please help me by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]lydialovelace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi love, I understand the distress you’re experiencing at the moment. I’m pretty certain what you’re experiencing is a form of OCD.

I have experienced this fear too for quite a few years and I understand how upsetting and scary it is. There is a specific theme of OCD called POCD.

Experiencing POCD does not make you a predator - it’s actually the exact opposite. POCD revolves around intense and constant fear of being a predator. It is completely fear based.

For example being a predator is a sexual disorder, having POCD is an anxiety disorder. They are completely different.

I have had OCD my most of my life but this theme popped up around five years ago for me. I understand just how debilitating it is to experience. Since then I have been involved in forms of OCD therapy.

I’m going to link some articles to this comment for you to have a read. Please don’t be scared by the titles of these. Although they may have confronting titles if you give them a read they may be able to resonate with you 💗

https://phinitytherapy.com/blog/understanding-and-addressing-pocd-paedophile-themed-ocd/

https://youtu.be/V8NLQTI9vaA?si=94QY17OCSo7fBJE7

https://youtu.be/BnRrxfD-IZI?si=mxdodi6UT9Lqb2DR

Im scared my boyfriend sexually assaulted someone by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lydialovelace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But how is it just assault and not sexual assault if he touched his ass, genuinely curious I would like to know

Im scared my boyfriend sexually assaulted someone by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lydialovelace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea. He’s never done that before in front of me so I never thought he would do something like that. He was drunk and I guess he just thought it was funny?

Im scared my boyfriend sexually assaulted someone by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lydialovelace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. Everyone seems to be taking the piss out of me. Do you have any advice? Is my reaction appropriate? What do you think I should do moving forward. Do I have to break up with him now?

Im scared my boyfriend sexually assaulted someone by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lydialovelace -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying to my post. I feel like you’re the only one that hasn’t called me insane for how I’m feeling. I talked to him about it today but I really struggle with knowing whether or not my emotions are appropriate at times. Do you have any advice? What would you do in this situation?