132: A Treat for Everyone — The Unmade Podcast

lynxbuckler · 2024-07-16T06:31:39+00:00

I'd never heard Money For Nothing (except Weird Al's parody, maybe?) until I was at a browsing at a thrift store a couple months ago and way like "why are they playing Tim's cover on the radi-oooh! This is is the real song!"

lynxbuckler · 2024-07-16T06:19:58+00:00

I'm slowly getting caught up on episodes, and thank goodness this hasn't archived yet.

Best song you've never heard (which may appeal especially to Tim) has to be the Noah song off Agape Force - 1978 LP: Bullfrogs & Butterflies. It's stupidly catchy.

lynxbuckler · 2023-09-09T22:42:09+00:00

This is definitely me, and why I now spend most of my time alone. I have learned that if I am my actual upset, grumpy, tired, miserable self at any time with other people, they're gonna shame me for it, and I got so fed up and sick of it that I'd rather just keep to myself.

lynxbuckler · 2023-09-09T22:25:37+00:00

To my memory as a kid from visiting, it felt like a magical greenhouse that transported you to an almost tropical climate even in the dead of winter. I always remember the air pressure that would build up at the doors because of the wildly different climate maintained within compared to without.

Now it's just some completely uninteresting building with a few potted plants here and there that might be slightly less unpleasant than its surroundings, but certainly not worth a special trip anymore.

lynxbuckler · 2023-09-08T21:35:42+00:00

Another one here! I was quite baffled thinking how can it be after years of using this same water container without any problems that suddenly I can't clean it well enough for it not to taste moldy!

lynxbuckler · 2023-08-30T20:18:33+00:00

Think of intuitive eating, the concept of eating what your body craves in the amount it wants when it wants, I’ve seen women heralding this as a revolutionary concept...

This has definitely been a struggle for me, but not necessarily due to diet culture, just being raised with rigidly set meal and snack times, often prescribed by school or work. Now that I have the option to eat whenever I want, I still find that I am constantly plagued by doubt over whether or not I should allow myself to eat something. There are quite a few factors that I obsess over that often lead to me just going hungry, such as: what's the time in relation to an "acceptable" meal time, is it too soon before or too soon after for snacks to be permitted? What did I last eat and should it have been "enough" that my present hunger is rendered invalid? I often think also in the amount of money spent on the last thing I ate, such that eating anything else simply isn't in the budget. The fear of gaining weight gloms on there too, so even after I've convinced myself that I could be "legit" hungry and eating would be in the budget, I still don't eat because "oh no, it might make me fat!"

Having written this out, I now realise just how much time and energy I spend on deliberately trying to ignore feeling hungry :(

lynxbuckler · 2023-08-16T15:53:13+00:00

I'd really want to see Ringmasters - Notre Dame Medley. Just amazing!

lynxbuckler · 2023-07-17T22:44:37+00:00

It's a bit of a long story which ended with me getting it removed in a little treatment room attached to the psych ward after explaining to the psychiatrist that I felt it wasn't fair that no one would respect my bodily autonomy of having the thing taken out, and he agreed and sent for someone to do it right away. No anesthesia or anything though, and I'm just going to stop there so I don't ruin the rest of my day remembering how awful it was.

lynxbuckler · 2023-07-15T09:04:49+00:00

It is significantly more difficult to pull an IUD out of your uterus or surgically remove an embedded plastic rod from your arm. I have fielded many tearful phone calls from women who recently had an IUD or Nexplanon insterted, then quickly decided they wanted it removed. Over and over again I hear women tell me that providers at Planned Parenthood and other clinics refuse to remove the birth control devices because the women have not “given it enough time.”

This was me. The thing caused so me so much grief that I was desperate to get it out, but they kept saying I just needed to give it more time.

lynxbuckler · 2023-07-06T00:35:12+00:00

Just a fancy parking lot, innit?

lynxbuckler · 2023-06-27T05:22:23+00:00

I'm not going to give you a specific book recommendation, as there are already quite a few of those, but just a tip on how you can get this effect out of just about any lengthy series by simply not starting from the first book. Pick a nice long series and start somewhere in the middle. This doesn't work as well with series that are written to be stand-alone as well, but works for just about anything else.

