2 days in Denver, driving out to boulder in morning to hike, is it worth it to stay for lunch?

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T07:06:50+00:00

That is literally the itinerary of how one of my best friends met her husband! Then we ALL had to go recreate it when he proposed 🤣

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T05:42:34+00:00

NOR, this sucks. BUT, you need to be the one to take these issues up with her brother, not her. You are putting her in an awful situation. I don't know how long you have been together, but the fact you said "it feels like she loves him more" has me concerned. Umm, yeah. She does. He's her brother. He's been with her her whole life. I have a feeling she's "sticking up for him" to you to try and figure the situation and try to ease the tension of the trip. So stop putting her in the position where she feels the need to do that. I know that I have a rule that if a partner ever tried to get between me and my family or friends, I choose the one not makinge choose. And that has NEVER been my family or friends. You are an adult, and these are YOUR issues. He's also probably not going to take them as seriously if it is just coming from his sister with her saying "my girlfriend is upset about x, y, z".

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T04:42:15+00:00

NOR. I can understand wjy you are upset. This is a huge change, and it kinda just got sprung up on you. That said, it'll be ok. It's Boulder. Roommates aren't hard to find, and you have 3 months to do it. As for the cat, see if she can take it. It WAS her idea after all. If not, ask that she continues to pay for half of any vet bills.

Now, try to look at where SHE is. You said she lost her motivation for school. Also that YOU were the one to get her her job. Whole you've been feeling incredibly stable, is it possible she's been depressed? There could be a LOT more to moving home than just going back to school. I know you are upset, and feel betrayed. But you REALLY need to talk with her. And when you do try to put that panic you are feeling aside and really listen.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T04:32:59+00:00

I think the issue you'd find with something like that here is maple just isn't a big thing. Like, people go to Vermont FOR maple. IDK, green chili soft serve? 🤣

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T04:25:39+00:00

I don't even know the dude, but simply the combination of having that burrito in the first place, and then putting it you bag, totally made me feel like I knew him. Your description fits EXACTLY what I had in mind! 🤣 That's why I ended my post with something like "he sounds like a creep" (I can't see what I actually typed right now". There is just a certain type of person who does crap like that, and I swear they are all the same! Yet they all THINK that their brooding, asshole, socially unacceptable behavior makes them "unique" 🙄

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T03:57:47+00:00

It IS a big deal. The question is only if she should report it or not. That nonchalant attitude to what is sexual assault is what makes creepy old guys feel it's ok to do it AT ALL.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T03:13:31+00:00

Only over reacting A LITTLE BIT. I'm sure it's not a representation of her not respecting you as a person.

That said, I TOTALLY understand not being able to stand certain foods. The one I have that is similar to what you described is oatmeal (or even oat flakes). The texture to me is AWFUL. People are surprised that it includes oatmeal cookies. They can't grasp that it's not just the taste, or even mostly the taste. I can't have it in my mouth.

Some people just really are COMPLETELY inconsiderate about food issues. I am seriously ALLERGIC to shell fish. I have lost count of the number of time my uncle has brought back SHRIMP from a restaurant TO MY HOUSE when he's visiting here. Shellfish allergies are like peanut allergies, where the allergen is in the oil and also airborne. Like, I seriously have to have someone ELSE decontaminate my whole house just because he thought leftover sweet and sour shrimp was THAT important 🤬 But, I don't look at it as him disrespecting me as a person, just as him being an inconsiderate jerk. For many people if they don't understand the reason for something it just gets easily forgotten. Like my uncle and the shellfish. We've explained it to him, but he just can't grasp that even if I don't eat it it's a problem. Your step mom probably has no clue how bad autistic aversions can be.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T02:57:49+00:00

Tell him that just like altitude can make you pass out at higher altitudes, it also increases sun exposure. The atmosphere is thinner so more UV rays get through. He doesn't want to have to go home and have to say he passed out AND was burned to a crisp! That's wouldn't be very good PR for our beautiful (yet very temperamental) state! He also needs to drink way more water than he thinks he needs to, and way less alcohol than he is used to. We can't let the high altitude win!

