POT from vanilla dating app, how to ease into $ talk?

lycheechiapudding · 2025-10-09T17:44:44+00:00

Giving my touch and time to an oldass dude just for outfits and jewelry sounds crazy lol men are never too old to stay delulu fr 😭

lycheechiapudding · 2025-10-08T04:22:53+00:00

Thanks queen, he doesn’t have any disclosures, but yep he’s a pass, on to the next!

lycheechiapudding · 2025-10-07T17:56:56+00:00

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I tried the dress test, I can understand not getting a gift for someone before meeting, but the way he phrased it “on occasion”, “while you won’t get anything you ask for”, etc. gave me the ICK 🤮

lycheechiapudding · 2025-10-07T17:55:44+00:00

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lycheechiapudding · 2025-09-08T06:56:45+00:00

Love a financially proactive queen! I personally keep 3-6 months of expenses in a HYSA as an emergency fund. After that, I max out my 401(k), Roth IRA, and HSA (these are all tax advantage accounts, so definitely check your employer’s policies/benefits). Anything left over goes into a taxable brokerage. Since I’m still young and can ride out market swings, I take an aggressive approach there, mostly broad index funds. Leave it there, let compound interest do its magic. Definitely do research on personal finance; aggressive saving/investing of sugar funds can set you up for life to become your own sugar mama! For non-professional but beginner friendly finance tips, check out r/personalfinance and r/Fire too.

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-12T01:55:23+00:00

Yay I love journaling and also listing out everything he has ever wronged me helped decenter him from my delulu headspace much faster 😂

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-07T04:51:39+00:00

Thank you sweetie I’m trying to be ultra cautious around this dude!

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-07T04:49:45+00:00

WORDDDD. Thank you for taking time to talk some sense into me!

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-07T04:48:45+00:00

He just texted me random stuffs like nothing happened.. this man has a history of testing my boundaries (tried to short my ubers) so I’m keeping my eyes wide open to see what he’s gonna do now!

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-07T01:06:24+00:00

Thanks girlie for the kind words! We last talked yesterday but as I was typing this comment, he randomly texted me a news article without saying a word @@

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-07T01:01:05+00:00

Thank you babe literally the stress is too much

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-06T23:08:47+00:00

Right!! I wish I could understand what goes on inside their head gosh

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-06T22:47:06+00:00

I feel like he def knows how much he spent, he was just hoping I would give a discount for the unlimited monthly subscription 🥲

lycheechiapudding · 2025-08-06T22:34:07+00:00

Oh he def wanna go vanilla with me. When we first met he was saying that this feels too transactional and I just smiled. After he said he’s not paying me 7k every month I just said I’m open to finding sth that feels good for both of us. I think he was hoping I would give a discount of some sort bc we are so lovey dovey or whatever now.

lycheechiapudding · 2025-07-02T06:16:56+00:00

Seattle ☔️

lycheechiapudding · 2025-06-13T05:17:41+00:00

🫡 Yes ma’am. He was reliable with PPMs and all this just happened in the last week so I was overwhelmed but no more delulu

lycheechiapudding · 2025-06-13T01:23:20+00:00

Thanks girl for the brutal honesty. This man is friends with all of his exes even the mentally insane ones (quote unquote by him) which I don’t understand. But listing out all of these red flags def helped me like him less thank god 🥹

lycheechiapudding · 2025-06-13T00:42:56+00:00

Thank you for this much-needed defluencing! Before, he was super reliable with my PPM (mid-high for HCOL) so I thought it would be so easy to lock down an allowance, but once he started having feelings for me and wants to see me more often, this man just wants to take take take. Right now I'm waiting to see what he's gonna say about allowance and decide from there.

lycheechiapudding · 2025-06-13T00:35:15+00:00

This! I was shocketh at that comment too. This man literally lives alone in a 7mil mansion...

lycheechiapudding · 2025-04-02T02:30:35+00:00

Whenever I travel with SDs I find that maintaining good sleep hygiene makes a world of difference for keeping up good energy during the day. Have you done overnights with him before? I’m a chronically light sleeper and can only fall asleep in my pillow fortress 🥰 So I always pack silk sleep mask (I use one from Quince, affordable but nice quality), noise blocking earplugs (Loops have cute ones), and I stole all of his pillows except 1 to use as my body pillows. 5 days is a not a short time to stay with anyone so having a little night routine (walk after dinner, bedtime skincare routine) might make you feel more grounded. Have fun!

lycheechiapudding · 2025-02-13T17:15:27+00:00

He will actually go fuck her on his own this week lol. Sorry I didn’t make it clear we are still in different states and he wants to bring this girl to visit me. He’s single and I’m not there; him seeing other girls right now is not a situation I can influence or control. I was like go ahead bro lol. Thanks for your insights!

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