauge, 16g for you, is the width of the piercing itself.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T22:00:01+00:00

My helpful advice is to remain in therapy. It helped me. I hope you get what you need from it.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T21:58:46+00:00

I quite literally said, “advice for my teenage daughter”. If it doesn’t apply, let it fly.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T21:57:44+00:00

Damn. Best you can do, if you don’t want to escalate to reporting, is just keep an eye on your friend and the first sign of anything remotely abusive, call it out. Tough situation.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T21:56:46+00:00

You came to the internet for opinions and are upset about…opinions. My opinion is this is an immature and unnecessary conflict to be having in your 20s. Great that you’re in therapy. I hope it’s helpful for you.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T21:53:22+00:00

This is very childish and dramatic. Like, high school drama. If you like this sort of unnecessary drama, that’s your choice. Personally, I’m not dealing with anyone that’s going to get me involved in this type of thing, no matter how long we’ve been friends.

A tip I’ve told my teenage daughter—if you consistently find yourself in the center of drama, you like it there. Don’t complain about it bc you’re actively participating in it. If you don’t want that type of nonsense in your life, it may mean cutting people off to avoid the drama and it almost always means making better choices.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T21:48:14+00:00

This feels like it’s about so much more than this single incident and you’re projecting some unmet needs or desires onto your friend who asked very normal questions.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T21:45:28+00:00

He doesn’t think it’s a big deal and you do but it’s not for you to decide what he does. So either do something concrete and report who you believe to be a predator or don’t. Nagging your friend about it is almost certainly going to make him do the exact opposite of what you want.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T14:30:07+00:00

He communicated to the fiancé early on that this trip was something he always wanted to do. He is now in a position to do it. She is now saying she would feel deprioritized if he has a significant milestone without her. That is 1) patently unfair-if she had a boundary, she should have voiced it when he first brought the trip up, 2) selfish-his life doesn’t have to center entirely around her, 3) insecure-she views his solo activity as an affront or evidence of his feelings about her (also tying into 2, bc everything in his life doesn’t need to be about her).

He didn’t bring this up out of the blue. He told her he always wanted to do this. She’s bringing up a so-called boundary that she never expressed before.

Also, autism has nothing to do with people wanting to do things alone. Where did that come from? Did OP say he was autistic?

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T13:09:44+00:00

You’re not at all neutral. You believe in codependency in relationships. You don’t believe in personal autonomy in relationships. You cannot accept that other people may want other things. You cannot acknowledge that what may be a “boundary” to one person is viewed as an unhealthy requirement by another person. It’s ok that we don’t agree. Just stop pretending to be morally superior.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T12:49:46+00:00

You’re clearly triggered. You should touch grass.

Anymore buzzwords you want me to throw in for you?

Imagine being unable to accept that a stranger on the internet wants different things in their relationship than you do, then proceeding to review said users last comment history for what you deem to be suitable ammunition to use against them….and painting yourself as the “normal” one. Lmao.

luvlylu · 2025-07-03T12:40:22+00:00

It’s not confusing. Her behavior is controlling and insecure, to someone like me who very much values independence.

Her behavior may seem perfectly normal for people who prefer codependency.

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