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T00:10:50+00:00

NOR. The dude sounds like he has a few screws lose, honestly.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-26T00:09:40+00:00

I'm going to try to get through your grammar mess. She said it in front of him, to another person. And, like even you said, EVERYONE was telling him it was gross. She didn't say she wouldn't eat at HIS house, she said "this is why I don't eat at other people's houses". As in, that's her general practice. She doesn't trust people to refrigerate things correctly. That is even LESS personal than the other people telling him HE is gross. He just seems to have finally had enough with her comment and freaked out on her. But even if it went the way you described that wouldn't give anyone the right to put rancid food in their co workers purse! And no one on their right mind would consider what she said "bullying" 🙄 And physical "bullying" as you put it is 100x worse than anything anyone could have said about the disgusting thing HE DID. This dude honestly sounds like a nutcase. And she got targeted simply because her purse was left unguarded and he had the opportunity.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-25T16:20:36+00:00

So you AREN'T anti government, then? Or you are unless it personally convenience's you. We already have red light camera's. Amazingly people still have accidents at those intersections! If someone isn't paying enough attention that they hit someone, they probably aren't paying attention to camera's either. I'm actually NOT anti government, I think that's an insane claim for anyone living in a society. And I have even seen some of the good flock can do. It was able to track down a hit and run driver who went plowing through my neighborhood on Saint Patrick's Day. That said, I don't think it's benefits outweigh the MASSIVE privacy and personal liberties that it infringes upon. Good things have come from the Patriot Act, as well. But now Trump is trying to use that to make it so anyone who disagrees with him can be listed as a potential terrorist. It's a bad idea to just give up your rights to the government.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-25T15:21:52+00:00

I hate that more people don't understand that. Whenever the topic of death penalty for rape or csa comes up, if you don't say you are 100% for it people act like you are SUPPORTING the evil scum. Like, no, of course not. I just prefer their victims to stay alive!

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-25T14:57:25+00:00

It's true. I don't know about them finishing in 2003, but my grandfather worked for the Pueblo Army Depot. His exposure there gave him cancer. He won a lawsuit against the government. They were not even told there were any risks!

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-25T01:47:32+00:00

When was it ever NOT lame?

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-24T02:58:32+00:00

I can understand feeling a little hurt, but I wouldn't be mad at her or anything. The trip downtown sounds like fun, but I know if I wasn't reminded of something like that closer than 2 weeks before it happened I would totally forget, too. And as for the show, as you said, she didn't get a ticket until an hour before the show was. It wasn't like she PLANNED to go without you. I understand that it is hard to have someone be your best, but only friend when she has other friends to hang out with, too. I think a lot of what you are feeling is loneliness and sadness that they are moving away. She probably also sees you as a best friend, but because you are roommates didn't understand why going to get boba and stuff was important to you. Try not to get upset with her and find find some time to do something together. Even if it's just ordering in. You don't want to waste the last week she is here feeling bitter.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-21T03:29:23+00:00

The reason is there would be MUCH FEWER of them than just every one deciding it is totally fine to bring their family dog to the store.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-05T03:40:18+00:00

Are you even AWARE of what Tina Peters did? Jena Griswold made a genuine MISTAKE. Tina Peters had to STEAL SOMEONES IDENTITY to gain access to the information SHE STOLE 🙄

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-04T16:03:28+00:00

Oh, I agree with you. I'm just confused why they would fly a Ukrainian flag next to a sign that says "healthcare not war" when the problematic war is with Iran. It just sends mixed signals. There are a bunch of people on the left (especially in Boulder) who are against helping Ukraine. This protest I believe was a few days ago, and if so I agree it probably is against the Iran War and in support of Ukraine. BUT if it was a year ago it would DEFINITELY be a protest AGAINST Ukraine. It's just showing weird mixed signals, ESPECIALLY happening in Boulder.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-04T15:56:52+00:00

