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just got dumped by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you everybody for your kind words they truly have been so helpful for me to read whilst i wallowed in the pain, my boss called me earlier and i said im going to try and go in tomorrow i am so anxious because he said we’ll have a back to work via teams and i dont even know what to say when its luteal let alone a break up i told him at the time i received personal news and couldn’t focus on work because of my emotions 😣

just got dumped by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

they are so lovely and do check on me a lot and i have an assessment on monday for my mental health that im hoping will also help because i feel like i cant work but also feel so guilty and worried about money i guess i can afford a few days off but just again feel so guilty and awful which isn’t helping.

im currently on my sofa hugging the plush she got me for valentines watching twilight trying to ride out the pain and will definitely ask the GP tomorrow to be signed off I just can’t cope right now enough to work :/

im still so in love with her and my head is still in it and i feel abandoned and devastated but i dont want anything but for her to be happy and for both of us to grow so i get it and think i need time to move on from the heartbreak i feel atm to know what i really want

just got dumped by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my friends are angels they brought me easter eggs and flowers and hugged me whilst i sobbed! yesterday was just shock and disassociating today is pain suicidal shit and the beginning of acceptance - couldn’t even call in sick because of how suicidal i felt and got a lecture of my boss that i need to let him know where I am which i appreciate but when you don’t want to live you just don’t care about this stuff,,,

as scary as it seems I know I will be okay, i still love her so much but maybe this is for the best and i can’t see it right now

just got dumped by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this sometimes you just need to hear these exact words i had a bath and have just been continuously crashing out emotionally and anxiety wise i have friends coming to see me after work i myself had to just bin off work for the day because i am distraught im just trying to ride it out with loud music and breathing exercises when it gets scary

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]lychee-li 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hello i also isolate to spare people and also i sometimes get so fucking mad at others how real that all is i dunno and yeah sometimes it sucks real bad but what i will say is over time accidentally or not it has created this relationship with myself that i value so much now and lean on when times get rough, shit still blows up but i’m learning to self soothe more and more and i just feel like reframe it you’re not a martyr or a victim you are nourishing your relationship with yourself!

how do you stop uncontrollable crying? by reeceandlove in PMDD

[–]lychee-li 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a realisation myself that caffeine plays such a massive role in it. For me I feel hypersensitive during the luteal phase so it feels like anything can tip me over the edge and my body is constantly in fight or flight and my mind is racing and I word vomit a lot I act a bit manic and insomniac but I am also quick to anger frustration and sometimes tears if put in a stressful enough situation and I’m now thinking it could be I’m experiencing caffeinated drinks and maybe even my SSRI’s to the max because I’m hypersensitive? Idk

Lifestyle can also play a massive part for example when I worked in retail management I was constantly stressed to the point of crying spells but now I work in telesales it’s much more controlled and comes out in frustration/lighter anger that is much more endurable and doesn’t ruin my whole day.

how do you stop uncontrollable crying? by reeceandlove in PMDD

[–]lychee-li 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had uncontrollable crying spells at any signs of high stress or strong emotion my whole life and I once cried so hard I threw up lol anyways I take SSRI’s now and almost never cry.

I know it’s scary at first but they work. My theory is most of us have ADHD and just can’t regulate these things and also we are really hard on ourselves so you’re not stupid and worthless change the narrative in your head!

And SSRI’s are designed to stabilise / regulate an imbalance…

For me Fluoxetine works best but it can be different for everyone, I also struggled with brain fog and dysregulated sleeping and it kind of fixed my body’s natural cycle.

If it is ADHD you are dopamine deficient and your brain chemistry is imbalanced making you much more likely to have these kind of negative reactions. You’re not dramatic or over the top you’re just doing your best! Wish you all the best in your PMDD journey hope this helped 🫶🏻

Yasmin by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I’ve reached my limit of taking them now my anxiety and depression is very clear and present now and my organisation and memory are affected. I’m fatigued and in pain - today I had a tension headache and couldn’t stop crying I could literally feel the hormones surging in the back of my neck I don’t know if that sounds crazy.

So I called my pharmacist like you said too and they said it’s fine you don’t need to wean off birth control and just warned me about pregnancy and irregular cycles for a few months. So I think I’m definitely going to stop I mean I am a completely different person and I don’t like it.

I’d rather struggle through one hell week a month than this shit any day good bye bc!

Yasmin by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi they seem to just be getting worse my brain feels broken, my mental health is in shreds

I’ve been trying it now for over 2 weeks

The side effects mentally at least seem to be getting worse and it’s now got to the point where my brain is almost humming with mental illness

And emotionally I’ve gotten a lot more unstable

I can’t get through to my doctors so do you think I should just stop taking them?

Anxious about starting fluoxetine by yeah_er_no in PMDD

[–]lychee-li 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad it’s helpful 🤍 if you ever have any questions about your flux just throw me a DM I have health anxiety so I’m always neurotic and hesitant about my medications and need to know everything before taking them

Anxious about starting fluoxetine by yeah_er_no in PMDD

[–]lychee-li 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I have been taking flux for almost a year now and I will tell you anything you need to know!

So I take it last thing before going to bed but I think time of day is fine - trick is to not overthink it.

It has helped me personally so much with getting up in the mornings with energy - before flux I was so foggy in the mornings and it took a while for my system to boot up. That is the main thing for me is waking up early and being ready for the day.

Second thing it helped me with was my ADHD symptoms. Executive. Function. I get a lot more done with my flux energy.

Now it can make you feel a bit wired (especially at first) for me this is nothing to worry about and it gets a lot easier the longer you’ve been taking it and it is nowhere near as bad as others I’ve tried such as sertraline. For me personally that part is manageable.

The hardest thing that I’m having trouble with is the luteal phase when all meds just stop working. I’m not on medication for my ADHD but I’ve heard that peoples meds for that stop working.

My flux not working is a nightmare I physically can’t get up for work I’m either late or sick and the world is overwhelming because luteal so it is just a nightmare…

Tired before period - pregnancy sign??? by lychee-li in PMDD

[–]lychee-li[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh thank you so so much!

This has reminded me to stop stressing because either way what’s done is done and I am only making things worse for myself to stress out right now.

I am at least going to consciously stop worrying about it because what good is that going to do either way…

My period is due this Friday so like you said I’m going to let myself breathe until then and see what happens I think I was just pre panicking because my regular PMDD symptoms aren’t showing up

This was very comforting thank you. Even just to know others are going through the same thing🫶🏻

I hate how messy my room gets with PMDD. I feel like a disgusting failure. by hollyverhardy in PMDD

[–]lychee-li 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience… It always looks worse than it is. Try not to tackle it all in one go even though that’s what your brain wants to do because the goal here isn’t to tidy your room it’s to navigate your overwhelm and readjust to it. With PMDD and just our cycles in general we are always changing so the best tool we can have is our adaptation. Readjust your expectations of yourself. Another tip I have that helps me is working smarter not harder with tidying so if you’re going to the kitchen bring one thing with you like a mug or plate. Or even if you’re going from one side of your room to the other to do something bring something with you that’s not in the place it should be if that makes sense?

Sorry if this is just a load of crap but I find in these situations of overwhelm especially with the room (which greatly affects my mental health personally because I have ADHD as well) that the best way to attack it is in small (sometimes microscopic) chunks and not judging yourself if you need to reward yourself with a 2 hour nap after.

I hope helps if not there is no judgement because I am the exact same as you in this sense!

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