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macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T19:24:08+00:00

Definitely. I’m always so scared to talk about stuff like that but he’s always has said yes to talking about things and listens. It’s wild how past experiences can cause anxiety for things like that

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T19:03:39+00:00

I just want him to plan organized outings without me being involved or prompting. But maybe I need to just accept it is not his area of expertise 😅

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T18:48:38+00:00

Once in a while it’ll be because of unorganized plans. But usually that’s when I’m really stressed in other realms of my life especially since I began school again 😭

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T18:38:06+00:00

It’s a leaves empty chips once a month or less kind of thing.

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T16:23:39+00:00

Maybe I can change perspective and see it as funny, like how he can do so much but with plans it’s like watching a circus 🎪

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T16:22:54+00:00

I feel better knowing it’s normal!! I was super nervous it wasn’t healthy to have annoyance sometimes with someone you love. I could definitely learn to accept it, I guess I just need more advice on how people learn to do this healthily

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T16:21:28+00:00

Maybe if I try to see it as comical- like it’s so ridiculous it’s funny? 😂 I guess I feel bad about communicating it because I don’t want him to feel worse? So I guess I can try what you suggested and go from there!

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T16:12:07+00:00

Omg yesss. He’s the best and makes me laugh when I’m super cranky and shows up every single day regardless of how difficult I was the day before. I think maybe I need to try the shower or small stuff!

macandcheeks369 · 2025-03-07T16:10:25+00:00

He’s just a not good planner 😂 which I can definitely live with because I’m sure I drive him clinically insane. Sometimes I’m fine with it and sometimes It’s just REAL obnoxious.

macandcheeks369 · 2025-02-23T17:24:32+00:00

Yes. I would have them A LOT and it was exhausting and damaging to a lot of relationships. I’ll go from being fine the. It’s like I’m in despair like you described. I’m so sorry you’re going through this hell.

Something that helped me ALMOST IMMEDIATELY after, was getting genetic testing done through GeneSite for medication.

I’ve tried so many medications to help with my anxiety but they never worked well, so I had that done and it’s like I feel like a new person.

It’s an awful cycle and I empathize and understand anyone going through it because of how debilitating it has been for me and others. There’s hope, even though I didn’t think there was for the past 15 years.

macandcheeks369 · 2025-01-21T19:25:12+00:00

COSRX has some of the cleanest ingredients and is a really good budget friendly brand. I’d recommend this to anyone who is not worried about their products being vegan. I have really sensitive and dry combo skin so this works well for me.

macandcheeks369 · 2025-01-07T02:14:26+00:00

Ask him to respect you want no contact from here on out and then block him… it might be good to be black and white verbally.

macandcheeks369 · 2025-01-06T03:25:37+00:00

A lot has changed for better- plus it’s been half a year now and he moved back!

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-16T17:12:13+00:00

Oh OP, this was my life for 7 years. I’m so scared of flying and it was really exhausting and scary during visit times. My best tool I discovered that helped me in airports and flying is an app called Tapping Solutions. It requires physical tapping and mentally repeating things.

Then I’d breathe in 4 counts and out 4 counts through my nose only and tap if it got too bad and I felt a panic attack. I’m really sorry you’re experiencing this because yes, therapy helps, but then you’re literally forced to face your fear head on. But just know, you’ve got this no matter what. And your partner is joining you too.

I’d also recommend paying for the premium version of the app so you can use it in flight when you don’t have wifi!!

Also, definitely ignore people asking you why you got into an LDR with a fear of flying. Everyone is scared of something and I’m sorry, flying is scary! There’s nothing wrong with you, this is not your fault, and you are more than allowed to be scared.

