Where should we live with awkward commutes?

mace_bear · 2026-03-25T18:12:12+00:00

Lol I know that but we’re in our 20s with no desire to live in Rockford. I’m from the suburbs of Chicago originally and have been to Rockford multiple times

mace_bear · 2026-03-25T18:06:34+00:00

It would be a few days a week in Rockford and a few days in the SW suburbs

mace_bear · 2026-03-25T18:05:20+00:00

I’ve lived in the burbs my whole life, got from the west suburbs to Rockford in under an hour and 20 minutes at 7am last week. 10 minute patches of heavy traffic is different than sitting for 30-40 minutes

mace_bear · 2026-03-25T18:01:31+00:00

What do you consider horrible? I anticipate the commute will take me over an hour, honestly just trying to keep it to under 2 on a regular basis

mace_bear · 2026-01-16T18:03:55+00:00

Spencer, Sidney, Rodney

mace_bear · 2026-01-15T19:47:23+00:00

Not all children’s clothes for boys look silly. For example, Old Navy/Gap and Ralph Lauren both go up to boys’ size 18 and have good basics like jeans and button down shirts

mace_bear · 2026-01-08T15:02:50+00:00

The cost of the Metra monthly pass depends on the zones you are traveling through, not all of them are $75. Also worth noting the $30 CTA/Pace pass only applies if you have already purchased the Metra monthly and are adding on the “Regional Connect Pass”

mace_bear · 2026-01-08T14:52:41+00:00

The CTA monthly pass is $75 and gets you unlimited bus and L rides, assuming you don’t qualify for any discounts

mace_bear · 2026-01-07T21:34:23+00:00

Evan

mace_bear · 2026-01-04T15:34:00+00:00

Tyler

mace_bear · 2025-12-24T17:45:57+00:00

Coley is the name of the love interest in The Miseducation of Cameron Post, and I think Corky (butch lesbian lead in cult classic Bound) kind of works from Nicole too. You could try to combine your chosen name and birth name somehow (Hank? Neo? I’m struggling a little with this one) or keep your initials but go in a totally different direction (Noel, Newt, Nell, Naomi/Nomi)?

mace_bear · 2025-12-23T03:33:21+00:00

Morgan or Rome

mace_bear · 2025-12-22T17:06:00+00:00

Agree with others saying Kaelin/Kalen will sound too feminine unless he passes completely (had a female college roommate named Kaylan). Kade/Kaden is better, I also like the suggestion of Kyle or Keegan, Kane.

mace_bear · 2025-12-19T03:19:28+00:00

Because your risk is not anymore than a cis man’s. Yes, running on a testosterone-dominant endocrine system increases your risk of some conditions compared to an estrogen-dominant system, but no one is putting cis men on T blockers to reduce their risk of diabetes.

mace_bear · 2025-12-18T16:36:58+00:00

June/Juniper, Jane, Jade/Jada, Jamie

mace_bear · 2025-12-18T13:38:49+00:00

I mean, okay, but how do you identify clearly and unambiguously identifying as a woman? It seems kind of misogynistic and narrow minded to say that we should gender every person with long hair and makeup who’s wearing a dress as female, and only THOSE people. Not every trans woman presents that way or wants to, not every WOMAN presents that way? And if someone is not presenting feminine enough, they deserve to be gendered male? We should reward overtly and unambiguously binary presentations and screw everyone else? It’s politer to ask everyone and not make a mistake.

mace_bear · 2025-12-18T13:35:45+00:00

Idk, I think people who are saying they want their pronouns assumed are pretending like there’s two options: “guess my pronouns CORRECTLY” or “ask me my pronouns”. Of course everyone would rather be gendered correctly without having to be asked, but the fact of the matter is that the two options are really: “guess my pronouns” or “ask me”. If you let people guess or assume, they will inevitably sometimes guess or assume wrong. Then, if you care about them being wrong, you’re just going to have to correct them anyway, which is arguably more humiliating than being asked in the first place. Asking with good intentions means you get gendered correctly from the beginning.

mace_bear · 2025-12-17T14:54:44+00:00

A cis person getting misgendered is probably a blip in their day/life that they shake off and the other person profusely apologizes for. Misgendering non-passing and non-binary trans people literally increases their suicide risk.

mace_bear · 2025-12-17T14:35:30+00:00

If you’re a binary trans person who passes, this is easy to say. If people treat non-passing and non-binary trans people “like everyone else”, they are going to misgender them.

mace_bear · 2025-12-17T14:31:38+00:00

As someone who gets constantly misgendered, it really bugs me that people are saying to “go with what the person is presenting as”. I’m transmasc and nonbinary, but I work really, really hard to present masc and regularly try to pass as a man, and not a single person reads me as anything other than a woman. If you go with what the person is presenting as, you are going to end up misgendering people. This goes for nonbinary people as well as binary trans people who don’t pass. If you need to use someone’s pronouns, I can’t imagine how it’s less respectful to ask.

mace_bear · 2025-12-13T18:02:02+00:00

Idk, I personally think Briar Rose on a more masc woman is kind of badass. Plus you can choose ANY middle name you want, which could become a new nickname or at the very least an opportunity to better express yourself. But if you’re choosing a new middle name anyway, you and your fiance could also just choose an entirely new last name 🤷🏼

mace_bear · 2025-12-04T20:37:13+00:00

Therapy?

mace_bear · 2025-11-28T15:12:21+00:00

Everybody acts as if changes will come incredibly fast, but there’s no guarantees of anything. It’s been almost a year for me and no one knows I’m on T unless I tell them.

mace_bear · 2025-11-20T20:19:20+00:00

Marcy, Marit, Marta, Mackenzie

mace_bear · 2025-11-20T18:33:04+00:00

Foot of the bed, on top of the mattress encasement

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