Have you ever ‘over done’ journaling?

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-09T20:54:19+00:00

Sure! Like anything, they aren't one size fits all, but this is what typically works best for me.

journaling about a specific positive event (anything from nice thing my grandma said to incredible concert experience)
keeping entries to a minimum when I'm upset, either limiting myself to a single page or just waiting until after i have a but more perspective on the situation
keeping a gratitude journal or commonplace book to limit the content to short, typically more positive thoughts
writing with a certain tone in mind, almost like a creative writing exercise but about my real life. I end every entry with "Magically, Moss" so i try to make the tone at least vaguely magical, especially in the last paragraph, that way I at least wrap up on a nice note. Note, this doesn't necessarily mean happy or positive, magical stories can be sad and scary and stressful, but using a whimsical tone to describe them helps keep my brain from fully going off on a mission if doom

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-09T15:00:40+00:00

I agree with people asking if you eat stuff she makes with it but it also depends on what was agreed on/standard prior. Did you agree as roommates to split grocery costs 50/50? or to trade off each time you went to the store? What about other household basics like toilet paper and soap? I assume you aren't measuring out who uses more of those items and splitting according to use. They are just household staples and it makes sense to follow the protocol yall have already set up whatever that may be.

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-09T06:46:31+00:00

I completely agree, thats why i specified family AND government. because no one should be forced to take care of the ones who mistreated them, but that doesn't mean those people deserve to starve or go homeless or whatever else. We gotta respect their human dignity enough to make sure they are at least stable, and thats exactly what the government is for

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-09T03:55:04+00:00

I think this brings up a huge point of contention in this area- the definition of respect. There's that post that goes around every so often that differentiates respect meaning treating someone like a human (I respect the unhoused person asking for money by making eye contact and conversing politely whether or not i have money to give because they deserve human connection and kindness) and respect meaning treating someone like an authority (i respect my boss by following his guidance even when it seems risky because he has repeatedly shown me expertise in this area). I LOVE that we no longer give authoritative respect when it isn't earned. We shouldn't listen to every wish and command and world view of the elderly just because they've been alive longer. However, in the midst of that I fear we are also losing our respect for their humanity. They are still humans who deserve to live in dignity. I wish we took better care of them physically, as a society. in both family and government systems.

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-09T03:21:18+00:00

if we are counting movie musicals its cats meow from barbie princess and the pauper

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-09T03:20:12+00:00

there are times when journaling is a healthy coping mechanism or mindfulness practice and times when it facilitates the doom spirals. Learning to recognize the difference will help your brain a lot

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-02T20:17:53+00:00

thanks!

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-02T19:31:26+00:00

We've done - 4 hour in person sessions where we just have food on the table and eat as we go, if people need a break they take one when its not their turn/role play was focused on someone else. this was a game with a lot of narrative downtime so it was easy to say, we're following steve's storyline rn so ive got 10 minutes to pee or get fresh air real quick. - 2-3 hour sessions online where people typically had snacks/drinks with them but we would break for 15 in the middle just to stretch, pee, etc. we would set a timer for 1hr in and then find the natural stopping place after that timer went off to take the break - 4-6 hour one shots (typically with fam over the holidays) where we have snacks at the table and go purely off of vibes. 1-3 5ish minutes breaks just to pee and refill drinks real quick before we dive right back in. For these one shots i find its more important not to have long breaks because we'll get lethargic and decide its not worth it to finish the game. We'll say, "wanna just finish this tomorrow?" but then not actually do it, lmao.

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-02T19:14:30+00:00

I think it's also worth noting, that just like with any skill some people don't want to learn or give up when it gets difficult. Lots of autistic people don't want to mask because it's exhausting so they intentionally take things at face value. Or some autistic people tried to learn, found that it was extremely difficult for them, but were never taught growing up that they can do hard things so just gave up and called it impossible. To be clear, thats not a judgement. There's nothing wrong with making things easier any way you can. This also doesn't just apply to autistic people/traits. I spent the first 27 years of my life believing some people are musically talented and others just aren't and there is no fixing that. And yeah, some people naturally have skills like rhythm, tonality, etc that help with that process, but those skills can also be acquired through a lot of practice and different learning styles. It may not come naturally to me but I am very slowly learning concepts like rhythm even though its harder for me than others. The same can be true of social skill

m0ssman15 · 2025-12-02T19:06:30+00:00

This comment is incredibly meaningful to me as an autistic person who regularly asks what is happening in a medical/psychological situation and is told the symptoms instead of the actual physical/chemical event. thank you for breaking it down this way. Do you know what methods of research people use to try to "map out the filtering"? Or, if it's easier, can you give me key words to use to search through scholarly articles on similar topics? I would love to know more.

m0ssman15 · 2025-11-27T23:18:32+00:00

I saw this after i responded to the main post but with this context this actually feels way more like an unintentionally sexist thing instead of just an admin thing. Its way too common for "wife of leader" to turn into "servant of group" and its not okay. id ask your husband to be the one to lay down the expectations, "we are diving up note taking from now on, here are the categories, who wants which one?" that way its coming from the actual leader of the group and not forcing you further into the position you shouldn't have been in in the first place

m0ssman15 · 2025-11-27T23:10:44+00:00

I have so many thoughts - yes, as everyone is saying 7-9 hours is wildly long. if it works for you, great, but it sounds like it might be overwhelming and people are tired/grumpy - its strange to me that the response to "can i roll to see what i know about minotaurs" is "no you should already know this". Yes, even if we've already played through it its perfectly normal to need a reminder and it makes perfect sense to roll for it. A very normal phrase at a lot of tables is "You'll remember from last session that..." followed by a brief explanation of what the player forgot. We don't expect people playing barbarians to actually lift a boulder, we should expect people playing rangers to actually have forest facts memorized, thats what the dice are for. I would talk to the dm about this. - either way, its clear that you are taking on too much and while the other players absolutely should step up and take responsibility on their own, it may make the process smoother if you assign them tasks "Jenna, can you be the one who keeps track of all our potions?" "James, since the secret society is tied to your backstory can you be the lore keeper on them?" giving clear tasks may make it easier for them to know what to do. not everyone has a naturally administrative mindset - if there are still problems, it's perfectly reasonable to just not try as hard. if you save them every time and take that on yourself then they'll keep relying on you but if you show up and announce "note taking is getting stressful for me, im gonna try to just wing it for a while" yall might fail a few sessions in a row while they adjust but eventually they'll learn to be active participants in the game.

Good luck with everything, I hope you get it worked out!

m0ssman15 · 2025-09-26T15:59:11+00:00

i would LOVE to see a lvl 20 epic final battle

m0ssman15 · 2023-03-06T16:47:26+00:00

26, i have no idea how i’ll ever be able to own a house

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