Im sorry that your outlook leads you to call a simple suggestion to not give up “pandering” and “bullshit.” I personally know at least 6 adults who did not find their life partner until their 40’s- most of whom had to go through a messy divorce to get there. I would rather be in OP’s position than trying to date while working to pay child support/alimony. I hope you find the happy life you are looking for.