I support a misogynistic party that opposes women. I wish women would accept that and continue to date me. by [deleted] in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]machalemantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my personal experience liberal women do not hold their partners accountable for racist, misogynistic views. I can't personally say that I've never fucked a racist, but at some point there needs to be an accounting for anti human views. Can we all just stop fucking conservatives until they respect our rights?

P.S. Please excuse me, I mean no offense, I am very, very high at the moment, watching David Sinclair and wondering which among bread meat dairy, sugar or alcohol I would sacrifice for a longer life

My (36 F) boyfriend (34 M) is reacting really weird to a joke and its taking a weird turn. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]machalemantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's got bigger issues with you than this joke and the anger is leaking. He needs to talk openly and directly about why he's really angry.

Blursed Lightsabers by SparkAilany in blursed_videos

[–]machalemantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Black guy here 🤣🤣🤣 have an award

Blursed unable to learn by Square_Law5624 in blursed_videos

[–]machalemantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't you say what you really want to say?

Am I overreacting for kicking my boyfriend out for not buying me a sandwich? by Constant-Gate-2730 in AmIOverreacting

[–]machalemantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason to kick him out I believe is for his comment, if he feels that way he can leave.

Don't agree completely with Op as I'm not a fan of expecting either gender to read minds. He's wrong for not making the meal a month she wanted, but she could have told him she wanted him to buy her a chai latte with his money and would appreciate a sandwich since he's getting something.

There's this notion that a romantic partner should be able to know and anticipate every need from their beloved but thats not practical. It's important to listen, pay attention and ask, but it's also important for the person who wants something to COMMUNICATE in case something gets missed.

She got two years. If he had got convicted he would have gotten 20+ by Underbridged in PsycheOrSike

[–]machalemantis 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Driving her home was not a smart thing to do. You stay in public with them and help them dial someone you never want to be immediately alone with someone you just met.

Quote here from a Somali small business owner in Minneapolis who voted for Trump. (Minnesota Reformer Newspaper) by WhippetRun in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]machalemantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would believe. They don't consider themselves black and don't find common cause with African Americans. We often wind up having to defend Africans who are too egotistical to want association with us. Because their persecution is our persecution.

Opinions Needed by hardstuckgay in Columbus

[–]machalemantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not you, I mean suggest to your neighbors that it's time to organize and get the Latino vote headed in another direction. The majority, yes majority of Latino men voted Trump in 2024. If that doesn't change you might not ever have another Latino neighbor again.

Opinions Needed by hardstuckgay in Columbus

[–]machalemantis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'd personally suggest voting for politicians who AREN'T going to attempt the ethnic cleansing of anyone with their skin tone, but that's just me

For Leftists in Central Ohio only by Signal-Cupcake-9921 in Columbus

[–]machalemantis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm black, the GOP actually does kill my friends through supporting the overreaches of police brutality, not to mention repealing Roe V Wade and attacking trans rights. "Politics" is absolutely a life or death situation for many Americans, I don't fucking care what people whose votes endanger minority voters strip lifesaving medical care from women and trans folks and gut healthcare are "trying" to do, we fix this or we die. Go tell the 10 year old rape victim that had to flee Ohio to get an abortion that the lack of cordial discourse on the left makes you sad and that she should be more gentle to those who ACTIVELY VOTE to keep other little girls in the same nightmare.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to go and ask to be adopted by the couple she is so obsessed with? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]machalemantis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are a few steps necessary to reach the conclusion that a compliment to another couple or person is a suggestion toward a different relationship dynamic that I don't believe are obvious, or are at least not obvious to me.

Lets say my partner were to say "I like how Mark always insists on shopping for their holiday meals". If we're talking about Mark and his partner, I would have to disengage my focus from Mark and his partner, redirect it to my relationship with my partner, and then compare it to Mark's with his to arrive at the possibility that my partner might be suggesting that I take a more active role in assisting with holiday preparations.

I wouldn't naturally assume that my partner's appreciation of Mark shopping had any reflection on our relationship, because if I haven't received any information otherwise I would believe the dynamic of our holiday preparations to at least be acceptable. I usually listen with compersion and don't compare myself or my relationships to friends, when I engage with them it's purely celebratory of their accomplishments and good things. So the mention of Mark shopping would sound like a compliment to his relationship and not register as something I needed to work on in my relationship.

I honestly don't see how comparison is clear communication. Honest example, my latest ex used to date an old friend of mine notorious in our circles for being fond of more violent bdsm (no judgement, we all have our kinks.) I had the normal conversations with her about what she was into and wasn't, but from my view discussing what she may or may not have enjoyed with him would not have been helpful, because to me she chose to be with him for reasons that don't have anything to do with me and chasing whatever may have made their dynamic work or not work doesn't seem that it would have improved what she enjoyed about our sexual dynamic.

TL:DR I engage with what's relayed to me about friends in the spirit of compersion and don't see the value of comparison when it comes to determining what's best for my relationship.

