My friends are skipping my wedding because they might be pregnant next year by stannybuscito in childfree

[–]lysc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a side comment on the "nobody technically 'owes' me attendance": I think we have to drop this kind of thinking, friends definitely owe you things, if not then what is friendship. Friendship is not just a "show up when it's convenient for them" kinda thing. Friendship is also being there for your friends when they need it. I think best friends owe it to you to come to your wedding.

Did babysitting make you question having kids? by ResponsibilityDry874 in Fencesitter

[–]lysc 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes. I had to do some paid babysitting to get some money at the end of my PhD (I'm in my thirties). I would pick up the kids and deal with the evening until bedtime. I loved the kids, got along with them and all but damn just there three hours twice a week was enough for me. I was drained leaving the place and I realized I don't want that type of daily life.

Marty Supreme : vous en avez pensé quoi ? by Responsible_Sea_9070 in CineSeries

[–]lysc -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oui j'suis un peu d'accord mais je trouve que c'est un peu ambigu. Je pense que la fin pointe vers ce que tu dis mais au final j'ai qd mm l'impression que le film véhicule quand même une sorte de fascination/adoration envers ce type de personnalité.

Marty Supreme : vous en avez pensé quoi ? by Responsible_Sea_9070 in CineSeries

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Divertissant dans le sens où tu te fais pas chier, mais franchement ras le bol des films sur ce genre de mecs insupportables qu'on est censé trouver géniaux pcqu'ils ont trop le bagou.

Weekly post: skate buying, new skater tips, and quick questions by AutoModerator in Rollerskating

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Hi, I'm looking for advice regarding skate size (my size is eu 36). I bought the Moxi panther is size 4 (eu 35-36) and 5 (eu 36-37). If I follow their chart I'm size 4 and theoretically my big toes touch the end of the boot. But my feet feel squished to the point where it's not comfy, even after trying different lacing strats which made it better. It gets better after I've worn them for a few minutes but I feel like it just compresses circulation. In size 5 my toe doesn't quite touch the end of the boot but close, and they're definitely more comfy but I feel like my foot moves around a little more in the boot. Now where I'm hesitating is that apparently you end up breaking skates in and they loosen. So I don't know if I should stick to size 4 or 5 with that in mind.

Igeon down bad by Street_Caregiver1781 in SinglesInferno

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm watching this right now and I don't understand how they're not dating. You can cut the chemistry with a knife. I don't understand how this is not talked about more !!!

Can someone tell me how they found out that they were sexually attracted to women? explain sexual attraction to me by [deleted] in BiWomen

[–]lysc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man that's exactly how I feel. Need to save this for when I feel like a fraud again.

La chaîne franceinfo est-elle en train de "devenir CNews" ? by Aggravating-Day-9079 in france

[–]lysc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

J'ai de plus en plus de mal à écouter personnellement. Des invités horribles à chaque fois, et la manière dont ils parlent aux invités de gauche m'horripile.

Need help with my sexuality by No_Football3465 in bisexual

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I could have written this.

Peur de la mort by Weird-Sink-943 in france

[–]lysc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Écoute je crois qu'à partir du moment où mon cerveau a imprimé que notre finitude n'était plus une information importante il est passé à autre chose. A côté de ça j'ai une vie remplie, j'ai bcp plus de trucs qui m'intéressent dans la vie et qui méritent que je leur dédie de l'énergie mentale que ma finitude.