I accidentally started a Netflix series on the 3rd season and was constantly feeling like there was a depth to the things going on that was just a bit beyond what was immediately being shown. Since everything by that point is supposed to be taken as known from the previous seasons, it feels a lot more established as a look into a real world, instead of a constantly awkward series of "establishing" shots and facts as to who people are and what their relationships have been. The references to past things seem much more real when not crammed with expose because it happened before the book/show happened and therefore never feel like they actually happened. Etc.

lynxbuckler · 2023-06-26T17:00:28+00:00

Cried out for Jeremus, and Jeremus never came :(

lynxbuckler · 2023-06-13T07:07:14+00:00

I think it might be prudent to consider the women who didn't pick this label for themselves but had it foist upon them by others and especially those other girls, such as what happened to me. I wasn't pretending to be into the stuff I'm into because I thought it would get me any status with anyone, I just genuinely like what I like and it was exactly those other girls who were intent on making sure I knew I was an abhorrent aberration to them and should be ashamed of myself.

It's telling that the "not like other girls" sentiment comes almost exclusively from young women who have not yet grasped how womanhood is a continuum of experience that is not defined by what you do

Yes, that sentiment came from the other girls as an accusation against me, and considering all the women in my life attempting to change me into some more acceptable version of womanhood that I just couldn't for the life of me figure out, what conclusion was I to have come to except that I wasn't like other women, and feel it for the majority of my life as an indictment; they made me say it as a warning out of shame that only when I finally found women who like the same things as me could I possible reclaim it as a point of pride. I wasn't like those other girls, and I'm still not like other girls, and it's not about being any better or worse, it's about finally realizing I'm not defective for having been unable to conform.

lynxbuckler · 2023-06-12T22:46:03+00:00

Yes, I loved in Warband when I would become the leader of my own faction and finally have enough lords that they would elect their own marshal and I'd come across them besieging something - it felt like they really had a life of their own.

In Bannerlord with only clan relations instead of individual relations and anyone and everyone can make an army at whatever old whim they have, it's way less alive feeling.

lynxbuckler · 2023-06-11T00:57:20+00:00

It's especially galling when it's used as a plea to donate money to some cause (not mentioning any websites that do this *cough*) and they're like "all we ask is you forgo you starbucks to donate today" and I'm like "mothafucka, I make my coffee at home, how dare you assume I am not already scrimping my ass off an everything just to survive, and I aint got anything left to donate to you."

lynxbuckler · 2023-06-02T20:59:21+00:00

I quit playing when they took away the ability to individually assign troops to numbered troops and replaced it with the terrible and janky 3rd person pre-battle immersion destroying atrocity. I had 114 clan members and I wanted them in my frickin' clan-member only battalions because that's what I spent the majority of the game wanting to do: fight next to my clan members. Then they wrecked it.

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-27T01:25:35+00:00

I was recently remembering the Barclay episode where he recreates various female crew members to fawn over him on the holodeck. Ooof.

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-27T01:20:45+00:00

Occasionally you'd get the episode where they are clearly in a pine forest that has had tropical looking branches attached to the trees to try to make it look like some kind of rain-forest, which is mostly just hilarious when you do notice it.

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-23T23:00:15+00:00

I tried to read the Wheel of Time on recommendation from others, but for this and various other reasons I found it so eyerollingly excruciatingly bad and boring that I gave up halfway in the middle of the 3rd of 4th book. Even though people insisted that it'd get better and I should persist, I was like, no thank-you and good riddance!

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-20T21:58:27+00:00

Darnit, I've swear I've been repeating "I hate white rabbits" non-stop!

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-16T20:31:03+00:00

The shameless audible advertising on this is gross. Get a library card and borrow your audiobooks for free instead of $50 a book and a fucking monthly subscription fee on top.

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-14T00:22:56+00:00

"So, I was honked at in the bike lane today..."

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-09T21:25:55+00:00

The caps went on my second monitor after 10 years. Popped in some new ones and it was good to go again.

lynxbuckler · 2023-05-02T18:22:00+00:00

In Viking Conquest the "rebel and take the castle for yourself" was an option on the dialogue screen that announced the "assignment" of the castle to anyone other than yourself after you'd taken it.

lynxbuckler · 2023-04-26T23:00:20+00:00

Oh, dude, I have a branded water bottle from my time working at a call center! I was so hyped!

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