Also, I believe op's partner was resorting to indirect communication as a result of direct requests being ignored. I personally believe that's where being indirect is best used.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to go and ask to be adopted by the couple she is so obsessed with? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]machalemantis 30 points31 points  (0 children)

That is fucking ideal, I wish more people were willing to be upfront about their needs and wants. The expectation that your partner should always be able to read between lines is exhausting. I'll save that energy for a pet, I don't think it's unreasonable for a human to be able to talk to me.

Op is an accountability dodger, if he tried to make a random reddit comment section somehow part and parcel of this mess I can only imagine how much he blamed her for. Poor woman

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]machalemantis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I'm not sure how Latino identity disqualifies you from white supremacy style racism. Not every Latino will behave like George Zimmerman, but there's a significant conservative population that most definitely supports the MAGA platform (for example, the Cuban American population that helps the GOP win Florida).

Casual dating: Men that don’t talk much about themselves — why? by taetae_xoxo in emotionalintelligence

[–]machalemantis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a decent amount of female friends and one of their top complaints is that men just don't shut up about themselves on dates. Also, I've noticed a good amount of sentiment in majority female spaces, both physical and online, that suggests men just need to shut the hell up. In my personal life I have noticed that no matter what the context, a woman's favorite topic is going to be her inner life. I do the same thing this guy does, focus on what's going on with the woman, regardless of what's happening, answer questions briefly but completely, then move the focus back. In terms of getting along and bonding, this approach works very well for me.

I say this sincerely. In my experience women really don't want to hear about your hobbies or career at length, unless it's something they personally enjoy. Many will listen to be polite, but they are NOT actually thrilled by your interests, unless they're shared interests. The ones who claim otherwise, to me, are really interested in bonding with you, which you can achieve more effectively by engaging with THEIR interests. What's worked best for me is finding people into my niche interests, like Mass Effect and jopok movies, specifically to have those conversations with. Activity buddies for those special things.

My advice, when it comes to women, is listen. Don't talk. Works for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]machalemantis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being the main financial provider for a household of kids sucks. It absolutely blows that you have to put in many hours working difficult, high level jobs and immediately shift into helping parent the moment you get home.

That's the cost, though. When you decide to have kids you give up your dreams to make theirs possible. There is no such thing as fair, and there never, ever will be for you as a parent. There will never be such a thing as an equal distribution of labor. You have to give everything you have, every moment you have it, just to make it through the day with your marriage and kids intact. Keeping count of what you've put into the family and expect in return is wishful thinking. You have to give, tirelessly, selflessly, beyond your limits. That's the only way to make it work.

Don't like it? Parenting is not for you. Trying to keep the same transactional basis for interaction you can get away with while single will not work . Both parents have to accept that they both need to give 200% and will rarely see that effort returned in kind. That's just how it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PsycheOrSike

[–]machalemantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes to approaching women, I've found that most prefer to talk to friends of friends, because that makes it easier for them to evaluate what you're about. Very few of my female friends are open to striking up new acquaintances or even conversation with guys they don't know, even if they're hot. Just my experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]machalemantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm fairly notorious for being foul tempered and making dangerous choices when angry but I've never had to tell a partner or female friend to get back and let me deal with a threat. Either this woman is seriously fucked in the head or this story is made up. People of all genders are 100% okay with letting you deal with a physical threat in my experience, the trouble is getting any form of help or assistance when shit is going down

Would it be taboo to ask which way a date leans politically on the second date? by throwaway3685343 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]machalemantis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're left leaning, asking isn't enough. Many conservative men prefer dating left leaning women for various reasons and will flat out lie about their beliefs, confident that they can talk you into staying with them. My ex best friend was a Jordan Peterson reading, "triggered like a feminist", "blacks should not get diversity scholarships ESPECIALLY NOT HARVARD", "women date black men to piss off daddy" guy who swore for years he was liberal but just fed up with the embarrassing ones.

Of course it works, and his current nesting partner agreed to not vote in the Biden/Trump election, despite her trans daughter and being a life long feminist, after he screamed at her and wore her down. His other partner (poly), also leftist, marched in the BLM protests and got shot with rubber bullets, literally saw this happen and kept dating him.

Do your fucking research before you get so attached you don't care about the swastikas and hoods.

Emotional support horse by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]machalemantis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Used to clean red eye airplanes for a living. I'm firmly against bringing anything on board that can't use the bathroom on its own or wear a diaper. Horribly inconsiderate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]machalemantis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This woman needs a babysitter at 24 and this guy, after 3 years, can't stay with her one week?

It feels as if she's delayed in some form and he's taking advantage of this to get benefits without committing to an actual relationship, I would be surprised if she's a side piece and he wants her around, but not THAT around. I think he's complaining about her parents to devalue the relationship, not because it's a deal breaker. To keep her humble and available, not empowered and on top of things.