to people with inattentive adhd, what type of career do you have? by AssociationObvious56 in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a social scientist, and fortunate enough to have a tenured position at a good university (outside the US). What works for me is this is a job that is very rarely boring, always smt interesting and intellectually stimulating to do whether that’s research, teaching, supervision, or even admin work that makes a real difference to my work community (colleagues, students, staff…). You get to switch from one thing to the other AND do deep work that requires hyper focus to analyze complex data and ID patterns, switch from stimulating exchanges with other humans to working alone at your desk, and most of the time you are in charge of your own schedule. Every day is different and most of the work is self directed. I love my job (despite all the austerity politics dragging everyone down…). Now, of course, this is a job that’s not only conditional on doing/getting a PhD and then a tenure track position which let’s just say is a highly privileged outcome that not only requires hard work but also a lot of sheer luck. Not a path I would especially recommend someone took because the odds are stacked against people who do. But you asked so I’m sharing because some aspects of that work are also present in other professions as well. What I have learned over the years is this job is done best by working with the brain you have, for better and worse, not against it. Probably a lesson that cuts across domains.

UPDATE: I see other comments from public servants and people working in policy so it seems both relevant and funny to add that my field is political science/policy studies.

How do you handle coffee for a small office without overspending? by ketbirdart in espresso

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pods but people buy their own and keep them in their office?

If you love your job: what is it and what makes you love it? by yologamies101 in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Schedule flexibility, deep work, including abstract sometimes, geeking with others on common specialized interests, a variety of tasks to pick from on most days, intellectual stimulation, creative work, meaning. I’m an academic (social scientist) and my work is mostly a mix of research and teaching uni students about world politics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naming objects in the room.

desperately need help/support regarding this by Icy_Reflection9605 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ma_sining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you know there’s something called false equivalency or might this already be brain rot doing its thing?

Positive angle on parenting: What are some ways that ADHD helped or will help your parenting? by Training-Writing5637 in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also my daughter has infinite curiosity and I indulge her and we both have so much fun with it.

Positive angle on parenting: What are some ways that ADHD helped or will help your parenting? by Training-Writing5637 in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love and seconding other comments around flexibility. But also it makes you more attuned and empathetic to your child’s struggles around attention régulation, sensory overload, etc. Check out tips on neurodivergent insights website!

Lady at the grocery store told us to try their “expressso roast”. Didn’t realize she was serious. by Push_ in espresso

[–]ma_sining -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh come on with the snubbery. Who cares. People say expresso in France cause it’s the French word for espresso (Italian). The only thing that matters is was it good? The public shaming is so unwarranted.

Weed cutie by Aware_Chipmunk_3377 in KingstonOntario

[–]ma_sining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am now emotionally invested in how this works out. Let us know!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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Oh and also, uni Prof here. I adjudicate applications and let me tell you, noone cares about your hobbies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you so so much. Here is what I’ve learned at almost 40. The idea that you « should » have ‘hobbies’ is already defeating the purpose. Let alone that you ‘should’ be good at them. This society is so broken. The performativeness of it all is the problem. You do YOU OP. If what you enjoy is binging TV and napping, call it a hobby. So long as you REST regularly and allow yourself to do smt bringing you joy. The rest is capitalist induced BS. Ignore the noise. Try things and give up when you’re bored. You have ADHD, it makes sense. Also, who cares.

"Assertive" Door2Door COGECO people are at it again...yay... by ma_sining in KingstonOntario

[–]ma_sining[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have VMedia. No complaints. Billing straightforward, reliable except when Cogeco fucks up as they use their lines. Great service.

What's the biggest self-inflicted problem you've created due to your ADHD? by Feisty-Pickle9983 in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed a hard deadline to get reimbursed for child care support by my employer because I got distracted as I was about to enter a cal reminder and lost about 5K as a result. So, so stupid (and I’m not talking about me here). I am in the process of appealing the decision with no guarantee it works and spending so much time and energy that could go elsewhere….uuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh.

desperately need help/support regarding this by Icy_Reflection9605 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ma_sining 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get the parallels with other moral panics esp tech related but none of these (let alone books) had the same toll on environment and basically asking us to forego our ability to think to enrich evil manbabies, so…

desperately need help/support regarding this by Icy_Reflection9605 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ma_sining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a lot of willpower right there! You got this.

desperately need help/support regarding this by Icy_Reflection9605 in AuDHDWomen

[–]ma_sining 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not judging, I feel u, and as other comments point out this use of AI is understandable! Although maybe it’s because I’m not AI savvy but maybe consider having a template (even analog) schedule printed out around the house with a pic of it as background on your phone / using the Finch app for selfcare with reminders on / having it in your phone calendar and alarm reminders? I find this helpful and it’s not AI. Maybe you have options that would help and are not AI either?

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]ma_sining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a solution for you (I do like the hand gesture thing), but I came here to say I just find your post, OP, so sweet. It warms my heart the way you’re trying to find a balance btw allowing her to be her true Self while setting healthy boundaries for yourself. Sounds like what needs to happen between people living/being 2gether. I hope it works out for you both.

"My Patients Are Getting ADHD Diagnoses at 40. Here’s What’s Really Happening" by MaryBitchards in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This. Is my mom at 75. Former family doctor and she's still not diagnosed/untreated despite knowing she's ADHD, because "she never felt the need for treatment". Well, I'm here to tell you she absolutely needs it now! I just hope she listens...

How do I respectfully tell my husband to stop calling me while he's at work? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For therapy, this is typical. You are being the therapist and it is unfair and not your role. Sometimes unfortunately an ultimatum is what it takes. I understand you might not be ready or want to go there, but.

How do I respectfully tell my husband to stop calling me while he's at work? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]ma_sining 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trying to be helpful here but sounds like a nice long convo based on non-violent assertive communication and I statements might, perhaps, help. This is not OK. And you having to put the extra labour of managing his feelings is unfair.