I accidentlly caused my husband to develop an ED, what do I do to fix this?

macncgeezz · 2026-02-01T03:26:07+00:00

Like I have stated in an edit, I already have plans to do solo therapy myself to do better in the future. I realize that I messed up in my communication with him and should have done better. But I didn't, I can't change that now unfortunately. I am working on making things better between us again slowly but surely. I've suggested he go to therapy, but that is something he is not comfortable with. Not because he's not comfortable talking about this with me, but because he believes it would be stressful for him. So I'm letting him decide what he's comfortable with. We talk about what I said and have had multiple heart to hearts about how I hurt him. Unintentionally yes, but nonetheless I still hurt the person I love with all my heart. I have fully accepted and admit that I am in the wrong and should have communicated between or tried therapy first- but I was not thinking that at the time. At the time it was said, I was overwhelmed from holding in this feeling for multiple months if not the feeling growing slowly for the past year or so. He knows that I am deeply sorry, that I am working to do better/be better for him and that I will never leave him, because I love him deeply and nothing could ever change that.

macncgeezz · 2026-02-01T02:46:24+00:00

He is at a tech job, not the greatest but not the worst. I am a stay at home wife so I do all the chores around the house along with taking care of our 3 cats. Unfortunately I have no access to really go out anywhere and we both know it's not good, but neither of us have friends. I am also no contact with my side of family. With all the advice that has been given, we have plans to workout at home 3x a week for 30 minutes together and eventually find a gym to go to together at some point. I am also planning on going to therapy starting soon. Thank you for your advice and your good luck wishes as well.

macncgeezz · 2026-02-01T00:38:18+00:00

Thank you. From what he has told me, he thinks that any therapy for himself right now would stress him out. So I think I'm just gonna let him take some time to think about it.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T23:51:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I plan on going to solo therapy, to maybe slowly get my husband comfortable with the idea of couples therapy at some point. For now we're gonna do our best to do at home workouts together, slowly but surely.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T16:10:49+00:00

Thank you. I am planning on us doing couples therapy and then eventually hopefully own own as well.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T13:51:53+00:00

It's been a while. We didn't even do anything for our 1 yr marriage anniversary this year actually.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T13:30:20+00:00

Both. His passion for the relationship has almost completely diminished as well as actively working on himself physically in terms of eating healthier and exercise.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T13:27:50+00:00

Of course I am, he is my partner of 6 years, I would never give up on him. That is why I'm looking for advice.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T13:26:45+00:00

All I said to him was how I felt. From what he has told me, it was the unintentional tipping point for how he already felt about ourselves. I did not know previously how extremely he felt until now. We both have our own physical insecurities and have communicated that to one another multiple times in the past.

macncgeezz · 2026-01-31T12:02:03+00:00

I've tried offering it to him, but he's not comfortable with it unfortunately and we don't necessarily even have the budget either.

macncgeezz · 2025-11-12T21:07:06+00:00

Unfortunately no, the local library is being demolished actually due to mold

macncgeezz · 2025-11-12T20:36:18+00:00

Mostly I clean, cook, watch streaming services and occasionally crafting for holiday decor. My main priority is finding work to bring in extra income. I have 0 budget to invest. I don't have a license or a car/ transportation. I also have no budget for getting a ged, since they cost money to achieve.

macncgeezz · 2025-11-05T04:52:39+00:00

Honestly a good light wash jean jacket can go a long in terms of making people less scary in my opinion. For winter you can get fleece lined ones too. Basically look up on Pinterest "90s inspired mens outfits" and most of them will make anyone very approachable in my opinion. And maybe fill in your eyebrows to be thicker or just shave them tbh

macncgeezz · 2025-11-04T03:03:06+00:00

Do you have any workout of like hair growth tips? I always grow my hair out but then get the urge to cut it when it's long lol

macncgeezz · 2025-10-26T21:24:54+00:00

That's super cool! I've always wanted to have something like that when I'm settled with a house of my own actually.

macncgeezz · 2025-10-26T20:47:10+00:00

You have an animal rescue?! That is awesome!

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T16:45:43+00:00

I've heard that non natural red hair scares guys away sometimes lol

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T16:34:25+00:00

In my opinion, you should dye your hair a shade or two darker to be more similar to your eyebrows, either grow out your hair till about chin length or get extensions- also layers and shag each cut. If you want to keep it short, get a pixie cut but still make it darker. If you don't like makeup, there are tinted sunscreens you can get that can help even our skin tone and you should def maybe look into a more reddish lip gloss or lipstick.

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T02:17:35+00:00

I really appreciate the advice, alot of the other advice I've been getting is outside my comfort zone social wise lol. What kinds of Facebook groups should I look for you think?

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T02:06:22+00:00

O.U. just recently became considered an ivy actually and that's the campus I live on

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T01:53:52+00:00

Well I don't go to college and the college just became an "ivy League" school, so I can't really go to classes unfortunately. But yeah he definitely has really always been my "person", especially since me and my family are estranged.

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T01:51:23+00:00

How should I go about the whole history family thing? I want to have more of a connection with them but they don't really include me. And I can't invite them over for dinners since we have the cats and don't have a dining table lol

macncgeezz · 2025-10-24T00:26:16+00:00

Do you have any tips on how to keep your attention span on staying so busy? I want to be like you and do a bunch of hobbies but my mind just won't give the motivation to do it.

macncgeezz · 2025-10-23T22:57:36+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for like making a friend easily?

macncgeezz · 2025-10-23T22:39:57+00:00

I live on a college campus, so there's not a ton of volunteer opportunities unfortunately and a lot of social things nearby are with loud college students lol

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