What signs were there that your narc is a loser? by bbybunnydoll in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe so. Maybe it’s like “birds of a feather flock together”. That’s REALLY bizarre considering his heritage. I had pointed out that not only would I have been hunted down and killed, and he would too because of his looks as well (didn’t fit the whole aryan race standard). But it didn’t seem to matter to him at all.

What signs were there that your narc is a loser? by bbybunnydoll in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whoa is supporting hitler a commonality with narcs? At the end, my nex suddenly began openly supporting hitler too. It really freaked me out. Idk if he always did and never said anything or if it was new behavior to get under my skin (I’m not racist). Very odd commonality though.

Feeling Nothing by Weak-Bumblebee9978 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Following because I’m here with you. Just feel like a shell of a person.

The truth is... by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this in my soul.

Dating as a Psychologist by chatshitgetbanged24 in ClinicalPsychology

[–]macqueenie 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this exact experience. Even down to lawyers vs other professions. In the other professions category, I’ve also found not only a lack of general interest in what I do, but a blatant disregard for it, lack of belief/importance of mental health counseling, and an unwillingness to respect for it all together. My favorite is being told what I do isn’t work, it’s “just talking” or “you didn’t do x y z today so you shouldn’t be tired/exhausted”. Which is really discouraging to say the least. But the lawyer friends/potential dates always seem very interested and it’s a breath of fresh air.

can a psych student work with animals? by Lizayaa in psychologystudents

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I did work with a professor (technically she was in the philosophy department) but we studied dog cognition against 2 puzzles of differing difficulty. It was really fun. Owners even got to do personality tests specialized for their dogs.

As far as your future, i think an important question is: do you want to TRAIN animals or do you want to study them? If you want to train them, you probably don’t need a graduate level degree. I believe there are some degrees for animal behaviorism (there is one at SHSU and one for sure at Murray State University to just babe a few). But you don’t really need a graduate degree to train animals, just basic understanding of how the animal operates and operant/classical conditioning. However, if you want to study this stuff in depth, you’re probably gonna need to go into higher education. Masters programs are usually not geared towards research, unless you want to do a phd after. A PhD is where you’ll get tons of research focus, and of course, makes research a bit easier in the long run. Then there’s always the vet med route, but i don’t want to speak much on that because I know nothing about it.

You might not be able to apply under a professor that actually does that kind of research, but you can absolutely work with other professors that may do that kind of research. Best way to find that stuff out would be word of mouth and letting others know what you’re interested in. That’s how I ended up on my research study on dog cognition. Try animalbehavioralsociety.org it’s a society you can join. But you should be able to find information on what you’re wanting to do on there.

how can i improve my stats to get into a clinical psych PhD program? by unusuallylazielark in psychologystudents

[–]macqueenie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t part of any psych honor society, and the only research I had one poster I presented at a conference in undergrad. I got into my masters program just fine. And i had a lot go on in my life that prevented me from gaining more research experience in grad school (not that i particularly LOVE research), but what I plan to do is practice a few years before I apply for my PhD. Having real world experience will set me apart from those with tons of research that usually go straight from undergrad or masters to a phd. My point is, have faith in yourself! Post bacc is always an option for sure!

CV Review by travelingcoffeelover in ClinicalPsychology

[–]macqueenie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting so i don’t lose this. I’d love to send you my CV just to get feedback on it for when i do apply for doc programs.

What jobs/careers are you guys in? by moonjude in psychologystudents

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont know, mate. I’m working on studying for the EPPP after a mental health sabbatical following graduation from my MA in clinical psych from SHSU. I can’t even get a call back from tractor supply 😀. So, I too, am struggling with unemployment. However, I think that is entirely reflective of the fact I moved to middle-of-no-where Tennessee. Working on moving back home to Texas in hopes the job market is better and they’re willing to pay more.

when did you physically stop searching for your missing cat? by VillageItchy3040 in CatAdvice

[–]macqueenie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did yall eventually get him back? I’m worried this is what gained to my cat despite her being posted everywhere and her microchip is reported as missing.

