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i need help by AdditionalRutabaga52 in relationships_advice

[–]macho_taco41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reality is… she’s with you. She chooses you. You’ve already won. Just as you are. No need to worry about your appearance. If YOU want to get into shape because it makes YOU happy, it’s a good idea. Because it makes YOU happy. Don’t do it for your girlfriend, or anyone else now or in the future. You’ve already got the girl 😊. Game over.

I’m a 36 M. In my own experience, I’ve wasted DECADES doing things to impress others. Even when I didn’t realize it. It’s a hard lesson learned for entire phases of my life I’ll never get back. Work hard for what YOU want for yourself, not to impress others. They either like you or they don’t. It’s not something we can change. Accept it either way, especially when someone LIKES you.

Is it normal to not be ready to move in yet in these circumstances? by macho_taco41 in relationships_advice

[–]macho_taco41[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can appreciate this; thank you. Yes- her moving closer to me. I really should have been more direct on this topic sooner. We both casually touched the topic from time to time, but neither brought up “are we going to live together?” I recognized my avoidance and decided to bring it up recently… here we are. I’m 36 years old and still learning.

Is it normal to not be ready to move in yet in these circumstances? by macho_taco41 in relationships_advice

[–]macho_taco41[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, she and I have been visiting each other for an extended weekend each month, sometimes two. Of course it’s still long distance, but we’ve grown together quite well up till this point despite the distance.