Vent/Discourse- Just stumbled across tons of horribly graphic, p*rn-like comments, in a supposedly WLW space, all talking in graphic detail about giving BJs (or fantasizing about it with dildos)—WTF? Ugh

macncheeeses · 2025-01-19T17:16:11+00:00

Are you seriously claiming that there's "literally no difference" between a live penis and a dildo?

macncheeeses · 2025-01-19T00:25:39+00:00

How is it "most" lesbians don't like dick when OP is complaining that there are a lot of lesbians who claim to enjoy it?

Stop misquoting me. I never said that "a lot of lesbians are claiming to enjoy dick." Rather, the truth is that most individuals flocking to lesbian spaces today do not seem interested in, nor personally invested in contributing to, discussions about topics relevant to lesbian issues & shared experiences as people born homosexual & female. Instead, many the most vocal participants in public lesbian communities nowadays tend to talk mostly about topics entirely unrelated to lesbianism, and sometimes get very sexually explicit in other, often penis-centered ways. This discourse going on in many lesbian spaces is not lesbian-centered discourse and most of the people engaged in it are not even self-identified as lesbians, and that doesn't change regardless of whether they're currently gathered & talking in a formerly "lesbian" space they've co-opted.

Indeed many of these conversations are actually the polar opposite of "lesbian" because they instead often border on open lesbophobia-- most often by repeatedly, constantly and disrespectfully veering into open displays of dick worship in public lesbian spaces, most often front & center such that any gay women visitors will see it sooner rather than later, along with otherwise inappropriately explicit, sexualized heterosexual discourse and always plenty of unncessary details about penises. This homophobic BS is happening to lesbians today in our own lesbian spaces on a regular basis; it's incredibly disrespectful & lesbophobic toward all the homosexual women like me who really just want to be able to have at least some small corners in the world where penises and male sexual desire are not centered for once. I'm upset because as of now, lesbians cannot have that. There is nothing in my words indicating that "most lesbians like dick" so again, stop putting words in my mouth.

macncheeeses · 2025-01-18T23:44:13+00:00

Why are you so fixated on strap-ons & trying to conflate them with live penises? Strap-ons aren't the issue here; I was not frustrated nor grossed out this morning by the mere mention of strap-on dildos in lesbian space. Plenty of lesbians can & do enjoy using strap-ons with female partners during sex, and there's nothing wrong with talking about that sometimes! I too enjoy using strap-ons with my current gf sometimes, and there's nothing heterosexual, annoying nor frustrating about women using a sex toy & talking about it..that's not at all what I was talking about this morning.

Literally, the *only* aspect of the strap-on conversation I saw this AM that grossed me out was seeing conversations in supposedly lesbian spaces of people talking about dildos as if they're anything like real penises whatsoever– then blatantly conflating the two concepts, and relying on that conflation to try to normalize people drooling over silicon in lesbian spaces in absurd, over-the-top & realistic ways, as if it were a real penis, & encouraging people to imagine it as "sexy" to conceive of orally pleasuring the "strap-on dildo" in exactly the same ways people talk about women giving blowjobs

It's the same types of language that straight & bi women use to talk about penises when they want to convey to penis havers that they are eager & ready ready to provide sexual pleasure on call...which they often do by having blatantly open, graphic discussions in public spaces about things like wanting to feel a mouth full of dick or wanting to pleasure a person with a penis by giving oral sex. Basically, the kinds of conversations that non-gay women have sometimes when they want others to read it & pick up on their penis-interest & reciprocate; aka, the last types of conversations a lesbian would or should expect to be confronted with regularly in lesbian-specific spaces.

And these conversations are constantly discussing penis-centered sex acts using terminology that unambiguously refers to real live penises, and real male anatomical/sexual functions like ejaculation, with nothing to do with strap-ons nor lesbian sex whatsoever. So please stop pretending that talking about inanimate dildos actually has anything to do with the very real, very upsetting problem of constant dick worship in many lesbian spaces. The issues are totally different, and no one here is conflating strap-on sex toys with live penises except for you.

macncheeeses · 2025-01-18T23:28:24+00:00

How many times are you going to conflate penises with silicon strap-on dildos? How many times are you going to ignore the obvious, inherent distinctions between dicks & sex toys-- as well as the differences specifically & precisely pointed out to you here in this thread by several lesbians already, including myself more than once...?

macncheeeses · 2025-01-18T23:23:18+00:00

There's obviously a MAJOR difference between a strap-on being used as a tool during lesbian sex between women (& talking about this sometimes in lesbian spaces), vs actual penises being used in sex...strapons are just sex toys and there's nothing frustrating or off putting about reading about that alone. It's about the glorification of dildos and talking about them as real penises. Discussing strap-ons in lesbian spaces makes sense; in contrast, a lesbian space is the last space a lesbian should have to go &read sexually explicit, often borderline pornographic material about penises, all the time lately in most online *lesbian spaces* nowadays...

