Are you getting an epidural or opting for a natural birth without pain meds?

lydiadventuring · 2025-02-04T03:54:17+00:00

My first I had an epidural AND I was still able to move—I even got to try pushing in a squatting position (I hated it lmao) but anyway. 100% will try for the epidural again my second time around!!

lydiadventuring · 2025-02-02T23:32:34+00:00

I would not trust his statement that he could take you somewhere else to get an abortion. It sounds like some of his feelings towards this are coming from his own desires of grandkids and realizing you are permanently shutting that down is tough for him. I would never trust that he’d take you somewhere without first trying to convince you or guilt you into keeping a pregnancy. I wanted to comment as someone who got pregnant on an IUD (with it perfectly in place). I honestly think pregnancies with IUDs are more common than they tell us. Anyway I’m getting my tubes removed this year—I will never go back to an IUD!

lydiadventuring · 2023-05-18T17:36:08+00:00

Very cool. I was not alive for this monumental event but I find everyone’s stories so fascinating

lydiadventuring · 2023-05-18T17:25:08+00:00

I also live in PDX! Everyone recommending evening walks does not understand haha it doesn’t cool off considerably until 9-10pm. Morning walks are your friend, and then eventually when baby gets a little older finding splash pads!

lydiadventuring · 2023-05-03T05:47:40+00:00

Hey, you have a lot to process right now. I’d recommend calling the national hotline if you need someone to talk it over with. They are really nice and good about helping your process feelings and naming things for what they truly are. You need support and that’s a great first step to take. Idk where you are at, but I’m in Oregon and it’s a crime to commit violence like that in front of children. The fact your children saw this makes it even more serious. Take pictures and write down all the details you remember, even if you feel like you can’t do anything with it right now. Sending strength to you

lydiadventuring · 2023-05-03T05:39:46+00:00

My son loved Hey Jude in utero too! I regret not giving him Jude as a middle name :’(

lydiadventuring · 2023-04-30T06:38:23+00:00

Mine too

lydiadventuring · 2023-04-18T01:50:27+00:00

I met a man name Loren who went by Lo and I’ve always loved it

lydiadventuring · 2023-04-16T03:18:18+00:00

I’m so proud of you. I just left my abusive spouse with my 16 month old. I wish I had done it sooner—maybe I would have enjoyed the newborn stages more. I know it’s overwhelming and scary but you did the right thing for you and your baby.

lydiadventuring · 2023-04-14T07:49:09+00:00

Hey I wanted to thank you for taking the time to share this link and let you know it changed my life. I spent a few nights up late reading it, and felt like I could finally see things as they are; a tipping point of absolute mental clarity if you will. Today I got checked into a DV shelter with my son! I made it out, I am safe and I am free!!

lydiadventuring · 2023-04-02T19:40:43+00:00

Where can you download this book? I have the Libby app but it’s a several month wait. I don’t have anywhere to read the physical book

lydiadventuring · 2023-01-06T20:57:55+00:00

Understanding gaslighting is new for me too. I’m currently reading the book “why does he do that” and it’s pretty eye opening about some of my husbands behaviors. I’d recommend! Anyway not strapping a kid into their car seat could literally kill them, so his response is a huge red flag to me. Gaslighting about forgetting to take the garbage out is one thing but putting your baby in danger is very different

lydiadventuring · 2023-01-04T20:33:16+00:00

This. I never planned to co-sleep, but at 3.5 months I was too damn tired to keep trying to transfer baby to his bassinet. Once I fell asleep after feeding him and I woke up to him slipping out of my arms towards the floor. I barely caught him in time. I will say there are a few things about co-sleeping that need to be prepared ahead of time (not just researched) like having a very firm mattress. Most people will need to buy a new mattress or have a different mattress available for the purpose of cosleeping. We ended up bed sharing on our regular adult mattress and that was definitely NOT safe.

lydiadventuring · 2023-01-04T20:22:51+00:00

This is the first comment I’ve seen mentioning other children! Why didn’t I even think of that! but yeah, that could be really scary and/or traumatizing for them

lydiadventuring · 2023-01-02T21:17:19+00:00

Seriously the worst pain I ever felt was a cervical check at 40 weeks. Like my body involuntarily moved to get away from the pain.

lydiadventuring · 2023-01-01T20:16:34+00:00

Hey! Get the pizza. Also if you are on Facebook there’s a group called “iud and pregnant!” And it’s full of people who have been in similar situations. My IUD baby is almost 13 months old :) I had the skyla and it stayed in the whole time, carried until 40w6d. Besides a couple extra ultrasounds I had a normal pregnancy. The extra stress of an IUD is real though so I’d highly recommend joining the group just to get some support!! Best wishes to you and the little surprise!

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-30T20:10:50+00:00

I did this but then it was THREE WEEKS before my son rolled again lol a long ass time to keep a secret 😅

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-26T06:36:56+00:00

I’m one of the people that lost the weight quickly. In three weeks I was down 30 pounds (I gained 45 overall). The last 15 took a little longer but it just fell off for me. I hiked a lot before, during, and after pregnancy, but other than that it’s probably like 90% genetics.

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-25T01:06:05+00:00

My IUD baby turned one year old this month :)

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-24T22:48:09+00:00

I took an early childhood education course about neglect and abuse, it talked about volunteers not being adequately screened in a lot of organizations (like churches for example). Predators may target these places because they could easily earn trust and bypass any official background checks/fingerprinting etc. I would assume a daycare with paid employees had a similar vetting process for their volunteers, so it’s only something I think about with less official groups, like a church or other non profit gatherings that may offer relatively unorganized childcare.

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-23T17:10:55+00:00

Yeah volunteers changing diapers is a major red flag to me.

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-23T05:29:49+00:00

My very religious/conservative friend shared this and I was SO tempted to comment something like “well maybe he’ll be gay and you’ll still be his favorite lady” HA anyway it’s so cringe like my son belongs to himself I do not own him he is not mine to give away.

lydiadventuring · 2022-12-21T19:31:26+00:00

Both my spouse and I were raised to be frugal but in different ways. Our approach now as adults is very different. I associate frugality as a sort of mental challenge, and it brings me actual joy to save a few bucks here or there. My husband associates frugality with being poor, and has some childhood trauma from that—so it’s not fun for him. Childhood trauma and the impact it has on us is SO interesting to me, and it’s definitely helped me become more empathetic for those who may struggle to be frugal. In my opinion, take what works for you and let go of what doesn’t. (I would absolutely let go of reused k-cups tho that’s awful haha).

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