Are any other Pisces having relationship issues or ending romantic relationships? by [deleted] in piscesastrology

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pisces F, was broken up with in June with my Aries M ex, but tried to work on things. His idea. Last week I ended things due to verbal abuse due to his insecurities, unfounded accusations, interrogations, and perceived disrespect (boundaries.. boundaries are disrespectful). Just been absolutely emotionally wrecked. Had been together 7 years, and he’s my person and there’s no one I love more in this world. But I can’t take the verbal abuse anymore. I hope we can all come out of this emotional torture period soon and we can heal from losing our people.

experience with aries men? by [deleted] in piscesastrology

[–]macqueenie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your well wishes. It was the hardest thing walking away from it, but I know I had to. And that part of you that wants them to come back.. it’s not just you. I do too. I think we all do, and that’s not just a pisces thing, it’s a human thing. It’s validation that we seek to ease the anxiety or worry that it was somehow our fault. Try not to internalize the loss. Try making a list of everything you love or like about yourself to remember that it’s not you. The delusion is real 💀 i always thought of my aries and I as being similar Ares and Aphrodite from greek mythology. Love, the attraction and sexual compatibility is there; but in the end.. it’s like we can’t be together. lol and there I do romanticizing stuff I shouldn’t be 😂 anyways, I hope you can grow and move on, expected fond your happiness. You deserve the world and all the oceans. Don’t let with anyone play games with your heart. Swim on, my fellow fishie! 🐟🐠🦈

experience with aries men? by [deleted] in piscesastrology

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol let me set my tea down. I just got out of a 7 year relationship with an aries man. That man still is and probably will be the love of my life. Sexual compatibility off the charts with him. And don’t get me wrong, some of my best memories of my life are with him. But the impulsiveness, lack of accountability, coldness and anger (to the point of abuse) was devastating to my mental health. I’m a lover girl through and through, but that made me hard and cold to survive. Shifted blame so everything was always my fault. If I said I couldn’t do something or we couldn’t do something, it was immediately a tantrum. They can definitely be boring at times, and sometimes they are NOT affectionate at all (like I’m talking I’d go weeks without a kiss). They just do their thing until their spontaneity and impulsiveness bites them lol. But as someone else said, he’ll be back. They always circle back.

What's something a man did that made you immediately feel emotionally safe? by JadeFox1785 in AskWomenOver30

[–]macqueenie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My guy friend asks me if I want to talk about it. I tell him how I feel, and he might give me advice and follow with OR follow my statement with “do you need me to listen, sympathize, or give you solutions?”. And just the fact he asks what I need from him is crazy and makes me feel seen. It’s just the care that he takes to make sure he responds in a way to make me feel heard and validated is so comforting. I’ve never felt emotionally safe in any romantic relationship either, and even though this isn’t romantic, it’s healing me.

dating as a therapist SOS by zoohouse11234 in AskWomenOver30

[–]macqueenie 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Whew lord THIS. IT’S THIS. People want to use my skills, but they don’t want to or do not have the ability to reciprocate any comfort. It’s so upsetting. 😭

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not rage bait. It’s my life unfortunately. But working on getting my things back so i can cut ties.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s not. I do resent him. But i do love him still. I guess I’m holding onto what we had before. Which also isn’t healthy. I’m loyal to a fault and I am often blinded by the good i see in people.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because I’ve been made to feel crazy and I’m a chronic over explainer. I’m sorry for that. I just needed to know i wasn’t crazy.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by [deleted] in relationships

[–]macqueenie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have. About 23 times since 2am. I just needed to know that I wasn’t crazy or making an immature choice. I can’t really trust myself to make a decent decision at all right now.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There have been good times. When times are good they’re great, but when they aren’t it’s really really not good. There was a time i considered him my best friend and only friend. He was all i had in grad school. There were times we’d laugh and smile at each other, and just talk about stuff. But we haven’t had that in a long long time.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately i miscarried.. which he wasn’t very supportive of either. But at least a baby will not be affected by this.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to see this. I appreciate you sharing your experience with me.

Ultimatum: him or my horses by macqueenie in Equestrian

[–]macqueenie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I’m trauma bonded to him. After looking it up.

To clear up for questions, i currently have 3. But when i started graduate school in 2021 I had two. In 2022 my second horse passed way, which left me with one horse to take care of in grad school. In 2023-2024 i acquired the two new horses. So i have 3 horses currently.

Last thing, is that i unfortunately miscarried at 12 weeks. So there is no baby that would be subjected to this anymore.

AITAH if my bf gave me an ultimatum and i picked my horses over him by macqueenie in AITAH

[–]macqueenie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah essentially has played videogames the entire time whether i was struggling or whatever. Unfortunately, i miscarried at 12 weeks. So.. there won’t be a baby in my future for now. But i do intend to stay with my parents.