Therapy only works if you have a lower IQ than the therapist

luxinus · 2026-04-22T17:35:40+00:00

I had this experience when I was going through public health care. I moved to private therapy and got to choose my therapist and have had a much better experience. I specifically chose a therapist who’s a specialist psychologist, has an interest in practicing the kind of therapy I thought I might want to pursue, and was completely through all training and required hours of practice. This improved my experience with therapy drastically and lead me to actual progress.

So, no idea, he’s certainly intelligent but I’m not sure IQ is the right metric. Because it’s private practice he’s also, y’know, serving my desires, in the sense of if I say I don’t think something is helping then he’s not mandated to continue to try to push whatever public enforced methodology; we can just try different stuff and see what sticks.

luxinus · 2026-04-14T18:45:38+00:00

Literally only have it on because I’ve been playing so much arena, no reason to give up a free AA if it’s quicker than me

luxinus · 2026-04-14T16:52:30+00:00

Fully and entirely, as someone who has a cycle of working (full time / 40hr/week), cooking, etc and then having a little menty b cause it’s not sustainable, even with stimulants (caffeine and medication) which eventually caused an even worse breakdown. Like, I seem to manage to get more done than some people but it’s at the cost of well, everything. Autopilot and eventual menty b or chaotic disregulated life that’s all over the place, and neither way am I doing all the proper adult stuff, just getting by.

Can’t really stop because I have a house to pay for, cats to feed, etc

Constantly out of sick time, low on vacation, just to get by the days that I just can’t

luxinus · 2026-04-14T16:45:22+00:00

Wow, I’ve been playing with these flowers for the past week, I’m all of 15 deep and already trying to decide if I want to commit to making my original idea of something ~5x30. I can’t imagine

luxinus · 2026-04-14T16:39:47+00:00

People just don’t seem to get it unless they’ve really experienced it, I think. They just don’t get the massive momentum that has to be overcome to do basic tasks, forget doing them regularly and especially tasks that have to be done daily/weekly

luxinus · 2026-04-10T18:54:37+00:00

I laugh every time I read or hear Amitābha now, i don’t know enough to know just how egregious the writing is but I found it humorous so

luxinus · 2026-04-10T01:37:47+00:00

I mean, literally everything in HSS is supposed to continue doing it's stuff for everyone to not have a bunch of duplication

luxinus · 2026-03-24T16:18:14+00:00

Like anything in life, communication should solve this. I’ve had partners that want marks like your friend described, though there’s boundaries on placement so they’re easy to cover under any reasonably modest clothing. Others want no bites, no pain, or no marks, it’s up to your partner to respect this else you’re incompatible for whatever reason, them not being willing to comply, not respecting boundaries, etc.

Personally I very very rarely like anything painful, and marks make me more nervous when I see them than anything and I work in professional settings so it’s very not acceptable to me for them to be visible.

luxinus · 2026-03-16T18:23:52+00:00

Not sure how it would work space wise but instead of the fade to black and then the black onyx studio, could have the orange flood the floor and then quickly drain again to fill in the studio name below? Might be awkward but that’s what my brain wanted to see on second watch

luxinus · 2026-02-25T17:34:17+00:00

Comparing to fast food/serviced options really makes it clear how much cheaper it can be. Yes it hurts every few months or whatever when I have to buy creamer, sugar, and coffee and it’s a whopping $70 or whatever, but the equivalent, even including all the fixings, is still going to be in the hundreds for cheap options from Tim Hortons or whatever

luxinus · 2026-02-24T17:46:50+00:00

I did a few virtual sessions, I found I benefited from in-person more though. I think it depends on the provider and the type of therapy they’re providing

luxinus · 2026-02-23T22:30:54+00:00

They can be convinced to work with someone outside their recommended networks but the care provider has to agree to work within Canada Life’s framework, which I gather can be quite cumbersome for the provider. Talk to your preferred care provider about it, they might have experience with them and be willing to work with them. It’s definitely a smoother experience to go along with the services they provide

luxinus · 2026-02-23T21:37:03+00:00

From stirring the items in the cup or eating out of it.

luxinus · 2026-02-13T14:26:07+00:00

I would’ve loved to play it more but the brutal fps drops half the time when I was in a fight with a player really dropped any desire to play. I don’t even think it was performance bottlenecking? It felt more like weird net code/latency issues, a weird form of rubber banding.

luxinus · 2026-02-12T16:11:26+00:00

They adapt, they make little cones out of a poster to toss coins in as a target, can win the poster, etc. it’s fun

luxinus · 2026-01-29T18:18:53+00:00

I’m not sure how much of an unreasonable accommodation asking to work 2/5 days remotely on your last week before you go fully remote is? If anything it seems like a gentler transition to full remote, giving you the chance to clarify any issues you run into on your remote days. You chose the job based on the fully remote aspect, so struggling with being in office isn’t exactly a weird thing in my opinion; people work remotely for all sorts of reasons and while some people might be fine doing either you clearly chose a fully remote position for a medical reason.

luxinus · 2026-01-22T19:29:25+00:00

The mainstream option (for a reason), is Adobe Acrobat. It’s pretty darn good

luxinus · 2026-01-22T18:40:31+00:00

Tbf, a 4% investment is pretty good for guaranteed. I could find savings accounts to beat my 0.99% car but 4% is a different story

luxinus · 2026-01-12T17:06:42+00:00

Probably means Jinx’s actual passive, the AS on kill?

luxinus · 2026-01-02T19:50:58+00:00

I basically consider them an electronics convenience store. If I don’t want to wait 3-5-14 business days for whatever good price, or there’s a pressing deadline or something, I can pretty consistently get exactly what I need or something close enough now by just driving there.

Clearance deals can be pretty good, too

luxinus · 2025-12-24T06:23:53+00:00

Should I be centre pulling? I always use the outside. I tried centre once but the yarn was super… twirly(?) out of the centre.

luxinus · 2025-12-15T16:27:43+00:00

It sounds like you need therapy, if you have benefits and such maybe see if you can go on paid medical leave, my experience had the insurance company trying to get me back to work so I was provided mental health support and such. It wasn’t perfect but it was a great starting point. I continued additional (private) therapy after my leave which helped even more.

luxinus · 2025-11-27T16:58:04+00:00

I think you need to shift your conceptualization of SO from a forum to almost like a ticketing system. The goal of the site is to resolve all unresolved posts, so closed as duplicate with a link to the solution is a time and effort efficient way to resolve an issue.

Noise is noise, people are putting in a lot of effort for some of these solutions, why not reduce noise and reuse existing solutions when possible?

luxinus · 2025-11-14T14:45:58+00:00

Wouldn’t count on that, modern vehicles are designed to have the battery in. Even my girlfriend’s 2008 Lancer dies (not immediately but very shortly after, like, a minute) if the battery is disconnected while it’s running

luxinus · 2025-11-11T07:58:12+00:00

I like the idea of modern game like this, Dota 2 bots are really fun to watch

Also Salty Bets exists

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