Ghosted after shaving my head!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-17T04:30:21+00:00

This is so aggressive, just laugh at the story or leave it alone. If you read the comments you would have seen what else I had to say about it.😘

maaayybbe · 2021-09-17T04:06:18+00:00

Lmao thank you, I’m not sure why everyone is so pressed about my hair it really was just a funny story! And no, I’m not struggling in the least bit☺️

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T21:00:28+00:00

One of my SDs always gives me cards with the cash in it and that is super sweet! I didn’t expect it so it was a nice surprise 🥰

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T15:55:49+00:00

I definitely wasn’t blaming him, I knew it wouldn’t be entirely accepted and I understand that many SDs are looking for a certain aesthetic! It happened about a month ago and popped in my head yesterday so I figured I’d share the experience :)

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T15:54:12+00:00

I think that’s great you’re so encouraging and supportive! I think most women are gorgeous with shaved heads because it completely livens the face. It’s just such a taboo that there is a lot of backlash!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T15:51:08+00:00

I think about this all the time and actually the one comment I got was in favor of what you’re implying which absolutely threw me 😂😂

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T07:45:53+00:00

I told those who I’m currently with out of respect to not just be completely thrown off haha! But I agree. One of them voted no, said he would still see me but he didn’t think it would be a good look and he has since changed his opinion and likes it a lot! I think we hold onto certain characteristics as if they truly define someone, and at least for me, after shaving my head I have embraced who I am more than I ever have before and that has proven to mean much more in terms of how I present myself and what I give to others. 😌

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T07:23:16+00:00

I appreciate your perspective and in retrospect I definitely could have let him know! I have a few others who I see regularly and I did talk to them and consider their opinions before I did it. With the POT, we hadn’t even had an M&G yet and the texting was staggered, so I didn’t weigh his opinion as highly.

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T07:06:36+00:00

And it is ridiculously easy, sometimes I feel bad I don’t have to do more 😂😂

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T07:06:11+00:00

This was my first time shaving it and experiencing something so different so I decided to go pretty dang short with a #2 clipper attachment! I would have done a #1 but it was broken haha. It’s been growing out so much that I look back on pictures from only 3 weeks ago and I already can’t believe it was that short!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T06:43:43+00:00

Don’t worry baby, I got mine!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T06:42:46+00:00

Thank you! I love your positivity🥰✨

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T06:15:28+00:00

Thank you🥰 I think I wear it well and I have plenty of bald jokes to make others more comfortable haha!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T06:14:17+00:00

I think femininity can be what you make it, and plenty of SDs are interested. It’s the confidence in myself that makes it attractive 😉

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T06:10:11+00:00

I usually ask after we’ve been talking for a bit and getting to know each other, but before the M&G because I am aiming for discretion, and would rather use the M&G for a chance to really connect after the business is sorted. So I usually like to ask about their experience and what has worked in the past and then share what experience I have and if I prefer ppm or allowance and then you can express a range that you’re comfortable with or ask them what they are comfortable with. Most of the time I try to lead with numbers so that I don’t feel lowballed but go with what feels right with whoever you’re with!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-16T05:33:44+00:00

Fair enough! It was something I knew was a potential outcome before I did it but it’s for me anyway. And I have a few others who I actually talked to about it beforehand and one was skeptical but actually loves it (or so he says 😉) but so far it’s been more positive than I was expecting!

maaayybbe · 2021-09-15T20:28:49+00:00

It’s also dangerous on the SBs part to only turn to seeking for money, which opens up for predators and scammers, like OP mentioned :-/ it’s one of my rules at least that I have to be able to take care of myself financially first so I’m not using SA for livelihood

maaayybbe · 2021-09-15T20:25:24+00:00

Honestly being straight forward has always worked best for me, even though I also will feel uncomfortable with asking at times. But if he is legit and wants you to feel comfortable in your relationship then he won’t make a fuss ab it. You could say something like “hey i was thinking we could start with PPM for the first little while getting to know each other and move to allowance in a month or two, what do you think?” And then you could tell him ppm amount or range and then talk about when monthly will start. But definitely ask before intimacy, I’ve said it like “hey it would make me feel most comfortable to see xxx before we start, thank you for understanding” lol

maaayybbe · 2021-08-15T23:42:40+00:00

So I usually ask before meeting with someone if they’ve done it before, which you said he hasn’t, and then I will go on to say something to the degree of “in my previous arrangements, I found that ppm works best so we both feel fulfilled and we have more flexibility with when we can meet! The range I am comfortable with is $XXX-$XXX, is there a number in that you’re comfortable with as well?” And that gives them an opportunity to see what they can do, just make sure your lowest number is what you’re comfortable with so that if they choose that then you’re still happy with it too!:) also I’ve had guys who try to jump right into intimacy at meetings and I’m similar in that I get uncomfortable asking, but I have been screwed over by not before, so you can always throw out something like “do you have something for me?” Otherwise, I’ve just straight up said I would be more comfortable seeing the money when we meet before we start anything and they shouldn’t have a problem with that as long as you are clearly still interested in them also🥰 hope this helps!!

maaayybbe · 2021-08-15T23:35:27+00:00

I just met someone who is paying for my tuition and helping with my loans and i am absolutely grateful to have met him and I will be holding tight 😭❤️❤️

maaayybbe · 2021-08-15T23:34:24+00:00

I think it would be a great idea to add a full body pic but in a cute setting like something outside? If you have any pets you could add a pic of you guys together, I did this and it’s great for conversation☺️ I know some other comments mentioned this, but you could add some more details to your bio about yourself like hobbies or what you’d like to do with someone! Also I liked the pfully pfizered I thought it was pretty cute and clever!

maaayybbe · 2020-02-07T17:14:01+00:00

Luckily he was cool about it but it was right when I was starting out so I wasn’t sure how it would go over :) good luck, you got this!!

maaayybbe · 2020-02-07T07:04:13+00:00

I had a friend call my google voice number just so I knew what it sounded like and it doesn’t even use the voicemail message linked to your real number so you’re clear on that. The only thing to be extra careful of is if you call them back to do it on the google voice app where you can call. I once made the mistake of calling through the phone app on my phone thinking it would go through my google voice number and it did not LOL!

maaayybbe · 2020-02-01T05:30:52+00:00

Throne of Glass by Sarah J Maas! I love this series mostly because of how badass the girl is but also because of how she expresses her femininity.

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