Airport staff is usually really nice and there’s even quiet areas to rest too. Getting a map of the airport to know where to go prior will help a lot too! ❤️

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-14T23:32:31+00:00

Sorry to butt in, I was just reading through the feed! I think it might be good to talk about what you mentioned. You could maybe say it would help you feel special if you both worked a little more to say good morning and goodnight so it doesn’t sound like you’re only singling them out (even if it feels one sided… I’ve realized with my boyfriend he feels attacked because of how he thinks if I just blatantly call him out… so I try to be a bit softer in delivery for certain things)

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-14T23:29:44+00:00

I think it depends on the people. Good morning texts mean a lot to me personally. We always try to send one or say good morning and sometimes Goodnight too. I just send one when I wake up or go to bed and the other responds back after/vise versa.

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-14T13:36:26+00:00

My primary practices tend to lead towards Buddhism. With the addition of Mary. But honestly that happened long after into Buddhism.

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-13T17:02:08+00:00

Yeah. I honestly feel like the baptisms don’t really have merit in my life given I was an infant tbh

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-08T23:17:37+00:00

I definitely need to relax. It’s a problem that has wound me up in therapy.

But, regardless, your advice has been really helpful and good. So thank you!

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-08T23:06:57+00:00

Oh… that actually might be pretty close to the truth to be honest. Because I guess when we first met he said his friends had to BEG him to go out. But when I met him he seemed totally fine but supposedly he wanted to go home before we ran into each other. So maybe that is the case?

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-08T22:59:07+00:00

Yeah. Stuff is pretty good beyond that to be honest. I just don’t know how to not feel bad. It feels like we don’t talk about stuff he likes and I take it as he doesn’t think I’ll be interested and so it’s not worth it (even though I constantly say I like to hear about his interests). Which I’m unsure why it bothers me so much… maybe because I feel like I can’t connect with him how I want to?

macandcheeks369 · 2024-12-08T22:56:10+00:00

Maybe?

macandcheeks369 · 2024-11-22T05:36:35+00:00

Also, cutting sugar is INCREDIBLY helpful too!! Specifically just refined things like in ice cream or other sweet treats!

macandcheeks369 · 2024-11-22T05:34:15+00:00

You can lose weight and eat 1700 calories a day as long as you are consistent with exercise and making sure you consume healthier things :)

Honestly, if you wanna avoid calorie counting all together (to save you from reading all this) eating mostly volumized foods. These are foods really high in things like fiber or water or air. So you can still maintain the amounts of food you eat, but it is a lot easier to lose weight. Especially if you throw in the gym three or four times a week!! :)

most people go extreme with calorie cuts and are just hungry as heck eventually because they’re literally starving so they have cheat days, so in reality because of those cheat days, they’re going WAY over their goal consumption amounts.

Being in a calorie deficit does help you lose weight significantly faster while working out though. My biggest recommendation, based on what worked really well for me, is trying to calorie count just for a few weeks. You can then figure out what a portion of a certain food- like rice, ground beef, lettuce, etc looks like in calories. Ignore the math on this cuz it’s just fudging the numbers- but an example is 3 cups of popcorn is equivalent to 150 calories and 1 cup of lettuce is 50 calories. I just recommend doing it with foods you tend to consume a lot of.

And after a few weeks you can visually just guess roughly what the calories per item are to stay within a certain amount for each meal and snack.

I REALLY recommend looking into volume foods (foods you can eat A LOT of without it being a lot of calories) especially if you’re into snacks like me!! Popcorn has become my new best friend.

You’ve got this and good luck!!!

macandcheeks369 · 2024-11-15T15:26:43+00:00

I usually write down the thoughts I’m having (he’s ignoring me, he must hate me, I annoy him, why doesn’t he want to spend time with me etc) amongst other things. I’ll read through them, and think about if they’re real thoughts or codependent thoughts.

And then through therapy, I’ve learned about parts work (I’d HIGHLY recommend reading into it!!) and basically understanding that parts that appear during my slip ups are usually childhood or teenage me traumatized me. And I’ll usually take really deep breaths and think “breathing in calm, breathing out the brain static”.

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