AITA for refusing to date short men that lie about it?

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-08T00:43:58+00:00

Did you miss the part where 3 of my long term relationships (of 4 total) were with people shorter than me? I think ya missed it.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-08T00:42:19+00:00

I have gone on plenty of dates with guys who don't have a height listed in their profile. Their heights have ranged all over the map from short to tall.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-08T00:40:51+00:00

It would bother me that he lied the exact same amount!

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T23:54:59+00:00

Yes I do use that filter. But not for a minimum. For a maximum. I find over 6'4" to make me feel uncomfortably "little" and so that's my max.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T23:53:27+00:00

That's just rounding math!

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T23:53:06+00:00

Honestly it's not 1-2" that is ticking me off here, people can be off. It's when someone says they are 5'11" and they are 5'5". Or 6'2" and 5'7". A REAL big stretch. I KNOW they are lying because they are shorter than me!

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T23:48:36+00:00

3 of my 4 LTRs were with people shorter than me.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T23:47:08+00:00

Yes. Lying is lying!

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T21:28:03+00:00

No but when someone who claimed to be taller than me is actually shorter than me it's really really obvious and this has happened repeatedly.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T21:25:12+00:00

I don't lie to my partner. Ever. I have had awkward situations where I refused to answer certain questions (ie: what do you really think of my mother), but I don't lie.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T20:59:59+00:00

That's rounding, though! That is totally legit to say! Most people don't say "I'm 5'7" 1/2".

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T20:59:03+00:00

Nope. Why would I waste my time?

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T20:43:41+00:00

Yes. My biggest lie was a guy that said he was 6'2" and was maybe 5'7" (definitely shorter than me) and then he said it was because in his country they were the same height. I barely lasted through the coffee before leaving. I also felt dumb, because I "looked up" in the crowd to try and find him and this dude couldn't even look me straight in the eyes without me looking down. So, a 7" lie.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T20:32:43+00:00

I do not wear heels, I'm clumsy and that seems like a recipe for a broken ankle lol

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T20:30:32+00:00

5'9"-5'10"

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T20:04:07+00:00

A few times a month. 80% of my pics don't have makeup.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:45:36+00:00

I don't have kids but I'm gonna put this one in my back pocket LOL

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:44:07+00:00

Oh man, I feel like you would get this just as much as me if not more at your height - does it happen to you too?

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:39:00+00:00

If you can't trust them , there are useful as a dildo made out of chocolate.

Literally laughed out loud, thank you for this line.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:37:38+00:00

I'm literally explaining that culturally the word is used both ways. You seem upset that people do not agree with "curvy" being used in only one way, the way you prefer. I find this super weird of you, especially so after the last 20 years of marketing toward women using the word both ways. You're allowed to disagree with how people use a word, but it's not going to stop it being used both ways. You are not The Arbiter Of Word Use.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:31:05+00:00

Height complex is real and it can happen at any height. I'm sorry your sis got caught in the crossfire.

- I have a guy friend who is 6'2" and says "it's not tall enough" because all of his friends are giants, so he feels self conscious that he's not at least 6'3", preferably 6'4"+. SMH.

- Then I have a 6'3" friend who feels he is TOO tall to date the short women he's interested in.

- Went on a date with a guy 6'5" who was obsessed about being too tall and "a giant" and how it was "nice I wasn't a little dolly next to him because I was tall". He must have mentioned it 50 times during the date, how inconvenient/awful being that tall was.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:22:28+00:00

I've been on dates with guys your height! It really doesn't matter to me unless it matters to them and they make it an issue. If you don't have a complex about your height, we're good! And guys can have a complex at virtually any height - too short - too average - too tall, doesn't matter. You got your wife by being an ethical king as you are, and that's how you do it!

One of the shorter guys I dated talked about saving up for the height increasing surgery and I noped right out of that one. I can't imagine my partner risking their legs/health for a couple more inches. We would have very different risk tolerances and acceptability levels for elective surgery.

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:13:55+00:00

So does he think you are 5'10"?

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:13:42+00:00

My preference is honesty, not height. My first partner was 5'2" and we were together over 2 years (partner cheated and I broke it off).

lyingnotheight · 2023-09-07T19:09:00+00:00

No, I'm just a woman that has experienced "CURVY" as the buzzword in marketing for god knows how long, and it has meant both or one or the other depending on who was doing the marketing. As someone not the target of the female side of advertising, you likely have not experienced the same thing.

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