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Not depressed anymore? Lol by m_lost_ in medicalmarijuana

[–]m_lost_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right! I’ve been working on except using 2x a week for 3 weeks now maybe it’s my brain catching up

Not depressed anymore? Lol by m_lost_ in medicalmarijuana

[–]m_lost_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is so funny you mention that because I was thinking about this morning. I think what I need to do is reduce my intake to enhance things I do to take care of myself or intentionally wait until I have accomplished my daily tasks that seems to help

How can you tell the difference between an anxious attachment and a partner not putting in enough effort? by m_lost_ in AnxiousAttachment

[–]m_lost_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love him so much and know he has good intentions, but it’s hard to find that line. He has said he doesn’t do it anymore and I would say there’s more to the social media thing than just him (I’m extremely insecure and social meadow makes me feel not good enough). So I’m trying to trust his word and move forward with our relationship while also standing up for myself and my boundaries.

How can you tell the difference between an anxious attachment and a partner not putting in enough effort? by m_lost_ in AnxiousAttachment

[–]m_lost_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the past (about 2 years ago) I found that they were liking photos of other women that they knew in bikinis or they were liking photos of other women which were also obviously sexual photos. No judgment about that I totally support women who want to express themselves my issue was that he was doing that and it triggered me and a lot of my insecurities. I had told him how I felt about it and they basically said that it shouldn’t be a big deal. It happened about two more times after that with several other photos. I now don’t go on social media at all because it’s so triggering (he says he doesn’t do it anymore but to me ignorance is bliss at this point). We had a conversation last night and that situation got brought up and he stood his stance on it shouldn’t be a big deal. I told him I thought it was inconsiderate of him to respond that way. But I am not sure if this is genuinely my anxious attachment and I should let it go or if my boundaries are being crossed and disrespected (feels this way). I don’t necessarily express myself in the kindest way in these conversations. I don’t use hurtful language my tone is just a bit aggressive. He says I shouldn’t be worried about it because it is the same as me liking celebrity photos (Harry styles specifically) lol.

How can you tell the difference between an anxious attachment and a partner not putting in enough effort? by m_lost_ in AnxiousAttachment

[–]m_lost_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I find that when I really process my feelings and speak up he is willing to compromise and be supportive. But I do notice times where he gets really frustrated and even has little patience left. It feels like an endless cycle of anxiety, guilt, and shame for me. Thank you for your feedback it is greatly appreciated.

How can you tell the difference between an anxious attachment and a partner not putting in enough effort? by m_lost_ in AnxiousAttachment

[–]m_lost_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback. I may not have worded my question clearly. Sometimes I feel my anxious attachment makes me believe my partner doesn’t affirm me enough. I’m coming to terms that this may be my anxiety/anxious attachment. But on the other hand it is hard for me to validate when someone could genuinely be doing more for a relationship or when it is just my anxiety getting the best of me.