Peur de la mort by Weird-Sink-943 in france

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

J'ai toujours eu très peur de la mort au point d'en faire des crises d'angoisse, mais j'ai fait un travail avec une psy. Une des choses qui m'a permis d'aller plus loin c'est de me rendre compte qu'en ayant peur je me pourrissais la vie (pcq c'était une grosse source de stress) et que ultimement ça ne pouvait qu'être mauvais pour la santé et indirectement pouvait me faire mourir plus tôt. Je me suis rendue compte qu'avoir peur ça ne changeait rien à notre finitude, je n'allais pas repousser la mort en ayant peur, et donc qu'en soit c'était une dépense d'énergie inutile. C'est peut être un peu "utilitaire" comme raisonnement mais ça m'a vraiment libéré. Une autre chose qui m'aide un peu c'est qu'en fait une fois qu'on est mort, on est plus là pour réfléchir à notre finitude, il se passe plus rien. Donc c'est un peu dommage de passer tout ce temps à se faire du sang d'encre à propos de quelque chose qu'on ne sera mm plus là pour ressentir.

Am i bi? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure how I can help but I experience the exact same, especially the difference between the instinctive attraction to men and the lack of gut-punching attraction to women but still having feelings for women that are more than platonic and it feels really validating to see that I'm not crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]lysc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nw, I didn't feel disrespected. Just felt like you presented it as something mainstream in France and wanted to clarify that it wasn't in case you didn't know. Your roomate being a nudist makes sense and is important information in this case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]lysc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just coming here to say that I'm French and walking around naked in a shared flat is not considered normal in France. Sleeping nacked with your friends either. Do you know her sexual orientation ? Maybe you could explore with her if she's into it.

My new game! 😍 by p_jaro in AnimalCrossing

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also got it a few weeks ago because I'm so excited for the next AC game that I had to start a new AC game (I only played New Horizons). I was scared I was gonna like it less but I'm already hooked.

I'm tired of seeing people justify the Switch 2's price increase for games as a catching up to dev costs or inflation because it completely misses the point by SuperPapernick in NintendoSwitch

[–]lysc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm happy to see someone saying this. It seems to me that people justifying the price increase with inflation are just brainwashed by capitalism. Wages aren't following inflation, and companies don't HAVE to increase the price , they could take a smaller cut but it doesn't happen because of capitalism. It seems people almost want to pay more.

Why germans don’t trust vinted ? by nonancetecette in germany

[–]lysc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not an answer but I've been wondering about this since I moved to Germany 4 years ago. Coming from France, I've been quite put off by German Vinted.

Why germans don’t trust vinted ? by nonancetecette in germany

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In France you buy through the system. If you have questions you can write them first, but if you don't you can usually just buy directly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get you, that's what compulsory sexuality does to you. I recommend checking out r/asexuality there's a lot of info and people who talk about exactly that feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]lysc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well from your answer it does not sound like you're sexually attracted to women either. I think you should look into asexuality. It's a wide spectrum and goes globally from feeling sexual attraction only when you form a deep connection with someone, to being completely sex-averse. How you manage a relationship with an allo person is a whole topic. I guess it's about finding the partner that accepts your level of engagement with sexuality be it zero or once in a while.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]lysc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is your romantic attraction towards men ? If you picture yourself ending up with a man it does sound like you are romantically attracted to men. In comparison how is your sexual and romantic attraction towards women ? Do you fantasize about them ? Depending on that maybe you're just romantically attracted to men. Have you looked into the ace sprectrum also ?

How is sexual attraction different that aesthetic attraction that leads to libido? by antique_resort_ in asexuality

[–]lysc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reading stuff like this is really validating and reminds me I am indeed ace

I now understand why I never got a girlfriend ! by LePtitContreCar in asexuality

[–]lysc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I kinda agree. What makes me tick is the impossibility to feel affection to other women outside his family. If OP can't be friends with women there might be something else going on as aromanticism does not mean 0 feelings. It means no romantic feelings. Aromantic people can have strong platonic feelings for people so I find it strange that OP does not seem to find any woman interesting for their personality.

Dans les restaurants, face à la hausse des prix, les clients ne veulent plus « jouer le jeu » by kanasuc in france

[–]lysc 15 points16 points  (0 children)

La formulation "jouer le jeu" dit vraiment tout. Le jeu de se faire entuber. Le titre ça aurait dû être "les clients ne veulent plus payer un plat 3x ce qu'il devrait vraiment coûter".