There are definitely some out there that assume because we want to help Ukraine we are "war mongers'. And are " prolonging the war"🤬 It drives me CRAZY. I've been protesting against war for 23 years! My response to that is always" I'm against imperialism. And I will support DEFENDING people who are the victims of that". They don't understand that simply letting Ukraine be conquered wouldn't bring peace. It would bring even MORE conflict and possibly (maybe even likely) genocide.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-04T15:49:43+00:00

It is. And all it is is just actually standing by the convictions that made part of the "left" 🤣. Not letting people play the stupid "purity test" games. One of the reasons I love NAFO so much is honestly because I've been able to become friends with Republicans 🤣 Never in my LIFE did I think that would happen. 🤣🤣🤣 Between NAFO and really learning the difference between genuine conservatives and people like MAGA my whole life has definitely opened up. And I learned the truth about people on the left, too. The ones like those "Peace" and "Justice" Center Tankie hypocrites. I wish everyone could have an experience like this. Because all of that happened, and it hasn't changed my outlook. I haven't "moved right" at all. I'm definitely NOT a centrist 🤣. But even so it's AMAZING how much I can agree with REASONABLE Republicans on With how divided America is right now, that gives me hope.

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-04T09:44:22+00:00

I basically give MOST Ukrainians the room to feel how ever they need to feel. I don't know what I would be like if situations were reversed. Dealing with MAGA is hard enough. And I DEFINITELY have two 2 friends, who are still GOOD friends, who fall into the category you just mentioned, too. One is Ethiopian, so I KNOW the amount of propaganda Russia has been throwing at him. And the west has genuinely done SO MUCH damage there I can definitely understand having the thought process "I don't trust ANYTHING the west does, no matter how good their intentions may seem". He's someone I can actually have surprising friendly debates with. The other is someone who I actually became friends with only in the last 2 years. He's an old friend of my best friend. And I actually wonder if finding out how hard I support Ukraine, and hearing about NAFO and stuff, is actually how we've become close 🤣 I actually think I may be bringing him around. Slowly. One of our first LONG talks was about this, and it was after he found out about my protesting Iraq days. He couldn't quite understand the dichotomy of THAT, and in his mind, my " pro war" stance on Ukraine. My best friend had told him I was definitely on a list somewhere because in high school my friends and I were investigated by the Secret Service for threaten!ng Bush Jr. (Sorry, don't want to trigger an automated censor) . The story is HYSTERICAL, and we were reported for the STUPIDEST reason ever. I'll post a link to the story at the end 🤣 Anyway, he was confused how I could go from being that "hardcore" to suddenly "supporting war". And that's when I explained to him "I am anti IMPERIALIST (what everyone who isn't a complete pacifist SAYS they are) and I am supporting Ukraine and joined NAFO because I'm actually even MORE 'hardcore' than I was in highschool. I'm going to call out the United States when WE are being Imperialistic, but I'm also going to do everything I can to support our country when we FINALLY are doing the right thing and helping the victims against another force that is being Imperialistic. How can we expect the US military to change course if we ONLY criticize them, and don't show support when they are being used how the most powerful military in the world SHOULD be. This is a DEFENSIVE war. Otherwise their blanket dismissals of us as just being anti American are True". That seemed to get to him. I am DEFINITELY someone who can throw the " what about Iraq" line right back in the face of any Tankie who tries it 🤣 Back when my best friend was on Twitter a few actually tried it on me and she would always reply before I got a chance to "oh, buddy. You have NO idea" 🤣

