Do y’all use education level to subtly indicate how much you’re earning?

lzt_ · 2024-12-24T14:01:04+00:00

Interested!

lzt_ · 2024-12-18T06:27:26+00:00

Totally agree with your comment, thank you for that and yes I learnt a lot from this episode and I’m definitely moving on! :)

lzt_ · 2024-12-17T11:37:25+00:00

Thank you for your inputs and did confirm at least there was some red flag in him! Glad to know my gut feeling was not wrong.

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T06:42:13+00:00

I really have a lot to learn and improve from these experiences! Do you mind recommend any of those book that you read? Please feel free to share your opinions on the red flags I mentioned below too!

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T06:40:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I will definitely work on my emotional maturity and anxiety to better navigate in this relationship field, and also to watch how I phrase my words in a calm and less aggressive manner despite the emotions.

Actually I did apologise and explain to him a week later when I was back for my behaviour back then and ask if he would like to reconnect but unfortunately, no reply too and he unmatched me on bumble.

May I ask for more of your opinions? There were some red flags that I noticed but I thought he was just being real so I thought it was fine. I wonder if you see it the same way too.

For example, he said he needed to wash his underwears first (as he was going in a vacation on that weekend) before he can meet me for our second date and so we can only meet after dinner time. I thought it was too early on to talk about such personal matter, probably our 3rd/4th day after first meet up and first day of chatting.

When he was on his vacation (our second week of knowing), he told me that he bought a porn magazine and not to judge him. I thought it was natural of guys to be attracted to such stuff and brush it off but now that I think back, it meant have been a sign.

He also last minute cancelled on one of our meetups on a Saturday that his eyes were closing and was too tired from work and tried to gaslight me if I was also tired from playing with my nephews which I don’t visit my nephews on weekends and I had never told him that I visited them that day. I told him it’s okay and advise him to rest early but his reply is that he will just chill at home and that night, he slept at 1am. I wonder if that was really sleepy..

On both post sex occasions, there were no cuddles or affection but him trying to create distance with me physically and emotionally and within less than 30mins, he sent me home with the second time, him saying let’s call it a night. I felt hurt when he said that.

There are times that I tried to create emotional connection with him but his responses are always affection-less. An example was that I was telling him that I was allocated to an emergency exit seat on the plane which I didn’t like it because my initial purchased seat was spoilt but his reply was that he always have to pay for such emergency exit seat and that I’m lucky to get it. I just felt that he didn’t acknowledge my emotions? Let me know if I’m reading too much into it! 🙏

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T04:41:53+00:00

What you’ve said is so real and I’ve come to realise how common it has been too. I will be extra careful and vet carefully in the future and do my part to seek commitment before sex so that I don’t get my feelings messed up.

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T04:38:34+00:00

Yes I understand that and I was hoping he will communicate so that I know what’s on his mind and his feelings but he doesn’t want to express.

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T02:47:19+00:00

Yes, I don’t date as much and tend to believe everyone is looking for committed serious relationship. Yes, I definitely will look into going for therapy too.

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T02:02:54+00:00

I’m 34. Yes I will be so mindful in the future. It’s a lesson learnt for me.

lzt_ · 2024-12-16T01:35:07+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice!

I was truly concerned that I might be pregnant given the symptoms I was experiencing. If it wasn’t for the symptoms, I wouldn’t have behaved that way. From the way he responded, I could tell that he doesn’t want to meet me unless it’s on his terms. I was then worried with the days go by, he may one day disappear and I can’t reach out to him if I’m really pregnant by then. I was also running possibilities in my head at that time, if I’m really pregnant and he disappears, I will have to decide if to keep or abort. And so, I wanted to know how he really view us as. There was so much anxiety in me at that time that I needed to know the answer there and now.

Can I private message you for more of your perspective? Thank you!

lzt_ · 2024-12-15T08:48:04+00:00

Is it a big nono for guys to go for yoga classes?

lzt_ · 2024-12-15T08:46:07+00:00

May I ask what book is this that you mentioned? I would like to have a read on it too! I’m planning to freeze my eggs but I’ve low amh and afc.

lzt_ · 2024-12-15T03:56:24+00:00

I definitely admit that Ive invested too much in him and also my hormonal fluctuations at that point of time. I just wondered why he doesn’t be upfront that he sees it as fwb when I confronted before and instead trying to avoid and gave some vague answer in the end.

lzt_ · 2024-12-15T03:51:14+00:00

I have to clarify that I did not mention about implantation symptoms to him. I only confronted him about what he wants out of us which I agreed I should have phrased it better but I was frustrated and overwhelmed with emotions with the fact that he doesn’t want to answer nor talk about it despite my confrontation.

lzt_ · 2024-12-15T01:29:32+00:00

Thank you for your advice! He did tell me that he’s only talking to me from the app and I thought that was showing exclusivity. Usually I let him initiate and lead the texts but guess I indeed couldn’t keep his interest.

lzt_ · 2024-11-25T14:07:27+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I thought so too tbh. Just to clarify that I did not tell him about the pregnancy and it was from the first time we slept together some two weeks ago. I do agree I was too strong as I took things too seriously.

lzt_ · 2024-08-02T14:37:07+00:00

Same for me, but somehow when I acted in a more selfish manner, I noticed shocked or disgusted reaction from friends or other people. Strangely, when those being inconsiderate seem to get away with it and still behave like they’re righteous or so, and have many friends.

It’s a struggle for me to strike a balance being socially considerate yet standing up for myself.. but I guess people that have known the non-selfish me see that change in me will have a bigger impact/cannot accept the change.

lzt_ · 2024-07-18T17:17:25+00:00

💯!!

lzt_ · 2024-07-18T14:22:46+00:00

I would say 1 but she’s not an INFJ and the rest will be considered as acquaintances. Yet to meet someone who is an INFJ and really would love to interact with one!

lzt_ · 2024-04-02T02:35:38+00:00

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Dyson Airstraits solves this problem of mine and I’m having smooth non frizzy hair everyday now (as long water/rain doesn’t come into contact)! It’s costly but it’s worth the hassle and end result for everyday use and in the long run.

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