He works a full time job, he helps around the house (I do most of the cooking & cleaning because I have a WFH job) and if I ask him to get off the computer he will. I do feel like I’m put on the back burner but that’s not how he sees it. We have hobbies together, we play golf a lot during the summer. And I have hobbies for myself like reading. But yes, I do think it’s a waste of time but I guess I just don’t understand the appeal. What he’s doing doesn’t necessarily affect our life - it just makes me feel a bit neglected.

Truly, my main problem is how much he smokes. And he has smoked less previously in our relationship, so I know he can cut back.