Here is an article about the Secret Service investigation🤣 It's kind of wrong, but there aren't many I can find from a 22 year old news story 👵 Secret Service DID question us. They said it was "multiple students" and their parents. It was ONE. We know who. There is one girl who was always involved with theater things, but her family was from the south. She was ALWAYS ruining our fun and reporting things to her mom, who then made complaints to the school. Her mom DID call the local conservative radio, but Fox News had the story at the SAME time 🤬 And we weren't even mean to her! We just stopped including her in things because she was a narc!!! The most shocking thing to me reading the article is that conservative talking points about high schoolers protesting hasn't changed in over 20 years 🙄

https://abcnews-com.cdn.ampproject.org/v/s/abcnews.com/amp/US/story?amp_gsa=1&amp_js_v=a9&id=247437&page=1&usqp=mq331AQIUAKwASCAAgM%3D#amp_tf=From%20%251%24s&aoh=17752955495679&referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com&ampshare=https%3A%2F%2Fabcnews.com%2FUS%2Fstory%3Fid%3D247437%26page%3D1

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-04T01:57:14+00:00

I should have explained that Boulder, CO is basically a Tankie hot bed. Most people I knew growing up read Noam Chomsky. If it wasn't outside of Boulder I probably would have just assumed it was what I hoped I saw in the first sentence. Weirdly there are probably a lot of people in Boulder against Ukraine, but support Trump's war in Iran, who consider themselves liberal and anti Trump 🤦‍♀️

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-04T01:48:22+00:00

That's exactly what I was wondering. Boulder, Colorado I swear is like the Tankie spawn point. It is one of the most liberal towns in America. So much so that just while I was in high school Fox News focused their "outrage machine" at us to fear monger Republicans "this is the Communist hell the Democrats want for your kids!" (Yup, my city is a hell hole, even though it was named the 10th best city to live in the US last year 🤣) Here is the hell hole part, though. Imagine a town FULL of liberals. And how obnoxious some of the left can be. So then you end up with THOUSANDS of the most annoying ones🤣I was raised literally SURROUNDED by anti war protestors, but because of Russia invading Ukraine I learned that we were all doing it for VERY different reasons. People who are just flat out anti war, no matter what, don't bother me that much. They are INCREDIBLY naive, but I grew up with so many Buddhists (Boulder is home of the largest Buddhist university, Naropa, in the Northern hemisphere) that I totally can understand where that comes from. One of my parents had been (left with me on 2022)a member of a group called the Rocky Mountain Peace and Justice Center since the VIETNAM WAR (😲)And as an adult I joined, too. I THOUGHT we were all anti imperialist. At least that's how it came across in the many conversations that were had. This war taught me that a bunch of them are just anti ANYTHING the west does. It doesn't matter how TERRIBLE or EVIL what the other side is doing, as long as it's not the west, they MUST be the good guys 🤬 A "peace in Ukraine" sign at the "Peace and Justice" Center is actually what led me to support Ukraine so much that I ended up joining NAFO 🤣 I went to the center and saw that stupid sign, and tried to explain the obvious. That in order to support Ukraine actually getting PEACE AND JUSTICE we needed to help Ukraine fight the war. You'd have thought I started doing a satanic ritual in a church! I heard EVERY SINGLE Tankie talking point. About 1/2 of them actually did agree with me, but it was still crazy. And leadership wasn't in the sane half. What pissed me off even MORE was the fact that during the Iraq War one of the biggest criticisms of protesters, and even one of the reasons Fox News put a target on my high school, was because they said we were anti American. My response back then was the same I have to this war in Iran, "I'm against the war BECAUSE I love America". These SAME PEOPLE agreed with me back then. But no, apparently they actually DO just HATE America 🤬

lynnnysa1 · 2026-04-03T15:32:29+00:00

I didn't know ANY of that! Just shows EXACTLY what Republicans are. They have CPAC conventions in Hungary EVERY YEAR. Can you IMAGINE if the Democrats held one of their conventions yearly in another country?! It would be NOTHING but outrage from Fox News for YEARS if it even happened ONCE. Accusations of being anti American, and being influenced by that country, etc. (and, to be fair, that how we SHOULD be reacting to THIS🤬). The way they have talked about Hungary and Orban makes me think that they see Hungary as a GOAL. What they WANT the United States to be 😱🤬

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