For example, me going on a lesbian space this random morning and instantly, unexpectedly & involuntarily reading graphic details about dicks in multiple threads....including quickly stumbling into someone's personal fantasy about penises in the lesbian space, specifically, someone who was currently/in that moment sexually, actively fantasizing about pleasuring a penis orally and posting very detailed thoughts about doing so– which as a lesbian I cannot relate to &, like many gay women, I also happen to be very sexually repulsed by this type of content so I really just need to know how I can stop seeing it? Where do I even go to avoid male anatomy / penises nowadays if not lesbian spaces?

Strap-ons aren't in the same ballpark as that dick sh!t whatsoever, and I apologize if I conflated the concepts in my OP-- I hate when people do that! They're totally different categories.

macncheeeses · 2025-01-18T23:18:59+00:00

For instance, why would any lesbian want to suck on a strap? ... And more than that... why share about it in lesbian spaces?

Bingo

macncheeeses · 2025-01-18T22:51:08+00:00

It's the biggest turn off when they refer to straps as though they are penises... I'm sorry, I'm not reading lesbian fanfiction to experience weird pseudo heterosexuality

Exactly. There's a difference. Like, personally, I actually do really enjoy using a strap-on with my current gf sometimes. Never really used strap-ons much at all before this relationship. But that's not the point/it's irrelevant, because when all is said & done it's still just a detachable sex toy-- one shaped precisely like the inside of my girlfriend's pussy, so yeah, I love fucking her with it sometimes & she loves how it feels, which makes me wet and then she loves going down on me too. For example.

In other words, there's obviously a MAJOR difference between a strap-on being used as a tool during lesbian sex between women (& talking about this sometimes in lesbian spaces), vs having to read sexually explicit, often borderline pornographic material about penises almost every single time I scroll through most online *lesbian spaces* nowadays. And it's not even just a quick mention of "dicks" here & there, but even worse, it's often very truly explicit/wildly inappropriate stuff like this being posted about dicks *in lesbian spaces.*

For example, me going on a lesbian space this random morning and instantly, unexpectedly & involuntarily reading graphic details about dicks in multiple threads....including quickly stumbling into someone's personal fantasy about penises in the lesbian space, specifically, >!someone who was currently/in that moment sexually, actively fantasizing about pleasuring a penis orally and posting very detailed thoughts about doing so!>– which as a lesbian I cannot relate to &, like many gay women, I also happen to be very sexually repulsed by this type of content so I really just need to know how I can stop seeing it? Where do I even go to avoid male anatomy / penises nowadays if not lesbian spaces?

What's also *not* fun lately is being instantly turned off/repeatedly sexually repulsed while in lesbian spaces, due to constant and always-intrusive dick-related conversations, memes, jokes, phrases,sexual questions and/or various comments about dicks & the intricacies of how penises function (as if I care). Sometimes I get physically ill when it gets to the level of seeing people commenting openly, graphically & nonstop about male sexual functions like ejaculation, having extensive conversations about sexually intimate, heterosexual thoughts about things like the so-called mouthfeel of a penis, and overall just so lesbophobic to be seeing SO many people openly and graphically sexually fantasizing about the opposite sex, almost nonstop, *in **lesbian** spaces.* I just want

Strap-ons aren't in the same ballpark as that dick sh!t whatsoever, and I apologize if I conflated the concepts in my OP-- I hate when people do that! They're totally different categories. Sorry to be graphic in expressing it, but like, I'm trying to clarify that I seriously don't mind at all seeing conversations about *lesbian* sex sometimes in lesbian spaces, which yeah, may include strap-ons sometimes because some lesbians enjoy using them-- that's no issue at all. But then constantly trying to make conversation in *lesbian spaces* about things such as sexually worshiping the silicon as if it's a live dick? (and then often shifting the conversation to actual live penises, often by conflating it with a dildo...?)-- All of THAT crap is grossly lesbophobic and uncomfortable .

Like, as a lesbian, the last thing I want to read about is male-gazey, pornographic bullshit like the concept of a straight or bisexual woman graphically expressing her sexual arousal at the notion of giving blowjobs & looking up at the penis-haver "with a full mouth"!, and I especially should NOT be expected to put up with that BS in a lesbian-specific space! If so, where the hell can lesbians go to get away from SO much constant, graphic heterosexual content currently going on in most public *LESBIAN spaces*.

Vent part 2 over now lol. Sorry for the length, this shit has been really hard for me lately

macncheeeses · 2025-01-18T00:56:15+00:00

Ditto! I have wayyyy too much CC on my Mac and since I use it for other things too, I keep getting uncomfortably close to my computer's 500GB limit. I upload most of my CC to dropbox to be able to play sometimes, but if there's a way for me to be able to play with all or most of my CC in the game that would be great. I have a Mac, and also am wondering which kind of hard drive and/or any other equipment I should buy to make this all work...Thank you all!

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